I dont feel intensely "in love" with my boyfriend. Is this normal or should I end it?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and ever since three months in I noticed a lack of passion. I don't feel deeply connected to him when I look into his eyes, I struggle to return his feelings when he's says im the one or his special someone, I feel more NORMAL than special in his eyes - in past relationships I have felt like my soul has connected to that person in a deeper way. With him I don't feel that deep, meaningful connection. We are best friends and he is a wonderful boyfriend but I notice more and more that I feel more normal and unordinary around him than extraordinarily loved or special. Is this normal? Am I over romanticizing relationships? Becuase I thought taht feeling is what love was.

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[rjroy3]

It's a twofold idea. On one hand, all relationships have a honeymoon phase. You get a rush of hormones that makes you physically crave that person. After awhile that dies down, because those chemicals will actually kill you if it stayed pumping through you at all times. That said, passion in a relationship should not completely go away. I've had relationships where I wanted to fuck my girlfriend, hold her and adore her over a year into the relationship. That's never went away.

So I have to ask, did something change other than time? Did he stop acting the same? Did you both stop working out? Did you meet someone else and let that attraction for them fester? Or did the attraction just go away on it's own?
If so, I would say it's time to end it. You stopped having feelings for him early and stuck around, because nothing bad actually happened to make you leave. If you care for the relationship, I'd say talk to him about it first and see if you can work it out. Maybe go to a couples massage. Something to see if the attraction sparks again. But if he's not willing to do that, then tell him you can't stick around in a relationship you don't feel love.

[kovalinkie19]

Difficult to say. Perhaps you've finally gotten over the honeymoon stage. Some people arrive at this sooner, some later, some few lucky ones never have it end. Reaslitically that stage will end, and you are best friends and soulmates enough to know that your love is more important than pursuing something more exciting with another person. It's all up to you. If you're not happy then there's not much left to say, but if you're just bored, then you might want to know that relationships aren't like they are in films. They can start out as wonderful and there can be moments down the line, but people will get bored. Good luck with your decision.

[serious]

Yes, I think it can happen like that in relationships, it can be a temporary phase or permanent can't say for sure.

[iFarted]

You might've just gotten used to being around him if you're with him often.

[Intraluminal]

Do you feel cared for lived andnprotected?