It's possible she is hiding you, but posting on social media isn't the smoking gun. I had a girlfriend for almost 2 years and when we bumped into an old high school friend of hers, he asked her (in front of me) if I was her boyfriend. She umm...'d, and hesitated before saying yes. If she's hiding you from actual friends, then that's your clue.
However, if all her friends already know she's dating you, then it's a matter of personal privacy. My wife is very strict in controlling what picture she posts, and even though I wanted to post pictures of us from our last 2 vacations, she told me to make them private and accessible only to the two of us. However, I have also adapted this notion of posting almost nothing on social media. There will be no pics of our vacations, children... etc for anyone to see. No information on our personal lives, and no information on our workplace or political views.
In a way, you are overthinking it. You seem to care more about having your social life approved by your random facebook friends or old elementary school acquaintances than maintaining your personal privacy. It's possible she's gotten smart, and realized there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to gain from the online approval of nobodys. Whether they like, dislike, or feel jealous or think your vacation pics are pathetic really makes no difference to your life. However, they are a BIG liability, because anything and everything you post online is available to anyone. I have a program installed on my computer that lets me view the photos of anyone I choose, even if I am not their friends, and have no friends in common. Such a tool - in the hands of someone malicious, can really fuck up your life.
Someone wants to screw you over? I can simply access all your photos, find one of you acting immaturely, passed out drunk, writing penises on people's face, or some other stuff, and simply email it to your employer or your family. Predators can easily download photos you uploaded from your iphone, and the hidden data in the photo contains the GPS coordinates the pic was taken. So they can pinpoint it to your bedroom if they want, and god help you if you have children.
There's little to gain from advertising your personal life to the world. She may just be protecting herself.
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Well... it could be that she's just not ready for the onslaught of investigation that will go on by posting the picture. I've known people who have dated for 3-6 months before anyone else knew about them.
not everyone catches the "is in a relationship now" post but if her profile pic is her + you in it... people will want to know more.
Two important factors to take into consideration here a) How long have you been together and b) Realistically, how often does she take pictures in general? It could be that she just doesn't feel the need to take all these pictures anymore and display them on social media. If I compare the amount of photos I post now versus 2 years ago with my previous ex then it becomes clear I just in general post a whole lot less. It has nothing to do with my current boyfriend whom I love. I just don't feel the need or desire to document everything on social media anymore. Also with my last relationship, it was all very public and when we broke up, it actually just made things worse that we were that public. I enjoy keeping some things a bit more private.
However with all this said, you are perfectly allowed to want certain things in a relationship and if to you it is important and will be cute or loving, then there is nothing wrong with asking her to give you a bit more attention on social media. We all have our own needs and quirks and it is OK to feel this way. If she is a understanding girlfriend, she should be willing to do this for you. It is not asking too much and it should feel good to show you off a little ;)
I'm sorry but why do you feel the need to flaunt your relationship all over facebook? Honestly do you not realize how annoying that is? It's on par with people that post pictures of their babies. Stop it. Stop it.
Do you ever stop to realize that the exes she posted heaps of pictures of wound up becoming her exes? That being different to her exes might be a good thing?
Why do your friends even care? Why do they want to keep tabs on everything you two do? It's Facebook it's not important in any way shape or form.
I get if you feel unappreciated in your relationship, that can happen especially for the guys because typically girls don't bring you flowers just cause they felt like it. But you need to address that actual issue with her and stop with the stupid Facebook complaints.
It's facebook no-one actually cares about what you are doing with your life unless they are stalking you.
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Is she is overwhelmed with passion and love for you then she will want to tell the world. she will brag about what great a guy you are. It may be lame but its what we do in love.
If she hides pictures of you then she is ashamed, something is wrong, or she has an abuse ex boyfriend. I would say the forner is most likely. She is ashsmed or emberrassed about dating you.
Unlike what many of these people say... to have your relationship publically validated shows respect toward you and your relationship. To conceal your relationship invites a public representation of being single to suitable bachelors. They may not date on Facebook but everyone knows people interested in us will look at our Facebook.
I dated a girl for 3 months who listed she was "seeing someone " on our dating profile in the website we met but "single" on Facebook. She only posted one picture of us together. Both of us introduced one another to friends. But after she dumped me 2 days ago... I admitted the public validation did hurt ny feelings.
There is nothing wrong about feeling hurt when your relationship isn't publically v as validated. You are human are deserve that feeling of joy that someone admires you. Dont listen to what these people say.
Women know each others' games and will defend their secrets at all cost. The truth is that most women line up a group of back benchers to date when a relationship fails. They want the goodies of dating under wraps while in the same breath appealing to men who are richer, have higher status, etc. The women saying its no big deal are the very women engaging in this monkey branching from one guy to the next. They dont want you to be enlightened to know that we as men are in to their games.
Ask her point blank why she doesn't post pics. Watch her squirm. Watch her lie and say she forgot or itd no big deal or privacy etc. Bullshit. Women are always entertaining new eligible suitors. Even in marriage.
