How important is race to you when it comes to seriously dating someone?

If you are looking to get married eventually would you prefer someone of the same race? Mention your race too.


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  • Race is important to everyone. here's why. ATTRACTION. We're all attracted to what we're attracted to. Green eyes? well, you're limited to mostly whites. If you like red hair, yep, mostly whites. If you like black hair, dark eyes, a full round butt you're geared more toward brazillian. If you like a HUGE booty you're not likely to be into an upper middle class white jogger.

    Genetics - we're genetically predisposed to liking a certain body type. this means I myself like a B cup, small hips, flat tummy, SMALL butt, big butt.. no.. I like a more yellow tint to the skin, slight red but not required. Almost everyone shops for partners by this genetic shopping list... UNLESS, you want a trophy. Now I won't get into those who want trophies but many people date outside their own race because while claiming they're not limiting to one race they're really trying to upgrade their social status. Those trophies tend to look almost identical if you match hair, and skin color in almost all cases.

    Few races have the exact same body types as a rule. Let's say someone likes D cup, Does that keep them "open to all" when an Asian girl shows up? Well, more than likely she's not going to have what his favorite feature is.

    I think everyone likes people by race, BUT also people who feel they can't find their favorite race (due to limited chances of finding them) also allow themselves to open up to others.

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    • What are the trophies

    • @mishabartun Something one is interested in because it holds a status. Malcolm X actually spoke about adjusting one's goals for status in an interview. so my use of the word trophy is finding person that holds an iconic status that others will see more value in the individual despite the fact it's not exactly what the person would normally want, be happy with or want to be pared up with for the raising of a family and sharing of their culture.

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  • Ideally, I want someone from the Mediterrenean since that's where i'm from.

    I'm not too strict on which ethnicity specifically, but as long as the person is ethnically from mediterrenean country or looks like it, it would be my preference ( North African, Levantine, South European or Turkish mainly).

    I'm Tunisian, which means i'm most likely mixed between different Mediterrenean populations, mostly Middle Eastern, Amazigh and Southern European.

    The guy I like is Italian so even if he is not from the same ethnicity , his country is geocraphically very close to mine and his phenotype is very similar to mine, he's actually darker.

    I want this because I would prefer it if my kids look similar to me and I have a preference to Mediterrenean cultures and landscape. Not to mention that men from those regions are the ones i find the most attractive.

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    • It mostly has to do with how similar the man looks like. I like my italian guy because he shares a similar type of phenotype than me. I wouldn't really want to be with an Italian who is too blonde, and I wouldn't want to be with a Blonde Tunisian (unless he still has some mediterrenean look to him).

      For me, the most handsome men are:
      Kinda Tall
      Olive skin tone, not too dark, not too light. Even if he is light, I want him to have a warm undertone.
      Caucasian facial bone structure
      Dark hair that isn't kinky nor extremely straight.

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    • @HonestWhiteGuy I'm not considered white though because I'm not Euorpean

    • @ElissaDido Hmm well when you get the DNA test you will know for sure, we'll see whos right :D I know that in the U. S. they use the term "Non White Hispanic" to refer to White Hispanic people that have Spaniard ancestors.

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  • I'm white. All but one of the girls I've ever dated/slept with has been a different ethnicity.
    It doesn't really matter to me for marriage or anything, but my experiences with these specific girls (meaning I'm not saying X race is likely Y, just giving my anecdotal experience) so far has been:
    White: gets waaaay Too drunk, can't make up their mind.
    Indian: was very two-faced and cruel. This particular girl also later admitted to being an alcoholic.
    Pacific islander: lot's of fun, very chilled out. Unreliable though (difficult to make plans with or keep in contact).
    African: also lots of fun, probably the least judgmental.

    Obviously different people will vary, but I think when it comes to marriage and dating that culture is usually more an issue than race. For example I've dated an Indian girl who for over 2 years of dating would literally pretend not to know me at times because she was more concerned about other Indians gossiping.

    My current girlfriend is Sudanese and we haven't had any problems after dating for around 8 months so far.

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  • I would choose from my own ethnic group to make a family.

    All to often in this time, we see people mix and match & the kids suffer for it. This doesn't mean they suffer forever but within their entire life there will be pockets of specific hardships due to the parents choice.

    Why fix what isn't broke?
    All ethnic groups come with good & bad, in terms of health this may mean if your ethnic group is likely to develope diabetes or heart disease even in healthy people, & you have kids with a person out of your group , you then add to the list of possibilities for illnesses.
    So why do it...

