My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. We are both still in college with him getting his master's and me getting my bachelor's. We both have about 2 years left and then plan on moving to Texas together. I love the idea of a promise ring but I feel as if my boyfriend would be the type to think getting a girl a ring should only happen if they are getting engaged. How do I bring this up without making it seem like he has to get me one because ultimately I want it to be his idea and not mine.
What is your opinion on promise rings?
What Guys Said 26
Okay so... from a guy's perspective, as you've read, most of us think it's super lame. Like on a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the "holy shit balls that's lame," i think a solid 9.
That being said, in a relationship, it's not always about what you want. I got a promise ring for my girlfriend (now wife) just to set her mind at ease. She knew how dumb i thought it was, but i did it anyway because it put her mind at ease... and she finally shut the hell up about it.
So if all else fails, badger, nag, annoy your way to the top0
my girlfriend and i got one and we're in our junior year of our bachelors degree, also we been together for four years and counting still1
That's tricky. I don't think you can get him to do that and convince him that it was his idea. If you guys are meant to be together long term then you should get engaged towards the end of your time in school and then get married and then move in together. The promise ring is an unnecessary step in my opinion3
The moment you let materialistic things get in between, things will start to crumble.
Just avoid it0
We guys don't get hints very well.. You should maybe just tell him you think it's cute and maybe he can get you one..0
It's just a ring. Feelings are what matter most. It's nice to have a little reminder of the bond you share (the ring) but it's not good to dwell on its significance.1
I think they are stupid. We are engaged to be engaged. Just seems pointless.2
Stupidity. Why waste money on a ring?2
Good for the relationship1
l gave a girl a ring many years ago and she told every one that we were engaged wich was not true talk to your boyfriend about this matter as you have both been together for over a year and l bet that he will go along with what you say and he will buy you a promise ring0
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I think they are even more superficial than wedding rings.0
I've given a promise ring and a wedding ring to the same person. We are divorced now a marriage is just a piece of paper. If you and your partner are solid you won't need trinkets to keep the faith in your each other.0
Broke up after a month I bought the rings0
Just communicate with him, it's going to be key if you are to be married, share how you feel with tenderness and affection.1
What Girls Said 16
I asked my boyfriend how he felt about rings. I made sure he wasn’t uncomfortable with the idea of me giving him one. I let him pick it out, so I could get a matching one. He really loves it. So ask him if that would be an acceptable gift and if it would make him uncomfortable. You can ask what styles and colors he likes and if he likes detailed stuff (my boyfriend has a black tungsten ring with an opal stripe in the middle). It makes it special because it comes from you and you both put time into it0
A promise ring is meaningless if that person have no intention of saving themselves for marriage and actually get married without having premarital sex. It's sweet and all. But if you can't keep your commitments then it's nothing more than a piece of jewlery because it's suppose to represent YOU. Let alone the kind of promise you want to have as an oath. People should keep and honor their commitments and promises and don't make them if your going to break them.0
I always wanted one after listening to that song from Tiffany Evans and Ciara - promise ring. I was like 10 or 11 and singing to that song lmao1
If you want it to be his idea then you let him do it. I don't think you could bring it up in some way to him and not have it be your idea.0
I think it's childish2
Promise rings usually lead to problems and break ups.. just don't0
Sorry, but I kinda think it’s stupid. But I’m sure it’ll look pretty if he gets you one0
Promises are made to be broken0
Promise rings are for children.1
I prefer commitment rings to promise rings. They're kinda the same but doesn't come with the promise of anything.0
He probably can't know the things you're thinking about right now, so you should just talk to him about this, like "I think it would be cute..." or something.
Anyway, he could be reluctant since rings generally come with engagement. Good luck.0
It's silly and pointless.0
A promise ring is a sentimental gift that can be given to your young girlfriend or boyfriend before an engagement.0
They are cute and romantic0
No use whatsoever0
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