Think about it. If she really is in love with you, thinks you're a great guy, thinks youd be a great father to her children. Etc. Would she really think to keep you a secret? If you were prince harry or brad Pitt? No. there's something wrong here.It's Simple Here, dear, She may Want you Near But not on her FB to Explain to Anyone, hun, You.
I don't think it is So much she is 'Ashamed' but is Playing a Game, Where who Knows how it Goes and just who is Connected to her Ex of a Friend of a Friend.
It's Disrespectful. My sister Does it to Me. xxWhat matters is that she is your gf- no one should feel they have to update everything on social media anyway.
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It sounds like she is more into herself than she is into this relationship.
I would find that suspicious as well, especially since she does have pictures of her exes up and regularly posts her own. I don't think a ton of relationship pictures are needed in order to make a statement, but some are clearly in order.
For all the people complaining about not putting one's relationship all over the net, well. That's part of socializing nowadays. You can't get around it. At least some acknowledgement should be given to your significant other unless there are extenuating reasons why it is not wise to post any of your private life (i. e. you're a celeb). With most people, that's not the case and posting an every once in a while picture of/with your SO is reasonable. Public acknowledgement can solidify a relationship and make one's commitment stronger because of the support you will get from others who see you as a couple rather than single entities. So in a way, seeing those pictures will give other people a chance to root for you. Her saying she will lose followers if she posts you sounds extremely shallow and self-centered. I would lose her if I were you.This could depend on circumstances. When I first friended my boyfriend on Facebook, I noticed he had a few old pictures with his ex-girlfriend on there. But he got off social media before we really got serious because he had enough of it. Whilst I know he posted pictures of him and his ex, I also know he was a completely different person back then. One who liked social media, whereas now he doesn't. Also, I actually feel a lot more serious to him because actually I'm not just a girlfriend to show off or flaunt on social media. He cares less about that but more about spending actual time with me.
In your case, it may be that your girlfriend just doesn't want her personal life all over social media like she used to. Even if my boyfriend still had Facebook I don't know if I'd be posting every aspect of it all the time. I also see my page as MY page not OUR page so maybe she doesn't see it as a platform for relationship stuff anymore. It is possible that she doesn't add pictures with you in due to likes - unfortunately a lot of people actually care about those likes and a lot of guys won't like a picture of a girl they find attractive with another dude in the picture. So yes she might be avoiding it for that reason. But if she is that doesn't mean she doesn't love you or care about you - she could just be someone who thinks a lot of getting those likes/social media obsessed, because sadly that's the world we live in.What's your point? Lol. I am actually the same way as your girlfriend and I tell my girlfriend not to post me on social media either. Hell... even on all my social media pages, I am listed as single. But, then again, I am never really on social media.
The world doesn't need to know how much your girlfriend loves you or how much you love your girlfriend. The world does not need to know your relationship status. The world does not need to know about your business with your girlfriend. That's between you too.
I don't post my relationship on social media, because the world doesn't need to know. What I have with my girlfriend is special and posting pictures isn't going to improve our relationship. Also... social media is very judgmental these days. What's the point?
And the reason your girlfriend doesn't post anything about you on social media is probably because she had bad experiences in the past. For example, my girlfriend told me she used to post everything about her past relationships online, and when they failed, she would have to take down everything or she would feel embarrassed or people would get into her business, so she decided to keep things to herself.
I feel that it is sad that we are at the point with technology where if you don't post pictures on social media, it is not looked at as normal. Who cares about the "new normal"? People don't need to know your business.Yeah, get over it. Not everything needs to be shown to everyone on FB, not even relationships. If she was truly hiding you, she wouldn't have accepted your relationship request, and she wouldn't want to be seen with you in public. Some people are just more private than others and don't feel the need to share everything on FB. Don't compare your relationship to your friends' relationships. I honestly find it to be really awkward when people on FB gush about their SO, it's such a weird thing to do and even more awkward when they break up.
I'm not one to post anything much on social media, let alone my personal life. I keep things between me and the person. I don't like posting any photos and don't need to flaunt my relationship. I think Facebook relationships are useless and would do it if it meant that much to my partner but would think it was weird. When I was younger I posted photos on instagram with my exes but now, I don't feel the need to show them off or my relationship. It doesn't mean she's ashamed of you, she probably just changed and doesn't like posting about her private life. The relationship is between you and her not 200 people on Facebook. :) Don't let it get to you.
Yeah I think that's kinda messed up that she has posted pics of her exes and not any of you.
talk to her about it. It could be that she had issues in the past with social media undermining her relationships and now she stays away from it. But it's also true that if someone isn't saying anything about their significant other on social media, it means that they're not the only one. I like to think of social media as being a public place -because it is. It's like going to a local art festival and holding hands with your girlfriend so that everyone who walks by can see that you're in a relationship. Not posting anything about your SO on social media is like going to that same festival and walking 10 ft away from your SO.
It' one or the other -she's either hiding you/ashamed of you, or, because of past experiences, she chooses not to bring relationships onto social media.
