Do you think social media has made it harder for relationships to last?

I answer yes to my question considering before social media was in the picture it was easier for a guy to get a girl considering the girl didn't have much to choose from. A girl would be attracted to the confidence of a guy that had the balls to ask her out , but nowadays a girl has plenty of options with social media right at her finger tips with cell phones, considering she is bombarded by lots of guys and this is vice versa as well. I believe divorce rates are higher now and infidelity cuz it's now easier to flirt with someone considering back then there was usually only 1 phone in the house that everyone shared. I'm not saying affairs didn't occur back then but nowadays it's easier for them to occur What do you think?

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  • Yes and no.
    People get hooked on it forgetting all about the person who is sitting right next to them.
    They can look at other peoples facebook and instagram wishing that their lives could be better creating a negative comparison.
    The temptation to look up an ex can be too much for some.
    I had an ex send me a message and because we parted on good terms I responded but I kept it PG. I told him that I'm married with 2 boys and was 7 months pregnant with a girl. Next thing I know he was asking me for a root😳 I shut that bitch down but not before I told the creep off, yes I did tell my husband about it.
    My husbands married friend had his facebook set up in a way that made him look like he was single. He is divorced now after leaving his wife for another woman but that relationship didn't last either.
    But of course there's more than just facebook, instagram and twitter it's really hard to keep track of what's out there.

    My message is simple.
    Give your partner, family and friends more attention than you give your phone

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    • I agree must people get so drawn in by comparing their lives to others which makes them feel that grass is greener on the other side or makes them feel like their life should be batter then it is. And Yes i bad a few ex girlfriends dry to reach out to me basically rrying to get another shot at me and i was like hell no, but i thought if that happened to me that bad to happen to all the married cpuples out there and i can see why that could cause trust issues in a relationship leaves question marks considering all your partner is going to do is tell you what u want to hear. Its sad social media made it harder for relationships with trust issues

  • Yes. Social media has caused relationships to be destroyed because people have become fully dependent on it, like posts about how a relationship should be or if the guy isn't posting you 24/7 he's hiding you and vice versa. I honestly think people have made their relationships dependent on social media and it's actually sad and pathetic.

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    • I agree , i can't tell you how many times i went on to Facebook and saw articles about how you know if your partner is cheating on you and then you read the shit and thibk wow that bitch is cheating on me etc... or you go on to Facebook and an ex messages you bringing back a flood of memories then making passes at you etc.. without social media we wouldn't even think to pursue that person considering they wouldn't of even contacted us if it wasn't so easy , hot saying everyone is a cheater but social media bad Made it easier to pursue someone

    • I agree. I've also realized that social media has glamorized cheating and honestly it's just a horrible thing.

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  • Everything you do or choose to use, but anything has its limit and know how to use it.

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    • Secondly just cuz a Door is in front of you is open and you know it is wrong to enter, but u choose to enter. Then who is the one to blame. The door or the person choosing that door.

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    • Hmmm... I would take it even another step further; the way one uses something is significant, but *the intention behind* the act is usually all important in most regards, but also (quixotically & inexplicably) it's the single hardest thing to accurately perceive without assumptions and labels which bias one's understanding by trapping it in some context of your worldview...

      Take, for instance, the phrase, "I love you"... it has *so many* connotations & meanings of such variety, there's a reason why thespians, writers & dramaturges make a living off them.

    • Yea I agree but well wisdom is lost

  • I think we got spoiled with it. We were not ready for it. Now we're hooked on it and our lives are greatly damaged. We should go back on it. Start giving people phones when they're 15 again. Have a much tighter internet service. That's what i love about That 70s Show. They just sit in the basement every day and bust eachother's ball not being each others rooms writing stuff about social media that is highly hypocritical

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  • Yes and no. Yes bc we forget how to socialize face to face with a person. We dont know how to ask someone out irl. So we don't. And no bc with social media our dating pool is so much larger its great i love it. However with only seeing a profile pic and texting you form expectations and ideas in your head and then end up dissapointed when the person isn't whom you think they are or how they act is a bit different and bc of those expectations we become less attracted and we break a good thing off in search of finding someone that fits that person in our head. We all act differently behind a keyboard than we do irl. We are less afraid of consequences, less afraid of hurting people and as a result we created ghosting and other really shitty things that end up a popular thing to do in online dating. Ghosting has got to be the worst thing you could evet do to someone you are supposedly in a relationship with. That shits terrible. And i think if everyone didn't ghost and just work things out relationships would last longer. And if everyone stopped forming unrealistic expectations based on someones selfies or whatever than relationships would last longer too.