    As for simply getting married without the idea of kids... most people i have known who settled with a person out of their ethnic group, almost always had some issue. Even little pointless problems would arise & at some point 1 of the 2 sides would use "race" against the other & it only stirs an already "simmering pot" of BS just waiting to boil over. Even if you think there is no biased part of yourself, when "the bear is poked" you will be surpised at who you turn into.

    End point: would i mix, NO... do people do it? Of course they do.

    What is best or right is entirely up to you.

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  • Actual race isn’t important to me but it is usually tied tightly to culture and usually defines if a woman possesses basic human compatibility. If I am considering hook up then a westernized woman is fine and easy. As a white guy I have written off western women (mostly white) as anything LTR beyond a couple weeks. I still can’t say the word out loud, but if marriage then I would only seek an Asian or Latina woman. I have to say I like different and an accent.

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  • Well for me race doesn't matter to me because in my opinion it's not about what the person looks like; it's really about who they truly are in the inside. To be honest I'm a black dude who finds both black & white women so attractive & I've always thought of it that way for a long time. But overall I will date & marry the one person who's totally right for me.

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  • I don't care when it comes to the biological definition of race. I care more about personality and ethnicity. For example, I'm black (North AND East African, that is), but I would rather be with someone who speaks the same language I do, or has similar religious beliefs.

    I'm also more concerned about a potential significant other's intellect. I want to be with a woman who can carry a conversation; who reads books; who I can rationally discuss or debate a bunch of topics with.

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  • Race isn’t all that important, but culture is.

    I couldn’t date an Asian girl from China... too different.

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  • I don't care much as long as we are compatible. If we understand each other, are able to compromise, communicate, and not let anything about race hurt us then we are ready. However, my parents and grandparents seem to care about race. And I don't like that about them.

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  • it is the most important thing. I am white. i am only attracted to white women. There has been only 1 black woman I have ever seen that I would have had sex with and that was Vanessa Williams. Otherwise I just am not at all attracted. I don't find Asian women attractive at all so i seriously don't get the whole "yellow fever' thing.

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  • Race is important whether it's an uncomfortable topic or not. Studies show in-group preference at all stages of development; like with like.

    If I'm getting married, there needs to be at least a mix of white for me. No qualifiers needed of "I'm not racist, it's just a preference" because it's just that: in-group preference.

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  • This is a really good question. I'm mixed race but due to my society and environment, I would only marry another mixed race or white person. I don't want to blame my parents or anyone but I feel I will be judged on the skin colour of the girl I bring home.. and maybe they won't judge but in the back of my mind I think they will.

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  • I am white, and while I perfer white women, especially natural blondes and redheads, I wouldn't be against dating a woman of a different ethnicity and eventually marrying them if we were compatible, in love, and formed a deep connection.

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  • Depends on the individual personally i am not attracted to other races. As much as i'd like to be since it would really improve my dating pool as i clicked really well with girls from other races i need to feel physical attraction for someone i date and i have never felt that for another race (except for a handfull of exceptions).

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  • I’m mixed but mostly associated with African American which is fine.

    Most of my relationships were interracial relationships because I’m not really concerned with the opinions of people who judge a person on the surface than their character.

    Is it important to me? Probably not. I know I look for certain characteristics and traits that I find attractive and makes me feel we will last a long time.

    Don’t let anyone tell you who you should love and never cast judgement before knowing them.

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  • Not important to me however culture is a problem for me especially when it comes to women of my own race. Im Indian and culturally speaking most Indians are hindu and I come from a Christian background therefore for that reason I don't want to date Indian girls since their culture is different from mine.

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  • I am Caucasian and I personally don't care too much, my first crushes were Latino and Asian. Though, I do have a harder time connecting with African women, but that's probably because of more cultural differences

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  • Mixed race. It is never been important to me I would prefer a black woman light skinned but I'm not going to chase anything that doesn't pills me on a personality level visually attractive is important however her body is more important than our face that being said she could be from Timbuktu as long as we can get along like whenever genuinely

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  • I'm of Indian origin and while I do tend to be pretty attracted to Indian girls I would still definitely marry a girl from another race if that's who I met. I've heard stories of Indian guys who had long term serious relationships with white girls and then one day ended those relationships just because they felt they should marry an Indian girl. Now that is wrong and something I would never do

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  • I am from India, currently in open relationship with a white girl. My first preference is to date in my own race. But , the Indian girl that I prefer to date in US are all smitten by the idea of having a white boyfriend, which is repulsive. I am not particularly attracted to white girls in general. But my current girlfriend is a nice person and there is no expectation to commit so it works.

