Why do guys find me ugly and cannot be in relationship? (Page 2)
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Maybe you get rejected for being an attention seeker.
Wtf you’re actually hot. I feel like I just got reverse catfishes when I scrolled down and saw your pic
Wdym reverse catfishes
Like pretending to be ugly but actually not
U thought I was pretending to be ugly
Yeah with the long message about why guys won’t date you. But now I realise it’s probably because they just really want to fuck you without emotional attachment. If you want a relationship you need to market yourself to the demographic. Find out what committed guys look for.
But all the hot girls all can easily get bfs! I don't believe in love
Neither do i. So why worry about it? If you don’t believe in love then just embrace who you are and have uncommitted sexual encounters with guys who find you attractive.
I don't want that. I am a very romantic person and don't want be alone and never marry I want my partner , boyfriend. I don't want casual sex with anyone 😞😞
Sounds like you gotta figure out the love thing then. Guys will pick up on the fact that you don’t believe in love and they won’t want to commit, knowing you can’t give them your heart
It's the opposite they won't comitt up me even know I have my heart open but it's always hurt with every single guy
You said you don’t believe in love tho
Cuz no one gives me a chance
I'll just stay sad and alone
No one will ever want to be my boyfriend or husband either way
And I'll live alone in my house wen I'm 30
I see
Here’s my advice then, if I’m understanding this correctly now...
Try wearing things that are more modest. I’m not saying look ugly on purpose, hear me out. I’m saying find elegant dresses, things that accentuate your looks without showing too much skin. Thats step one for first impressions. Then have confidence in who you are. If you lack confidence enough to be comfortable with being single, you’re not ready to be with the man you’re meant for. It’s like baggage you don’t need to carry into that relationship. Don’t worry about stuff. Just do you and be comfortable in yourself at all times. Love yourself. Find happiness in life in general. It’ll exude happiness, which will draw a decent man to you. Those simple things are my laws for attracting a good solid man who will commit to you. Next step, make sure you’re not looking in the wrong places. Mr right is not on tinder or in that night club. He’s holding the door for your at that restaurant or bumping into you at the book store
I always wear modest things and no one pays attention to me, open my door, let alone a bookstore , I go out to many places and there's no one at all
I'm always doing my thing and no one ever comes into my life
So focus on the other things. The comfortability with being single. Once you stop wanting something you’ll always get it. And can I ask... do you think that picture is modest?
No but I have modest pics always wen I go out I'm covered up and nothing ever no guys want me , my whole life I'm alone and still nothing happens that idea of bieng alone and a guy will come out of the sky isn't true
Have you tried?
Because just posting this implies that it’s always in the back of your mind.
Try going to another area. It could be the guys where you live. Honestly if I was into the whole relationship thing, I’d probably approach you, but only if I saw confidence and stability in you
Wdym stability
Like I would have to get the vibe that you’d be stable whether I was there or not. It’s hard to explain. You just don’t want to come across desperate, needy, or seeking. That’s what matters
I couldn't be bothered to reaf this whole thing but i think if you dont try and get one you can understand yourself see if anything is making guys want to avoid you and also not trying to get one will probably get you one
Don't worry. Actually they don't deserve u. You actually don't deserve them.
No one exists for me 😥
Ya u r right. because no one actually made for u yet.
I want my boyfriend this year 😥
I can't b alone for the rest of my life I need love
So approach a right guy at a right time.
How am I supposed to who who and wen is right?
Look around u.
I do and never find anyone where I go or wherever I am
What r u trying to find in a guy?
Someone to love and care of me for me. Smart funny & understand me
So wait until you get someone like that.
No one can have a partner they don't find attractive 🙁 I try that and it doesn't work either
I don't wana wait 10 years for that guy
It won't happen I can't even get a 1st boyfriend I'm a loser
One n simple suggestion: Accept the truth.
Why don't you both try to date each that would be nice I guess🙂
What
Yea why not?
The way he answered your question and gave suggestions I think he have some interest in you
Laura lo ge Mera
maybe cause you're using too many of those pretzels "&"
U ugly dats y😂
(Stupid question deserves a stupid answer)
You aren't ugly but, I am 😔, my face is hideous and deformed 😔
Still look better than me
Lol don't say that! 🙂
Well if that’s really you in that picture then I don’t see what the problem is unless you’re very picky and reject other guys
Only creepy older guys in bicycles talk to me when I'm walking in the street alone
Walking alone always invites trouble for a woman, you’ll definitely find someone soon enough, just don’t rush it, you’re very pretty so it’s not your looks
It's just hard cuz since I was 13 no guy ever wanted me so it feels everything is the same now and will never change
I go out a lot and there isn't anyone that I like who likes me and is single
Well that’s true for a lot of people, it takes time, I didn’t get my first girlfriend till I was 21 , I had no luck with that before that age
Is that really you in the picture?
