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I told my wife when we first started dating that i dont do the silent treatment, meaning both i won't give her the silent treatment and i will not accept it from her. I explained to her that if she did that she would be out on the streets on her ass in a heart beat because its incredibly childish to behave in that manor.
If you really dont like it, break up with him. He obviously is not ready for a grown up relationship.
Be careful how you withhold sex. It’s completely fine to not have it if you are in not in the mood. But don’t EVER do that just to punish him. Instead tell him you are just not in the mood at the moment. Don’t ever use that “supermarket” line again. Don’t ever withhold sex because it gives you a sense of power. That’s only a temporary play and he will eventually walk if you over do it.
He’s angry and frustrated but doesn’t know how to express his negative emotions because men are taught that being too direct scares females. I’ve been there myself.
Tell him he is welcome to open up about what he is angry about and you will listen. Tell him you won’t punish him for being honest.
Totally agree with you 👌
Just realize before you make radical judgments about what an asker' SO is (loser, asshole) and what should be done (break up), even with a detailed story like this, you're only getting a very partial, incomplete, and biased view. He is prob not treating you much different or worse than you treated him.
Honestly, he sounds like a little bitch. A relationship will never work without communication. If he's not willing to do that and if he's not willing to put himself in your shoes and see where your coming from, then drop his ass. Believe me, you'll find a man who will treat you the way you should be treated.
It's the same the other way around.
She doesn't seem to want to do the same or accept to get the same treatment she gives to him.
Hi how are you
Ask him what's wrong. If he tells you what's wrong but you arrogantly ignore it and think you're right than you're a pathetic child. If he refuses to tell you than you're not together with a man but a child who's looking for a mommy and not a wife. If one person is standing in the way of fairness becoming the norm than that's the person who should go be useless with the rest of the useless childish embarrassments of society.
Interesting. I raised a poll on labido mismatches on here and most people said its 50/50... Lower labido needs to step up occasionally and higher labido needs to understand and step back occasionally. You two really need to talk about this, or end it. His harboring resentment will make you resent him, and you really do not want to go there.
How clear it looks that he is just using you for his sexual needs and he only loves you for that. He won't like to go out in social gatherings with you nor would he go for dates or movies because that will just waste his time 😔... I know it will be hard but you have to be strong and forget him now
Sounds like his “all you can ride for free” ride is over and he doesn’t want to buy any tickets. Don’t belittle yourself by chasing after him. Sounds like you’ve done no wrong. If things remain this way. Learn something from it and move on. Life’s too short for games.
Sounds like the ship has sailed even if you guys still might be official. If not official, there's a high chance he's probably talking to someone who will give him what he wants in my opinion. Do not go begging. Right now it seems like he has lost his spark for you or is occupied with another and that is why he is not picking up or responding late with one word answers
Ask him how he felt when you spoke about the sex thing. Perhaps he got offended, feeling unwanted or brushed off, and I'm sure it wasn't your intention.
Be calm and take your time to explain how you feel about it.
Sorry I don't buy it. You've probably exaggerated his pestering you for sex. Wish we get to hear the other side of the story as well. My guess is you clearly said something that really hurt him that there was nothing else to debate hence the silent treatment. If he didn't like you, he wouldn't have agreed to doing other things together. I also think he's considering moving on but finding that difficult at the moment
Okay honestly he sounds like a chick. I've never acted like that in my life. I mean I've had a girlfriend that never wants to have sex and we did it like 2 or 3 times a month. But I kinda just got used to it. Though she didn't act like she cared anyways. The point is he is childish. You should chase after him. Make him chase you.
I use to act like that he will grow out of it. If he doesn't give u sex do like my wife does and walk around naked, bend over infront of him for no reason. He will give in. For the games he's playing act like it doesn't even bother u, he will see that its not and it will eat him alive on the inside
I think u are right and ur boyfriend dosen't love u and it's a child. He just want to have someone for have sex... I'm sorry but I think ur relationship dont go many far. U should ignore him completly if he have some another interest on u, he will chase u, if not forget him.
Well if you really like him then you will need to chase him and say this same words” I am so sorry my love let’s not fight about stupid things anymore I understand your point and I hope you can understand mine also let’s start again please I love you” if he treats you bad after that leave him
I disagree. If she chases him and starts pandering to him, he'll think the silent treatment gets whatever he wants. Also, that doesn't solve the problem in any way. That just acts like it didn't happen, which will only brew resentment in the future. He needs to stop acting like a child, and they both need to communicate what they want and expect from each other respectfully, then compromise on a solution.
This dude is a real mind fuck. You can't see this? If a woman was to do to me the way this guy is doing unto you... I would tell her to stick that broomstick up her ass and suck it like a lollipop. I would be gone so fast her head would spin.
Treat it like what it is.
A weak-as-fuck conflict tactic undeserving of respect or recognition.
Tell him "That's right, tail between your fucking legs" and then go about the rest of your day until he decides to be an adult.
I personally would sit down with him and try to talk about the issue and try to find a solution, if he can't do that and keeps acting like a child I would be done with him
Well time to break up. The dating games got to serious which damages a lot of couples. He also just showed how he really is and you dont want to give in and should not. So he shoved you away.
It sounds like your dating a boy not a man. If he is given you the silent treatment do to not having sex. Well it's time to move on and find a man, or a boy that wants to be a man. If your still with the guy and he is still acting this way, don't include him in couple things. Like getting food, or something, just say o I forgot to include you or just wasn't thinking. If he doesn't change his attitude, he just wants you for sex