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  • Im white and i will only date an Asian, i dated white and black girls and in sick of the bs. Latino women didn't want to give me a shot because i was in college and didn't have a lot of time for them (according to a few girls I've asked) but now i am out they want me to hit them up no thanks

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  • I live in romania and the race options look like this: gypsy, white person. Seriously, you will see a black person once every year or so. But i also don`t really like how black women look most of the time. Again, i was born in a country wich basically doesn`t have black people so my opinion is heavilly biased.

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  • ever since i became aware of this propaganda circulating in the western world i made the decision to only date within my race.

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    • ok, so lets say that there is some propaganda going on, whats so bad about having a biracial kid if you love the girl? that should be irrelevant, right?

  • I'm caucasian.

    It would probably be a big deal to ONE of my parents. The other would probably hate her because they don't like anyone that I've dated... But I wouldn't give a crap.

    I don't know how it would affect things. I know I'd be fine with it; there have been many girls of all kinds of races and nationalities that I've had crushes on.

    Now, we don't agree politically in some major way, we'd probably break up just because of that, as opposed to something based on race. Getting married, I don't know. I suppose it would have to come up for me to know whether or not it'd be worth breaking up over. and I don't know if that'd be related to race vs over something else.

    I simply have no idea how that would change my life as opposed to dating anyone who could be described in any way. How would it be different dating someone with curly red hair as opposed to short straight dark hair? How would that change your marriage or attraction level? I don't know...

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  • Im white and only date white girls. I have absolutely nothing wrong with other races, a lot of them are sexy and pretty but ill let someone else date them who would appreciate them more than me, i just find a white woman sexiest

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  • I only know of one race.. If ur talking about the tone of their skin then it's just that.. a skin tone if ur marrying someone you should never even think about that making a difference. What u need to be looking at are character qualities.

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  • I personally so not believe race is an issue concerning who we would wanna spend our lives with. The cornerstone of a relationship isn't just love but the utmost respect for each other and trust. I am black and would date and marry any female regardless of race.

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  • I don't really care about race (as long as I can adopt things like language) but since I'm not really cultural, I wouldn't want her parents to pull me into her culture (which might be new to me) and so this would be the only thing that would keep me from dating other "races".

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  • It depends on the person. I don't want a stereotypical white girl or black girl.
    If I like her I like her.
    But Yeah, I do find white girl more attractive than black Women, so the chance of me dating a white girl is hogher

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  • Race is something we created out of our ignorance. Race doesn't matter. Love knows NP colors or boundaries. It's the heart and character of a human that matters

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  • I don't care about race as long as I find them attractive.
    Cultural differences, beliefs and political vies are however an important factor for me and these may be influenced by nationality and place of origin.

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  • I am naturally atttracted to caucasians. I cannot help that. But I am always open for change - if I somehow started to be attracted, to, say, Asians, then I would try to act on it. I care nothing for skin colour.

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  • Not that important at all. Although if his parents were strict and wanted him to only date within his own race, I’d take it pretty hard. I don’t want to get into a situation where I’m hated for no reason by the potential in-laws.

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  • No I really don't have a racial preference. Cultural cross overs can actually be really interesting to learn about and as long as both partners were willing to learn about each other's cultures that would be fine. Plus, living in a western society means that we all have similar cultures anyway

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  • I'm a sapiosexual, so looks don't matter to me. But if I were to factor looks into it, I'm only attracted to very fair skin, not even tanned white skin.
    I dated two black guys in high school.

    Religion is much more important. I'm pagan, but I don't really follow any one path.

    I'm white.

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  • Asian girl checking in - am attracted to all races; have liked Indians, Chinese, blacks and whites in the past. Honestly wtf @ people who only date within their race because of "physical appearance". Looks don't last forever so bye

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  • I am White (mostly English and Irish, with some Italian and German). I only date White men, and would only marry a White man. Preferably Northern European (I like blonde hair/blue eyes).

    That's just what I'm attracted to. I feel like most people are attracted to their race. It's what's familiar.

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  • I'm Asian, Brown, Persian, Caucasian,.. whatever you wanna pick...
    I don't have any strong preferences when it comes to race because I've seen attractive guys from so many different races and Ugly ones too... as long as we're compatible and he's good to me and he's good looking too. I don't care what his race is.
    the things which do matter to me are personality in general and religiousness, I'm not religious and I don't think I'll make it with a religious person

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  • You don't decide who you fall in love with do you. The heart wants what it wants. To be really honest, I never imagine myself married to somebody who's black. But I don't know what the future has to hold. I don't know who's good for me. I'm Kurdish by the way.