IMHO, the latter is really not that great of an excuse if she's not ashamed/hiding you otherwise.Bro, a woman could tell you she loves you 20 times per day while at the same time plotting to leave you. She's most likely talking to some guy online who doesn't know you exist or she is hoping to find a guy better than you she can upgrade to. If a woman really takes you seriously she will mention you, not hide you & she will also be careful not to do things that make you question where the relationship is at.
You don't have to accept her rules. You can make your own boundaries/requirements & if she doesn't like it then bail! You're not married & trust me there's other women out there. Don't go acting like life is all about what she wants.
tbh, this is not a good sign. not even bc she doesn't love you or something but maybe because she's really hurt and is now cautious. i post things a lot of an ex, people could see our relationship blossom. and then it died and there was nothing new, except a black space where his name use to be.
got in a new relationship-never ever posted a picture of us, not in an entire year. 1) I felt like a fool but also lowkey 2) he just wasn't the one for me. don't go by my experience bc she is unique and this is complicated but it's one of those two things.Wow. You feeling wanted and important to her should def be more important than how many likes she gets. That stuff is literally meaningless. Who cares how many people tap a button on their phone. When you're excited to be with someone you shouldn't care less what anybody else thinks. The fact that it hurts you should matter more than how many sleazy guys like her photos. I'm sure she's not ashamed of you so much as it is that she has placed some kind of sad importance on social media that is dictating what parts of her life she shows to others. There's nothing wrong with you. I'd be a little worried that she's doing something disloyal and that's why she doesn't want to share your relationship with others. All in all though, if you guys are truly happy and in love it doesn't matter if she posts stuff about it or not. Even if she pretended to be single online, simply because social media isn't as real as it may seem.
“I believe she likes attention, she gets around 170 likes from a bunch of guys but when she posts me she gets around 80 and complains about her losing followers. She has posted two pictures of us about 4 months ago. She deleted one of them”
This sums it up. All the likes she gets temporarily feeds her ego and helps her feel desirable. It can be quite addictive. If she posts any photos with both of you, people will get jealous. That’s basically a reality check for guys; they don’t have a chance with her because you are with her. Hence she gets less likes and loses some followers.
I personally think this is immature and unhealthy. I can understand if she is a model and trying to promote herself but this is not the case.weeeeeell... i wouldn't know if she's ashamed of you without bluntly asking her about it. the only thing you can do right now is respect her wishes not to post up things she doesn't want to on her feed. its awkward, yeah, but its still a right she has. if it is really that much of a bummer, dont nag about it, but let her know how much it really makes you jealous they can do it, and you can't. some people do get them feels from showing everybody their relationships... others dont. maybe she has a good reason not to post it? you won't know until youve asked.
While it's true that some people are lazier about FB than others, that is no excuse to get all huffy about protecting one's privacy and accuse the other party of being insufficiently trusting--especially not when there are clear signs of a double standard at work, as her "ex" photos illustrate. Trust is built on a willingness to earn it. Those who try to shame others out of seeking transparency do so out of selfishness. It may be socially inconvenient to post pictures, but that's precisely why she needs to be willing to do it. The chief inconvenience here would be that it makes dissembling and deception difficult. Love is not convenient, and there is no room in a loyal soul for guarded secrets between SOs. Be fair about it (don't ask her for anything you wouldn't offer her yourself), but you don't have to be ashamed of your need for everything to make sense.
Because she has her options open... trust me, my friend behaved this way, she'll post when she's ready to make whoever she's hiding you from jealous! ... The best advice I could give us to ask her why without starting an argument, and if she gets mad I'm probably right, but from this point on, I'd start paying extra attention to her actions and how she really feels abut you
I’m sorry you feel this way. Honestly your feelings are valid. But have you been together a long time? And does she identify you as her boyfriend to like her family and close friends? I understand wanting to be in a little bubble of just you two and not wanting other people’s opinions infiltrating your relationship. BUT, if you really like/ love someone you wouldn’t be afraid of eventually saying this is my boyfriend/ girlfriend. Remember you are not committed right now to anything - personally if I was in your situation go with your gut- you honestly probably know the answer and just want opinions to say options and perspective.
I didn't post often of my girlfriend and I on Facebook, but she would post us all the time. She was always very proud of me and wanted to share it with family. While I did very seldom with her and only with big moments. Her interpretation was that I was ashamed or not really into our relationship, not true at all. I never post on there that often. It's so easy to get information of there and it terrifies me that if someone would want to do me harm would do it against someone I love.
She probably isn't active on there, don't fret dude. If you're day to day is good, that's all what really matters..You shouldn't be jealous of those couples who need to declare their love online. Usually those are the candles that burn the fastest.
Maybe she just learnt from past experience that it's better to have more privacy. Those who matter know who you are anyway. Maybe she isn't even that active on that site anymore and doesn't think it's important.
I guess there is a possibility that she's unsure of your relationship yet, but that doesn't mean she's ashamed of you. If it's eating you up, you should voice your concerns to her. Only she knows why she's different around you.
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