Why is my boyfriend looking at other women and how do I get over it? (Page 2)
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Yeah I feel that same way. And my boyfriend says the same thing. I disagree with that being a guy thing because not all guys are into trash. And I never dressed provocatively and I've had a couple guys compliment me just on my jeans or shirt. I think most guys are pigs and were never taught how to respect women, for who they are, not for what they are.
I believe there are guys out there that can control themselves, and eventually not care about how provocative women may be. If he has to lie about it, and do it behind your back, obviously it's not working. And I say that because him doing this behind your back means he can easily do other things behind your back as well. And if he knows he can get away with one thing, ... things can easily escalate from there. Guys are stupid, and they will take their chances with things like this even though they know the outcome could be for worse.
If I were your boyfriend I'd be looking at other women too. Matter of fact, I do it no matter what the situation is... because it is HUMAN. If the girl looks fine, then the fineness has to be checked out.
Think of it this way... Its not because you're on a diet that you can't look at the menu ;)
Yeah just cause your better at disguising it out of courtesy does not make you a saint either. Think about MySpace for example, ever added a guy because he was hot? Same damn thing, get over it, if he loves you he will be there and won't cheat, if you make him feel guilty for just looking you are making him into a cheater, or there is something you are either doing or not doing. Think on it.
Now that you are together for 3 years and he's doing it more I think signifies something...be careful...he's not just 'checking people out'...when I started to get bored with my gfs, the first sign was that I would look at girls more and with less discretion...
im sure if you saw a good looking guy you would look too...but I understand why it'd bother you how long he look or that he lied about it. unless he's really stupid it's pretty understandable that doing that in front of your girlfriend is disrespectful
If you really feel bad about it, then you must talk to him. If not, you'll just keep getting hurt. Although yes it is a guy thing to look at girls, 20 seconds may be a little long. I don't believe that you have much to be worried about though. If he wanted to leave you, he would have. However he chose to stay...which means he still has strong feelings for you. Just have a talk about it, if he loves you he will understand.
You can be the HOTTEST girl and no matter what, men will always, ALWAYS, FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIFE, look at other girls.
He's pretty stupid to be doing that in front of you (no offense) most smart men will do it with their buddies.
It's human nature, us girls check out other girls and guys, men are going to do the same thing.
It doesn't mean he loves you any less or less interested in you, it's just looking, it's what men do.
QuestionRiddles and original poster, do you want it to be sugar coated or do you want the truth? This isn't a f***in Disney movie
maybe simply talk to him. when he does...ask him in a fun not penetrating way "does he like what he sees...does he want you to wear something like that?" who knows, maybe it can be a fun way for you to be a couple. but let him know also, later, that it hurts a little also. He needs to cut it back a little at least.
my bf does this to me all the time...
Today was the first time i have said anything about it...
You wanna know what he did lol?
Ill tell yall...
He freaked out on me like i was the one who did something wrong
tried to make me feel even worse for his wandering eyes...
Great guy huh
I would tell him how that makes you feel. If he really loves you, he will feel badly about it and change his behaviour. If he laughs at you or acts like you are overreacting, he isn't able to empathize with you enough, and he probably isn't your ideal mate. Men may have high sex drives, but they are perfectly capable of controlling themselves in public, and besides, he has you you stare at. The biggest mistake women make is over-compromising and letting men get away with stupid things. Don't do it!
Well sense you can't officially tell w/o reasonable doubt I'd let it go, but if this becomes a constant thing then I'd tell him my feelings. Also, don't feel bad about yourself, she was dressed provocatively so anyone would have looked at her not for her beauty but for her skankiness. lol
He's not dead. Are you telling me when you see a hot guy walking down the street you don't check him out and have an ow ow thought in your head. I bet you do. Guys are just horrible at being discrete about it. Just remember there is nothing wrong with looking. It doesn't mean he wants them more than you or at all it just means he's still notices people. We all do. And of course he won't admit it. Girls get all stupid and freak out at them for that sh*t
He was just checking her out that is totally normal. Like you don't check out guys too. It is very harmless. Next time it happens and you notice, if you think she is kinda good looking comment on it. Everyone looks at the oppist sex, it is only natural.
Well, usually when I've been out in public with my pass ex girlfriends and I look at another girl its only because the other is hot...I mean if she has a certain feature in her that I like I'm going to stare but that doesn't mean I like her. I just means that I think the girl looks pretty hot. So, when your boyfriend does it, it really doesn't mean anything he still cares for you very much. its only looking noting else lol.
I understand where your coming from. Guys are sh*tty sometimes! Don't let it hurt your feelings, and make you feel bad about yourself though. Looking at your picture, I think your a very beautiful girl. Hopefully, he realizes how much it upset you and he learns to control his wondering eyes.
All guys are going to stare at a girl dressed provocatively. Maybe he's ashamed and that's why he won't admit it. I know I've checked out a guy or two while I've been in a relationship. And I think other guys besides my boyfriend are cute. However, that's not something I would openly admit to my boyfriend. Just remember that this girl only got 20 seconds of his time - barely. You've gotten years. He obviously cares about you. Get over it.
You shoudn't feel bad about yourself that's life it doesn't mean your relationship is coming to an end. You're probably or will probably start looking at guys but that doesn't mean you're dissatisfied with your boyfriend is just means you're looking at guys. It will happen. It means nothing.
WELL, my man does the same thing, he started checking out women in front of me for the first time ever while I was pregnant. I would bring it up to him and tell him how it makes me feel and he just says, I wasn’t doing anything, I don’t know what your talking about. So the last time I saw him doing it he was staring (for awhile) at the neighbor bending over in tiny shorts with her huge body builder husband next to her, so I yelled, THAT IS ONE NICE ASS YOUR LOOKING AT HONEY! He turned and said what? So I thought I must not have said it loud enough, so I said it again even louder, THAT IS ONE NICE ASS YOUR LOOKING AT! He looked at me and looked at her husband and he looked scared. Never did it again! LOL I am a bitch but that’s what you have to do, or they will walk all over you..
Babe don't worry about it. My boyfriend does the same thing and NEVER EVER admits it. and he gets very defensive when I bring it up. I used to get VERY upset over it and cry in public a few times and even harmed myself. ( I know that sounds crazy but just telling you the full story:)) Anyways, I'm starting to get over it because I know he loves me and finds me incredibly sexy. And also, us girls spend toooo much time worrying about if we are enough for our boyfriends, when really all we need to worry about is making ourselves happy and making ourselves feel sexy. Easier said then done I know but soon you will realise, I promise. I'm sure you are very beautiful and your boyfriend is super attracted to you, otherwise he wouldn't date/make love/hold your hand/take you out/ kiss you. So try to stress less and remember, all that matters is making yourself happy. Hope this helps xoxoxo
Hmm, I've reached the stage in my relationship where we're now comfortable to look/stare/check out other people/couples and not worry about. I use to get sprung doing it and felt a bit embarrassed. That may be a reason why...
Just another 2cents.