Do guys feel disappointed when their previous girlfriend had big boobs or butt and then their new girlfriend has small boobs or butt?

[Anonymous]

How do I get over the insecurity? He says he doesn't mind my small size, but all his ex girlfriends had huge breasts. How do I even compare when mine are so small? He told me he loves his ex girlfriends breasts but he only likes mine. He says mine are ok and I need to get over it. But he said he loves theirs and only likes mine? How can I not be insecure when they were huge and mine are small? Is he really saying mine are a disappointment to him?

[LilyTaylor]

Did you ask him? Because he did no party foul if *you* asked him if he prefers bigger breasts. You want him to be honest right? If you are stradling him and freakin nibbling on his ear or soemthing and he all of a sudden pipes up "Y'know i loved my ex's breasts, but i like yours" then he's a freakin douchebag. Timing is key. You need to just be okay enough with yourself to believe that he loves you for you too. Boobs are great. I have big breasts, and I've had people say they prefer smaller ones. Who cares? Boobs are literally balls of fat attatched to your chest. Someday when you are older, they are going to be saggy, and I'll bet you your man is still gonna love you and fight with you and laugh with you and have sex with you. Boobs are overated. You honestly just need to love yourself to get over the insecurity. Don't look to a boy to fix an insecurity. Grab your girls, thank the good lord that you don't have cut them off for medical reasons, and find something else to nitpick like student loans. :)

[Asker]

It's easy for you to say that because the majority of men love big breasts.

[LilyTaylor]

That's all you got out of that? I shouldn't have said I have big boobs. My point is that there's two sides to everything.

[Asker]

Yeah two unbalanced sides. Most men want large breasts and are disappointed when she has small ones. Very few guys like A cups, and even less like AA cups, not when there's well endowed women running around. I feel I should just give up on dating because I'll never compare.

[Schnikies]

I think he could have been a bit more sensitive to you feeling may be but women come in all shapes and sizes... And I can tell you your insecurity will drive a wedge between you if you don't get a grip. I have stayed friends with a few of my ex's and I know that can be hard enough to accept but I have dated people who have had serious self esteem issues or body image issues and they always compair themselves... Why do you girls do it to yourselves? If it was that big a deal, we wouldn't have been interested in the first place.

[Asker]

Why would he say that? He knows how much I hate my small breasts. And that just made me hate them more

[Schnikies]

Guys do sometimes just say stupid things sometimes... Can't reasonably try to defend what he said or how it made you feel but you should talk to him about it... If he can't take you feelings in to account and make you feel better about yourself, maybe he's not the right guy?

[Najii]

Because he is a jerk thats why he said that, and think again if you still want to be with him honestly. There are a lot of guys out there that won't be making you feel so insecure about yourself and who are not jerks and it is all those little things that do matter in a relationship.

[Flat4]

Hmmmmm

Are big tits hot when the girl has no confidence? Not as hot as they can be

Are small tits hot when the girl has no confidence? Also not as hot as they can be!

You need to work with the little weapons of sexyness that you have and make him wonder why he would ever want big tits again!

The girl on the right for example is clearly tiny on top but she looks so damn hot because she's so confident.
https://ep0.xhcdn.com/000/055/550/388_1000.jpg

Hope that helps?

[Flat4]

It won't always feel like this with every guy either. I LOVE my gf's little breasts and think they look and feel incredible... I know there's not 1 part of her that that doesn't know how much they turn me on. I hope you find ls that too!

[Argus14]

I don't mind it. I see it akin to eating the same kind of food everyday. No matter what the food is you are going be happy to get some variety in your life once you switch foods.

[Asker]

He says he still loves one of his ex girlfriends breasts in particular. And he said he only likes mine.

[Shmusername]

One thing to consider is that, since you don't look like them, he isn't trying to just use you as a replacement for them. You get to be your own person.

[Asker]

So he thinks I'm ugly?

[Shmusername]

What? No! Why would you think that's what I was getting at? No! What I'm saying is that he may see more to you than your breasts. Or maybe he's just a jerk and puts down all his girlfriends. The point is that you need to stop worrying about his exes. He isn't with them, he's with you.