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  • No... race is not important. You can't tell your heart what to feel. If Im compatible with Someone, the color of ones skin is not going to really be a deal breaker. I've dated guys of many races, I'm more about who the guy is not what he is. I'm black (with traces of European, Scandinavian, Pacific Islander, and Asian). But for the sake of making it easier, black. My family is multi-racial/cultural. There are far more important things in a relationship that race, in my opinion.

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  • Let me say it like this: Black men and women are having better bodies after my opinion, IN GENERAL! ;) (Not all!). So I feel quicker attractive to blacks than any other race. BUT, personality is also important... and if you are a nice person and not racist or from a racist family, then I could date ya

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  • I am mixed raced, Puerto Rican and Jamaican. My racial background is Taino Indian, white, black, Indian, and some Asian. I mostly just say white, black and Native Indian. I have no racial preference in dating because that's stupid. I don't look at people and see races, I see human beings. Anyone who is incapable of that has a problem.

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    • Jamaican is not a race, it's black people over here from Africa like all other blacks, some Jcans are white but only like 2% of the population and mostly black, few Asians and hardly any other ethnicity, some of us mixed with Irish, I probably am because my family has green eyes curly hair, I have reddish brown highlights and brown hair and I'm a drunk, but we're black mostly over here.

    • @azzntittiz You don't think I know that? Did you completely read over the part where I explained what my racial background entails?

  • It didn't use to be important, until I realized that I have a serious issue...
    I don't want to get married, but if I wanted to, I would rather get married to someone of my race. It would be easier and I wouldn't have this issue anymore.

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  • Race is something you can't choose. You can't choose the one you love either. So I, as a white girl (I wanna be black to rap) think that everyone are equally beautiful. And yes I admit black people rap WAY better than white people. Asians are good rappers too. Sorry white humans.

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  • I love Latinos.
    My preference and weak spot is Mexican men I love the brown hair, brown eyes, and brown skin. I love the culture. I love how they flirt. Tbh, I like them a little machista 🤷🏼‍♀️😅
    💯👌🏻😍

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  • I don't care about race and neither does my parents. I'm black and my mom likes to remind me that she doesn't care if the man is white, as long as I'm happy. Even my friends, who generally have a prefered "type" say they could generally see me with anyone. Its the personality (and family) that's more important.

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  • Why do people keep asking the same question over and over again? Like literally I've seen the same question 5 times in one month. Humans are attracted to humans, the end.
    I think GAG should stop posting questions like this on the main page. It's like beating a dead horse. Give it a rest! *sigh*

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  • The only reason why I'd like to marry someone the same race as me is so that I can keep my heritage and native language alive, for my children (I'm latino, so it would be nice for my children to be exposed to my culture) But in saying that, race is probably one of the last things I think about when I date someone, so I don't really let that influence who I choose to date or not date.

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  • It's important to me because I want someone who can understand me and relate to me as a black girl. Plus, I want brown/dark skinned babies.

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  • It doesn’t matter to me. I’ve dated both black and white guys before, so I’ve got my taste of some vanilla and chocolate. Things always taste better when you mix altogether lol 😂

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  • I'm white and honestly I don't care the race of my partner as long as he treats me right I'm cool

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  • I don't really care about race not even religion.. My two ex boyfriends were not like me.. I'm white while the first one was black and Muslim, the other one was brown '' indian'' and hindu... So I doesn't really matter

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  • Mmh me and my boyfriend are both Caucasian, but I am Italian and he is Romanian:)
    For me is important that we are both white Caucasian

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  • I’m Caucasian and I really don’t care what race my future husband will be. As long as he respects and loves me I could not care less and I’m attracted too both.

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  • I'm a white woman, and I don't care about the race of my partner. Just their personality. I've dated men from 4 different continents.

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  • I know personally I would try to avoid dating a certain race but otherwise I don't mind it at all. I'm Timorese (Asian) but also have African blood in me

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  • I'm caucasian but I wouldn't really care about what race my partner is as long as they have a great personality but personality matters more than looks

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  • Race really doesn't matter to me.. I do have preferences but I'd still marry someone that isn't part of my preferences if I fall in love with him. It is all about personality.

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  • Race is not an important thing for me. However, unless I'm with someone from my own race, my mom would be pissed because she literally hates every other race

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  • I'm mixed (dad is white) but I only identify as black.

    I prefer to be with a black man but I'm finding I'm open to other men as well. It's mainly because I've only been around black men my whole life.

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  • I am white, i prefer white but if my person will be black or Asian, i am fine with it. Important thing is to be happy, healthy, and supportive of each other.

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  • not important at all.
    (my boyfriend is east Asian. I'm white.)

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