It kind of does matter. Once you're happy in a committed relationship there should be no reason to leave dating apps sitting around on your phone. I don't think it's crazy to not want to see that.
@samhradh_leannan It's not crazy that you want that; no one suggested that. It's also not crazy for him to not do that. If he's not meeting girls from the site, it's literally no different from cruising Facebook or Instagram or the Pretty Girls subreddit. What's the difference? He's just seeing what else is out there, same as you.
Either that, or he's not quite as happy as you think he is.
The difference is that the singular purpose of a dating website is to date. It’s NOT Facebook. There’s no reason why I should feel comfortable with my boyfriend wanting to keep that on his phone once we’re together. That’s like saying I shouldn’t mind if he keeps a mail order bride catologue on hand, as long as he’s not actually ordering one. Why the hell do I need to be fine with that?
And for the record I don’t spend time “seeing what else is out there”. Of course I notice an attractive guy on occasion, because I’m human, but I don’t look for them. It’s not like some sort of hobby for me. I have absolutely no use for apps and websites and subscriptions that allow me to spend hours browsing for attractive members of the opposite sex. I don’t think it’s a lot to ask for my partner to offer me the same level of respect.
@samhradh_leannan Okay, cool, fair enough... that's YOU. You just described yourself. You are not your boyfriend, and he is not you. Males and females are not the same. It's way more normal than you seem to want to believe.'
This is really simple: If you think it's such a big deal, and you want to bring it up to him and how you feel about it, then do it. And either he will change his habits or he won't. And if he does, he does. And if he doesn't and you think it matters that much, break up with him. I admit it seems like if you choose the second thing then you likely didn't care that much for him in the first place, but hopefully it won't get to that.
Luckily I'm not in the position of having a boyfriend who thinks it's appropriate to have dating apps on your phone while in a committed relationship. But, hypothetically speaking, I think it's ridiculous to act like that's normal or necessary. Anyone who is going to be like "Sorry, but I'm keeping my dating app" probably isn't cut out for a serious relationship in the first place.
No she doesn't, not if she's going to dump him. The reason you'd want to know why is so you can make a decision, if you've already made the decision, there's no point. Like I said.
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"Other." It's his phone and his life. Is he actually meeting girls from the site? No? Then it doesn't matter.
It kind of does matter. Once you're happy in a committed relationship there should be no reason to leave dating apps sitting around on your phone. I don't think it's crazy to not want to see that.
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It's not crazy that you want that; no one suggested that. It's also not crazy for him to not do that. If he's not meeting girls from the site, it's literally no different from cruising Facebook or Instagram or the Pretty Girls subreddit. What's the difference? He's just seeing what else is out there, same as you.
Either that, or he's not quite as happy as you think he is.
The difference is that the singular purpose of a dating website is to date. It’s NOT Facebook. There’s no reason why I should feel comfortable with my boyfriend wanting to keep that on his phone once we’re together. That’s like saying I shouldn’t mind if he keeps a mail order bride catologue on hand, as long as he’s not actually ordering one. Why the hell do I need to be fine with that?
And for the record I don’t spend time “seeing what else is out there”. Of course I notice an attractive guy on occasion, because I’m human, but I don’t look for them. It’s not like some sort of hobby for me. I have absolutely no use for apps and websites and subscriptions that allow me to spend hours browsing for attractive members of the opposite sex. I don’t think it’s a lot to ask for my partner to offer me the same level of respect.
@samhradh_leannan Okay, cool, fair enough... that's YOU. You just described yourself. You are not your boyfriend, and he is not you. Males and females are not the same. It's way more normal than you seem to want to believe.'
This is really simple: If you think it's such a big deal, and you want to bring it up to him and how you feel about it, then do it. And either he will change his habits or he won't. And if he does, he does. And if he doesn't and you think it matters that much, break up with him. I admit it seems like if you choose the second thing then you likely didn't care that much for him in the first place, but hopefully it won't get to that.
Luckily I'm not in the position of having a boyfriend who thinks it's appropriate to have dating apps on your phone while in a committed relationship. But, hypothetically speaking, I think it's ridiculous to act like that's normal or necessary. Anyone who is going to be like "Sorry, but I'm keeping my dating app" probably isn't cut out for a serious relationship in the first place.
@samhradh_leannan If you say so.
Nothing. He has to have a backup plan in case you break up with him
immature to do that... I'd be pissed. and that there my friend sounds like you agree with cheating?
@xButterflyKisses87x Not immature. Smart
I wouldn't put up with that as most won't
@xButterflyKisses87x I would just hide the app
CHEATER! lmao... but then again your age explains it.
I leave them all up. Mainly cause I forget about them and don't care. Not trying to hook up
If that was me I would ask him about it, best way is to communicate if you're uneasy about it :)
This website is full of heavily insecure girls and guys, I wouldn't care at all.
I would dump them because the need to have a dating app is over when they have me.
I have a girlfriend and I still have G@G on my phone, let it go.
What I'm saying is: maybe it's his source of entertainment, no big deal.
does your girl check your phone?
yeah, I let her
let me know how she reacts after seeing 2 hookup apps on your phone next time she's taking a look
sure thing
GAG is not a dating website.
The primary purpose of gag is not dating. Not the same as having eharmony/bumble/okcupid on your phone.
@hahahmm Exactly.
I agree
Maybe he just forgot to delete it? Lmao why are you going through his phone in the first place.
I'm just used to leaving apps on my phone regardless of relationships.
Talk to him, tell him to show it to you and take and out if he's been using it.
I would tell him that you two need to talk.
Talk to him, and then dump him:
What's the point of talking to him if you've already decided the outcome? Pointless behavior..
@Kkaos she still has to know why, doesn’t she. Smh
No she doesn't, not if she's going to dump him. The reason you'd want to know why is so you can make a decision, if you've already made the decision, there's no point. Like I said.
@Kkaos she deserves too know.
Tell him "I got rid of the site, your turn..."
Stop looking through his phone maybe?
You understand the issue isn't me looking at his phone, right?
She said right in her post that she saw it when he showed her the phone and the she wasn't going through it. Read the full question first next time.
My bad, didn't pay attention while reading.
Have the talk!
and maybe check as well :)
Ask him why he still has it
Say GOODBYE TO YOUR PHONE
Talk with him about it, he may not be using it.
Talk to him
Talk to him.