wow thanks girl that helps a lot you're so kind :p
And what is falling in love with the actual person?
When we first meet someone, sometimes we'll form an idea about what that person is like. It might be based on their appearance, the way they dress, their superficial interests, the initial conversations we have with them, etc.But your assumptions might not be true, or they may only be part of the picture. I don't believe that you can ever know another person completely (for example, you don't know everything that goes on in another person's head), but the more time you spend with someone, the more you talk to them, the more they open up to you, the closer you get to knowing who they really are. You begin to understand their likes, dislikes, values, emotions, desires, goals, the way they behave in different situations, the way they think, their past experiences, and so on. Often two people will really like each other in the beginning stages of a relationship, but as they get to know each other, they discover things they don't like about each other, or they discover that they're
incompatible, so the relationship ends. "Falling in love with the actual person" requires actually getting to know the person (which takes time) and loving the person they show you that they are. It's also why I don't believe in "love at first sight". I don't believe you can love a person until you actually get to know them, before that, you only love the image of them that you are projecting on them. Hope that helps.
Of course that helps, but i already know that. I meant when the author said that the character was falling in love with the idea of the person, he meant that the character didn't love the person for who she is, he loved only being with her because she made him happy about himself? and what is to be loved for who she is? does he need to love her unconditionally or what?
yes, we are fucking selfish sometimes, and we complain about how things go wrong.
Yeah we are. We want love so much that we become desperate sometimes. It took him 500 days, it took me 5 years.
i can love you :p
Love me like you do lalalalove me like you do. Hahahahaha
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