How can I get my boyfriend to be impressed and think I'm beautiful?

My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. I'm 25 he's 27. Lately I've tried doing my hair and wearing cuter clothes for him to maybe say that he thinks I'm beautiful and tell me he loves me but instead he makes a stupid comment. Then pays attention to his phone or the computer and ignores me... he barely ever says sweet things anymore. I've been trying not to gain weight since starting an office job but its been difficult... for a while I just came in and threw in pajamas with my hair in a bun, but I have been trying to look good again and still get nothing from him. We still have sex regularly but I feel like that's all I am to him... any advice? I know how relationships change over time but I still do tons for him because I want to of course. But he won't do anything for me...

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  • I think you have to make him realize your importance by keeping yourself engrossed up in other things and start paying less attention towards him and keep yourself engaged in other chores. Practice the same strategy for a few weeks. It's my guaranteed esurance to you that he'll automatically realize your value.

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  • If he rarely gave complements of recent years it's hard to just make him start doing that again

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    • Yes I know... He will compliment his random girl friends on Facebook though -_-

    • Because a Facebook compliment is the same he is with u by default that mean he must love your looks women seem to not understand that

  • you look so cute

    why doesn't he complements you?

    have u ever talked to him face to face about this?

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    • Thank you! But I guess I haven't brought it up yet. I dont want to sound too needy. I just wanted him to do it on his own I guess. Bit since we have been together so long I guess he doesn't think he has too

    • naah compliment is not a chore but it should come from heart, right?

      we can discuss it further, I dnt know how to help u out in this stuff but we might come up with something, u can pm me if u wanna

  • What you are doing wrong is: You're trying to please him. That makes you easy. That makes him take you for granted. That makes you frustrated.

    What you should do is understand that beauty does come from within. You need to feel good about your life in general (you can still have a bad day or be sad or whatever), to be beautiful. Basically, beauty is health. Both physical and emotional. So instead of trying to please that lazy sod, figure out what you want to do. The most attractive thing for a guy is a girl who is doing her thing. Why do you think so many guys become super possessive if their girl starts gaining confidence and being more outgoing? Because they are legitimately afraid of losing her to someone else. So yeah. That is what you should be doing.

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  • Your just his fucktoy now, leave em if he ain't gonna show you love when you want it.

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  • Talk to him about it

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  • Changing hairstyle and wearing eye makeup

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  • Try transparent underware

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  • He’s lucky to have you. Maybe he has fetishes, etc that you don’t know about or likes to be dominated. And maybe because of that, vanilla sex or not teasing sexually may make him bored in the bedroom and loose some interest. Maybe ask what he’s looking at on the computer and phone (possibly porn?) and maybe ease into doing some of those things if your comfortable. Sometimes people are sexual opposites (one kinky and one that’s conservative which can cause sexual tension and frustration). Which makes you wish for something more and crave it (e. g. to be tied up, femdom, etc) but you don’t want to ask for it or your partner might not be interested in it which really upsets you. I know if my partner sexually teased me more and initiated kinky stuff I would be craving her and complimenting her all day, every day.

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  • sounds like he's losing interest..4 years with the same person, without marriage, is a LONG time. have you guys discussed marriage?

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    • We haven't really discussed it. I over heard his buddy ask him in the phone when we are getting married (jokingly) and my boyfriend was like "that's not even a thought in my mind" after 4 years it should be... I'd think. He won't really talk about it.

    • yeah, id say you ought to think about leaving him.. if he's not paying attention to you, and you want marriage, doesn't sound like he's in it for the LONG haul

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