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I think it depends on what you’re looking for. I want genuine companionship and hot sex. Anything else I can provide or find with other people? My expectations aren’t low, but I believe having a full life outside the person (so I don’t lose myself in them) is key.
Your expectations sound different in that you want passionate love. There’s nothing wrong with that, but NO couple is passionate all the time. It’s scientifically unlikely - we have romantic love for short bursts of time. The honeymoon phase is one time and years later (if you stick it out) you’ll find it again with the same person. Passionate love isn’t sustainable, not really. It turns into something comfortable, which is what you’re trying to avoid.
I’d say either figure out if what you’re seeking is reasonable (the honeymoon phase lasts 3 years max). And if it isn’t, pleasure yourself with everything life has to offer.