[Asker]

He says that, but its hard to stop comparing when they were larger and he said he loved their large breasts and then I tell him I absolutely hate my small breasts and he says he likes them. I feel bad because he still loves their large breasts and he only likes mine. We've been together for almost two years. And he still doesn't love all of me. I never really liked hairy guys and he's very hairy and I love his hairy back and chest and can't imagine him without it. I feel like I shouldn't be dating because I'm so insecure. How will I ever compare to larger women? My only hope is breast implants at this point.

[Shmusername]

I think you might be reading a little too much into his words. I will never advocate cosmetic surgery for something that isn't reconstructive. The only woman you need to measure up to is yourself. NOT the women that he is no longer with. If you need confidence about your breast size you need only look at all the other breast preference questions on this site. For every man that loves D-cups, there's a man that loves B's, or A's, or C's or even HH. The fact that he's been with you for two years indicates to me that he loves your breasts, or, more importantly, that the size of them doesn't matter to him. And should the day come that he asks you to get implants (I doubt that day will come), that will be the day that you learn he wasn't meant for you.

[Asker]

He's completely against implants. He says real are better than fakes. I still want them because he likes larger. And the majority of men prefer larger. Honestly, I've never met anyone IRL who likes smaller. I have a feeling these guys who say they like As or B cups are being dishonest to make us smaller women feel better. I've never heard any man IRL say smaller is better. It's always big breasts that are the rage.

[Shmusername]

Let me first ask you a question. Do you have any pet peeves?

[Asker]

No. I don't

[Shmusername]

Really? Nothing? Not even the tiniest thing? Like people chewing with their mouths open, or guys that scratch themselves in public?

[Asker]

No. Public spitters. I don't like people spitting in public. Are you saying he views my small breasts like I view public spitters?

[Shmusername]

Not at all, bear with me here. When you notice someone spitting in public, do you find that you keep noticing it. Maybe you keep catching him spitting, or you start seeing more people doing it? You just find it impossible to ignore?

[Asker]

I look away because it's nasty I don't want to see it.

[Shmusername]

Okay, well what I was going to say is that YOU see your breasts like you see public spitters. It bugs you so you keep noticing it. That's the way pet peeves work for most people, you clearly have better self control in that regard :) . Anyway, you have your hangup about your breast size, so of course you're going to notice all kinds of evidence to support your insecurity, things that bug you, just like I keep noticing when people chew with their mouth open. You need to treat all those "I love huge boobs" guys like you treat public spitters. Look away. It's nasty.

[Asker]

That's impossible when one of them is my boyfriend and the rest is most of the male population.

[Shmusername]

A:Your boyfriend is into you for more than your chest. Concentrate on that. B:It isn't the majority of the male population. You're just noticing the ones that bug you. If you can stop focusing on them, you'll start to see how many men prefer smaller breasts.

[front2back]

I care more about proportion and how it looks vs size. My ex had big boobs (but no real ass, which sucks because I'm an ass guy) but they had in proportional features.

Besides, I'd care more about who she was than what satisfying abilities she has for my penis.

[Asker]

So did her small butt ever disappoint you?

[front2back]

Nope, I played with it all the time (when she's let me).

[LeRenardNoir]

For me, boob size doesn't have any bearing on how good sex is at all. Not even a factor, letalone an important one.

[Anonymous]

He does not seem respectful at all

[Anonymous]

Do girls feel disappointed when their previous boyfriend had a huge dick and their new boyfriend has an average one?

[topknots]

Not if the personality of the guy is better :)

[Asker]

No but I like smaller size. He likes larger breasts and now he's with smaller.

[topknots]

New guy, I mean

[Najii]

Lol thats what i always kept in mind if my bf ever says anything rude about my size, ill always have something like that to say but he is a good guy so i never had a chance of saying that. But it does help me grow past my insecurity.

[Anonymous]

He's being a little rude by comparing sizes betweens his exes and If he really likes you size won't matter

[Asker]

He said that he loves me as a person so he doesn't care about how small they are and only likes them. But he loved all of them and loved their large breasts.

[Opinion Owner]

Said he loves you as a person doesn't really mean he loves you and your body, and he's still being rude by saying that

[Asker]

So he doesn't think I'm good looking?

[Opinion Owner]

He probably does he just doesn't think you have a nice "rack"

[Asker]

This is why I don't like dating. How can I compare to these women? I think I'm better off single because I'm too insecure.

[Opinion Owner]

Not your fault its your boyfriends fault he shouldn't be comparing girls if he really likes you. If he really likes you he wouldn't be be comparing you