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  • I think yes too, for the same reasons as yours but also now a days people are so addicted to social media that they dont see the person infront of them... when your partner spends more time on their phones then they do with you a relationship is destined to fail

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    • Yup i totally agree , thats why if i am with some one i put my phone away, i thibk it s disrespectful

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    • Not sure why my spell check is acting retarded and making me look retarded lol

    • Thats alright, i still understand what you're trying to say

  • Yes.
    And I hate it.
    I know I have a choice to give up on social media but I would just be isolating myself from my friends.

    I don't like a relationship that is online. WE ARE A DIFFERENT PERSON WHEN TEXTING. Its not the same.

    I am so annoyed by the fact that people won't keep their phones away while there is a chance of interacting face to face. It ruins everything and makes it "doing it for the pictures".

    It just makes people lonely.

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    • I don't Know you... But i am me, i dont become another person when i text 🙃

    • @GoodGuy131 Obviously you don't become someone else. But when you interact with a person when you cannot see their expression and emotions, it isn't the same.
      Thats why there are sometimes situation where you don't know how to talk to a person in real life with whom you text daily.

  • Yes, it has. The reason I say this is because it can cause jealousy and tons of insecurities. People have gotten this mindset that if you aren't posting about them on a day to day basis your hiding them from someone. Social media has made relationships harder to last because people depend on it fully.

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  • Times are changing and now it's easier to contact through social media or even find a soul mate. I think no, social media didn't make it harder for relationships to last. If you love your SO, then you shouldn't be bothered by anything and anyone. For me, it's easier. I'm in a long distance relationship and I find it difficult to live without him by my side, social media make it easier, I can contact him whenever I want and he'll respond when he'll see my message.

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  • Other than blaming tech and the internet for the whole mess, I believe it has to do with taking on the view of certain influences around them and maybe going along with it which can be outside the media... people can have options elsewhere and just about most places they go; social media was basically a contribution to it.

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  • Yeah, but not because of infidelity, but because it's another form of communication that has to match for it to work as a couple.
    My friend told me while she was long distance (she saw him on weekends) that she would receive one phone call during the week if she was lucky, but normally she'd just get one text.
    Imagine if she was the type to post snapchats everyday...

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  • No. Social media has never been an issue for me. Yes, I get hit on online, but my man isn't bothered by it. He knows I chose him and will continue to do so. So, where is the issue?

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    • Well if he is ok with you getting hit on, then he must be flirting as well for him hot to care

    • He doesn't, actually, neither of us do. He just knows I'm attractive and subsequently, it's going to happen. He couldn't get with me knowing that and assuming all men would cease to find me attractive - obviously he did. We're both perfectly capable of being loyal, and he doesn't even have social media lol.

  • It depends how they're using it in their relationship. I'm in a LDR so for me it's really helping.

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  • I completely agree with you i hate it but thats the truth. Smartphones and all the social media outlets have made people feel they need to fit in with the trend of social media which has given so many options and even on this app there's constant advertising for the array of dating sites. For people in relationships its very hard because people fight and when you should be working through it your phone is being bombarded with singles looking for a fling or what not and when your in a time of doubt already your extremely vunerable and many fall prey to these advertising schemes. Along with that fact that smartphones have made hiding infidelities so so easy. People now do not have to worry about working things out or there partner finding out about there indiscretions so it puts everyone on edge with a constant worry

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  • Depends on the age of the individual. I'm not a social media troll and besides FB to keep up with friends and family members, this is the only app I come on for fun. There has always been infidelity and divorce rates past the 60s have always been high. So if your wanting to meet people or you feel inclined to have an affair, whether it be in person or online, it's easy. I have to disagree that a girl had less choices than prior to social media. We women have too many choices, it's more the males who have less. It's always been that way. We just have to bat our eyelashes.
    People have been having affairs since forever. Now it's just advertised more and there is less discretion.