Yes that's me
You are not ugly at all. You are attractive. Furthermore, you'll note that the other guys on this thread are answering more or less the same.
This leads me to think that there are other reasons why you are alone that have very little to do with your appearance.
Firstly, I truly am sorry that you feel sad and alone. It might be worth examining that these feelings are overwhelming you, and perhaps that's why you're alone, my dear.
You are not stupid, by the way. You are just hurting, and that is very understandable.
by the way, lest you be thinking I am just some old guy telling you that you're attractive, I give you my word (for whatever that's worth) that I would have said exactly the same thing about you when I was your age. The young me would have found you just as physically attractive as I think you are now.
"I don't know y god does this 2 me"
If I were God, I might answer something like, "Do what to you? Give you a beautiful face which you refuse to believe is beautiful?"
But no one can be alone forever
My brother is only happy cuz he's married and has his partner or else he wudnt be happy and he got to marry his 1st and only girlfriend he was obsessed with at 18
And I'm suffering each year and skinny and just do school and work daily and very skinny
Please understand that I get that you're in pain, asker. And I hope for the happiness you deserve.
That being said, my biggest point is that your not having a relationship has nothing to do with your looks. Don't believe me? Just look at the responses you're getting here. Most of the guys are telling you you're not ugly, myself among them.
I suspect that it's your depression and pain which is driving men away. Now please know that I think your pain is very understandable, but it is something that needs to be worked on.
I noticed you said that you smile a lot. That may be true, but behavioral scientists have studied smiling and found that it's a bit more complicated than most people know. When a smile is fake, that is the person isn't really happy, people can detect that. When a smile is genuine because the person is truly happy, people can detect that, too. It has to do with involuntary muscles involved when smiling that are active when we're happy, and inactive when we're not.
So you need to work on being genuinely happy in your life, which I believe is possible. It will come through in your smile, your posture, your facial expressions, and your voice. Then you can start working on finding a good man.
Do you mind if I ask if you were bullied or mistreated?
Lol but girls r mean and jealous of me so I can't ever get any girlfriends don't have sisters my own cousin is jealous and are fought and she said something hurtful to hurt me. I can't even have the guy I wanted.
I see.
I am quite convinced that you're not having a man in your life is due to your problems with sadness, depression, and pain. These things coupled with what seems to be envy and possibly other issues are, I think, the greatest reasons why you are alone at the moment.
But the good news is that all of these are well within your control. You can affect changes to these things.
I ask this with kindness, but have you considered seeking the help of a mentor or professional counselor?
My whole life since I was 13 I was rejected and I tried to be positive but nothing happens it feels worse no guy each year wants me. The guy i wanted to go to prom with lied he had a girlfriend but didn't
I can't even hang out with family they all hav someone special and r together and I'm just there stupid and with my brother he ignores me and just talks to his wife and I'm just there in the back alone bored
Even wen I'm happy no guy ever shows up in my life ever
I'm talking about being genuinely happy for long periods of time, not just in the moment. Years. Decades even.
You're not stupid for being alone.
I believe it would probably be best if you spoke to a mentor or counselor about these things. Have you considered doing that?
I hav last week I went actually
No one can be happy forever til they die tho
I see. It's good that you're reaching out to someone to help you help yourself. Were you open and honest with your feelings to this counselor?
Yes I was.
I don't know how I'm guna be able to live my life alone forever til I die and never have any love
I strongly suspect he/she will tell you the same thing I'm telling you, but will offer strategies to affect changes.
Keep at it, my dear. Listen carefully to what your counselor has to say. I suggest you ask about cognitive behavioral therapy. Some friends of mine have tried it and it worked very well.
I don't believe you have to live your life alone, dearheart.
Yes I will
People always find someone they have a connection with and like and they are together and wen I meet someone special to me and that I have a strong connection with nothing happens and I'm hurt , I don't believe in love
Sadly, not everyone does find someone they have a strong connection with. But I also believe that you are not doomed to be among those people because of your looks, as you suppose.
I believe you are focusing way too much on the happiness of other people and how love is going to fix your life. I believe you should be discussing with your counselor about how you can be open to the possibility of finding someone rather than focusing on all the rejection.
by the way, rejection is the norm, even for attractive people.
But it's not fair to have someone u want with a strong connection with that cannot be with u
Ik but to be rejected with every single guy I meet every year is not normal even for a girl it messes u up
I would agree that perhaps it isn't normal to be rejected by every single guy every year, which leads me to think that because it isn't your looks it must be something else.
I know it can cause depression. These are things that you must work on with your counselor.
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