''If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best.'' Agree or disagree? (Page 2)
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You know, I think this is a very neurotypical thing to say. I have a mental illness, and sometimes it is very bad. I can't handle me at my absolute worst, and I have to live in my own head all the time. So I understand where people are coming from. It's hurtful, yes, but I don't want to be with someone who thinks of me as a burden. I have enough of that on my own.
I agree because I can be a really compassionate and kind person who will do anything for someone I care about. However, i have a rough exterior when someone first meets me as a way of protecting myself because I've been screwed over. So if someone can understand and get over that, then they deserve me.
So people are supposed to put up with your shitty behaviour because you dated some asshole in the past? What about what they deserve? Do they deserve to pay for the previous man's mistakes?
Sorry for being vague. I expect people to understand that I'm defensive of my work (I'm a welder) as I am not taken seriously and harassed every day for being a female welder.
I expect people to respect my boundaries that I set, reasonably so as I have been assaulted. In addition to an abusive ex boyfriend.
If you want more examples please let me know.
I have my opinion for my reasons and I respect others opinions, without feeling attacked for my opinions that is.
No explanation needed, you made it clear the first time. I just think your reasons are not valid. But it's your life. Good luck.
Thanks. You could have started by saying that, but instead you didn't.
No, I just decided to end it because you obviously don't want to hear an opinion that doesn't make you feel better about yourself and the way you act. So I chose to not engage you any further. Hopefully it works out for you, and you won't have to try and better yourself.
Makes sense. Although how should I better myself for others?
It all depends on what the worst is? If it is a bipolar disorder with fits of rage and destruction turned into abuse then I wouldn't want you at your best.
But if it's bad period cramps, pms, getting sick etc I'd take care of you as best I could and prob better.
In terms of behavior, I do not agree. I feel like its an excuse to behave like a bitch.
In terms of position in life, I agree. If "at my worst" means sick, poor, injured, etc and best means financially stable, healthy and fit
also wasn't marylin monroe a cheating thot drug junkie who slept with married men? why do people look up to her?
She didn't actually say this.
It's just an excuse for bad behavior. Nobody 'deserves' anything - you get what you get for the effort you put in. No mature adult wants to babysit another adult. If you're a misbehaving woman then no one wants your best, whatever that is.
I disagree because many people see their partner as hero. No one can rescue you. You can rescue yourself. I understand we all need help time to time. That is ok but expecting everything from him is just stupid and not fair.
This is very true.
I feel like a lot of people use this as an excuse to be an asshole. I always try to give people my best because I just think of it as being a good person.
True.
Because if a person isn't willing to be there for me when I'm going get through some things, they don't deserve and are not worthy to enjoy my good days with me.
True.
But some people use this line as an excuse for shitty behavuour.
Bad life situations are normal.
That's true. Well if a person is continiously terrible and doesn't change, then yeah it's be good to distance yourself from them
disagree: depends on your worst... is it a 2 year meth binged?
What's your best? Saving money on tooth paste because you have mush mouth and no teeth from meth?
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Lolz. Funny.
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I agree with the duality because it has become a meme, which means it has high empirical value.
People with chronic mental diseases such as anxiety and depression will have lows. And they will have highs. And these are uncontrollable factors, and not excuses.
In such cases, yes.
No, I agree wholeheartedly. There are people in my life right now who feel they deserve nothing but the best of me but are completely unwilling to see my humanity or forgive my flaws. They think they have a right to my always putting my best foot forward, and not have to deal with me when I go through shit. Those are the kinds of people I wish would just vanish from the top of the earth. They need to learn a serious lesson.
Funny reading through the comment. To all the people who say the "won't tolerate" or put with it when somebody shows them their flawed side or better yet, that this quote is an excuse to be an asshole... remember this question on GaG where a user asked something along the lines of: Are you only ever as good as you allow people to treat you? Basically saying that if you don't stand up for yourself, it's your fault if people treat you poorly. THAT is the example of an excuse to being asshole. Handling someone at their worst does not mean you have to let them treat you like an asshole. It means they're going through tough times and might not function at their best. Very different ballpark.
People who only want you at your best are called "fair weather friends".
Disagree. Many people at their worst are actually extremely fucked up or mentally ill, destructive or even evil and need to fucking fix that before anyone should be willing to tolerate an ounce of their bullshit.
You sound angry... seems like you're one of those people...
I honestly agree. I was raised that not everyone is perfect and not all relationships are perfect. It depends on what type of person he is though, in the past my second boyfriend was showing signals that he was becoming abusive.. But if it's normal behavior, I can handle it. My boyfriend has attitudes, and no one likes it but I can handle them. He's a great a guy that has a few minor things about him that for some looks at it as bad.
One should always try to be the best version of oneself. When someone is at their worst, they're oftentimes completely irrational, irritable and not clearly communicating the problem. Get your shit together and we shall see whether we can handle it as a team. Isn't that the point of a relationship, somehow?
Handle you at your worst. You got to tackle the root of the problem, not the symptoms. If you can't handle yourself first, you don't deserve help, that's how the dictum should go.
I agree because a relationship, a real relationship is supposed to be built upon the bond that two people share. Sure there's stuff like tinder or casual hookups but dating is supposed to be something for two people who WANT to spend time together. If you can't handle that person you claim to love at their lowest point, then don't bother trying to get them to their highest point.
Disagree.
"Deserve" You lost me there. What are royalty? There are 3.5 BILLION women on the planet. Tell us more about how people don't deserve you.
lmao
Agree to an extent. Some people are freeloaders and only want to show up for a piece of the success.
But a lot of people are only at their best until they have what they want. Then they'll take advantage and hold the hopes of a better future over the heads of those who support them.
If theyre talking about attitude then I don't agree. If theyre talking about life problems. Going downhill, not having a good job, then yea I agree. I wouldn't want people who were not there for me when I was not in my greatest moments in life but then all of a sudden want to be around me when i finally have a nice house, nice car, high paying job.
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Lolz, this is funny.