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  • it's provided more options for temptations and unsavoury behaviours; in essence, it's brought out that dark side / shadow of us

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  • No, friends make it hard coz they loves to act as Cupid.

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  • Yes because my so-called girlfriend would use it to talk to everyone but me.

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  • Yes, social media has such a big influence on our lives in general I think

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  • not at all

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  • Yes I do

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  • No I don’t

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  • Ugh, those darn OPTIONS!! 😡😂

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  • Yes all the ways.

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  • I think these days social media doesn't just influence, but actually is the shape of modern social engineering. As I watch "dating" these days (which is light years beyond my parents "bring them flowers" generation; my generation got doors slammed in our faces for doing that), but these days the "smart ones" (guys & girls) seem to use social media to "check the crowd's reaction" (somewhat equivalent to how earlier generations would "bring them home to mom"; only that never really panned out as planned; I mean, did any of those ever turn into "she's a keeper! If you lose her I'll disown you..."? Lol)

    But so much weight is placed on the social opinions of others, most people at least filter through what others think, even though these people might have no clue as to the individuals, situations, or dynamics. (That's why the older generations beleived in letting them visit each other's families for awhile *before* deciding to yay or nay).

    But a "groomed" profile online is just a matter of money, and "social standing" can be measured by hits & is as easy as a photoshoped pic.
    I actually deleted most of my social media; not because I'm antisocial, but because it used to empower folks who were introverted and shy into socializing more... ... now its just used to further separate them from the flocks of "groomies"... Wow. Just what we needed; more leashes. :/

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  • No, I don't agree with that. Although social media has widened the opportunities to meet people, there have always been opportunities to cheat or meet other people, unless you were in the middle of nowhere, and you still can't be that far from someone anyway in order to do something with them.

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  • If a person doesn't know how to use it appropriately and moderately, or know how to stay away from it, then yes. If that person is addicted to it, then they are bringing a big, but subtle problem to the relationship. They are setting the relationship on false expectations based upon what they "see" on social media. They also are continuously pulling themselves away from the relationship by being distracted.

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  • Yes it really is to get a good date through social media nowadays because the term "lying" got in. Everyone can pretend something they are and in reality face to face you are like is that the person I've talked to? And how am I supposed to feel your sentiments through a screen? I think social media it's the worst place to get a girl/date

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  • I don't think so but there's a lot of lying going on on social media:

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  • It could be, but people will always adapt and find a way to stray. Social media and the such have made everything geared towards instant gratification, which normally is a part of cheating.

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  • Yes, with girls getting so many DMs on their social media from hundreds of guys, that means that they have plenty of options at their finger tips making them more likely to replace you or cheat on you if things don’t go as she expects.

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  • I completely agree with you. Social media has spoiled relationships and their is no way we could get back to the older days other than through self realization.

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  • Hell yes. For women especially it is too easy to stray from a realtionship and they often do. Cheating usually starts with a bit of flirting on a website.

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  • All the sexual energy is going into social media, where it's way harder to form into something meaningful.

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  • We are now so used to swiping on a screen that we have forgotten how to truly socialize and communicate.

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  • Absolutely!! Nowadays it is easier to interact with different kinds of people. Whenever they have disagreements they intend to look for someone else who supports their part.

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  • Yes. Relationships need intimacy, intimacy involves privacy, and social media has proven to be detrimental to both.

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  • I don't think social media has much of an effect, I blame porn and our overly sexualized society for this

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  • I disagree. I think SM is bad for relationships, yes, if you allow it to be so.

    I mean why should the woman who is with you NOT think you are the best man out of the world filled men?

    Usually, when a GOOD woman (hoes and golddiggers need not apply) starts seeking other dudes it's because the guy got soft somehow, either physically or mentally.

    Women want a hard man with hard beliefs and a hard dick.
    I've learned girls want to be with their boyfriend or husband, but if he's not manning up the way he should be, she'll leave.

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  • Sure. ... why would relationships last when you can swipe right to find a new one lol.

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  • Depends on the person that how does he/she makes use of it.

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  • Just the fact some women check a man's social media to even consider being interested makes me sick

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  • No It made it easier especially from long distance relationship

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  • Probably, depending on where you keep your hos contacts

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