My boyfriend wants me to go gym with him.. does he not like my body or find me attractive? Im so upset? (Page 2)

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Me and my boyfriend been together for over a year he's into fitness - he goes gym regularly Whereas im the opposite.. I hardly go gym nowadays So today we were talking on the phone and this was some of our conversation: Him: "babe im taking you to the gym with me.. probably starting next week" Me: "what.. why?" Him: "because I want you to come with me.. and plus there's girls in the gym. If they come up to me, then you'll be there and I will just come to you. This happened to me before" Me: "What am i going to do if im there if a girl comes up to you?" Him: "See if you're there, no girls would come up to me. I would be with you. Everyone would know your my girlfriend. Or ill just kiss you infront of everyone" Me: "hmm yeah ok" Him: "You have to come with me next week. At least once a week please" Me: "why do you want me to go so badly?" Him: "because I want you to be more active. And I want to share with you my hobby. I want you to become part of it as well. Gym is my hobby. I just need you. I just want to spend more time with you. And plus its for yourself as well. You would feel so much better about yourself. Like, have seen yourself in the mirror? What do you see? What do you like to improve? I know you think you're body is not perfect. Do you want to improve your ass, your front, shape your arms?" Me: "Idk maybe all of it" Him: "Then come gym. After coming few times, you would look in the mirror and think that youve gone hot" What does all of this mean? I was going to ask if he doesn't like my body but then I would cry if he said he doesn't. Did his responses mean he doesn't like my body? And he doesn't find me attractive? Then why would he want me to go gym with him when he knows mostly everyone at the gym? And if he doesn't like my body, why is he with me still? And when he tells me about the girls in the gym and the spending more time together are they all excuses for me to go gym? Im so friken annoyed and upset 😔

SarahsSummer · Answer

Sounds like a guy who likes you, wants to spend more time with you, let everyone know he's taken with you AND help you to be healthier. What's wrong with ball that?

noahthenerd · Answer

it sounds to me like he was being a little rude at applying it but I think he really just wants to share his hobbies every relationship should be happy and able to share their hobbies with their partner without feeling like their partner doesn't give a crap but he could've been easier on the whole don't you wanna improve part

HarriettTubman · Answer

It means he's a nice, sensible guy that wants to make you a bigger part of his life. Maybe being healthy and working hard for something isn't all that bad...

Messiah89 · Answer

He just wants to share going to the gym with you. An he has a problem with a female in the gym an he wants to use you to clear that up.

Joseph_Stalin · Answer

he just wants you to be healthy. he loves you. the rest doesn't seem relevant.

azzntittiz · Answer

Really? this is the problem you're facing in your life? (rolls eyes)

Totally_A_Dude · Answer

I think that he want to be with you more. I don't think that the mirror thing is an insult. Maybe he hears you compliance about the way you look or he's trying to help you boost your self image.

Anonymous · Answer

THIS JUST IN: WOMAN UPSET THAT HER PARTNER WANTS TO SPEND TIME WITH HER.

GeminiJester · Answer

He wants you to admire him crushing his workout in my most honest of opinion plus helping you get in better shape is never a bad thing if you're less than what you want now so what you'll be awesome in a couple months!

HIlary48tgkgkgg · Answer

i"m sure your body is just fine. My ex boyfriend would say the same thing to me even though i looked awesome

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

Even if your body is top notch now you should learn to make the gym a routine: your body won't stay young forever.

JuanFrank7 · Answer

He just wants to be doing stuff together with you, not implying some obscure meaning or having any concealed intentions, we guys are mostly straightforward about things

Browneye57 · Answer

Sometimes it's just not a match. The purpose of dating is to make this determination. Bail out honey, you're just not ready.  OTOH, it pays to be fit, for a LOT of reasons.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

He definitely won't like you being neurotic about it.

Draguna2016 · Answer

It's not about your body! He wants to spend quality time with You! He really likes you and is into you! If anything, be overjoyed with happiness!

Alianora · Answer

Maybe he just wanted to include you in another part of his life, you never know

TacosRAwesome · Answer

From this question it seems that he wants to spend more time with you without giving up on his gym time.

luckyyirish · Answer

He wants to help you out. If you aren't happy with your body, he wants to help get your body the the way you like it. He also wants to spend time with you and share his interests

QuackLikeADuck7 · Answer

You're asking the wrong questions, the gym isn't just for improving the body. It's a wholesome activity and he probably just wants to share the experience with you. Gym buddies make the gym fun.

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't have to be that he doesn't like your body. Exercising is a great habit to have, and it could be that he wants you to stay healthy.
Even if he doesn't completely love the way your body looks right now, he isn't being an asshole about it.

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