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Most Helpful Guy
Is it easier to find a good job if you're not looking for one?
Is it easier to find a good residence if you're not looking for one?
Is it easier to find good friends if you're not trying to make friends?
Then why on earth would it be easier to find love if you're not looking for people you could have a relationship with?3THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
People don't find love if they put zero effort into seeking it out. Love is not something you 'find' but more like.. stumble upon. It often catches people unsuspectingly. If you actively look for it, you're more than likely to be hindered or blinded by your conscious ideals put into your mind by far too many romcoms making you think that it's love only if the guy pays for your meal every time you go out, if he takes weeks off of work just so he can spend every day with you, etc.. Which obviously is true only in movies.
Sitting on your ass and waiting for mr./mrs. right to stumble upon you isn't going to work, either. Love is something people MIGHT find if they make somewhat of an effort to meet people of the opposite sex, and adopt the mindset that they're willing to make themselves emotionally vulnerable or in other words willing to fall. A process which, along with putting your pride and habits aside in some cases won't be easy, but could very well turn out to be completely worth it.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE