Is it something you’d be willing to base your choices on, in the absence of something more tangiable or do you need to have definite evidence of wrong doing even if your partner isn’t forthcoming with the facts before taking action?
- I trust my intuition and would act based on it and my suspicions alone
- I trust my intuition but would wait for something to back up my feelings
- I don’t listen to my intuition and feel it’s better to wait for proof or for them to come clean
- I don’t have intuition
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For years whenever something of mine would go missing I would default to the idea that someone must have moved or taken it. I might even ask people outright where they moved it or why they took it. Almost invariably I would end up with egg on my face when I discovered that I had simply misplaced it.
These days if something is missing I default to "what did I do with it" and if I ask anyone anything regarding it it's more like "did you see me holding X? and do you know where I may have left it?"
It took years to work past this very base level of distrust and to realize that my motor memory fails me a lot more often than people do. My point here is that intuitive inclinations are not to be trusted. That one should strive to have dominion over their tendencies to jump to the worst possible conclusion as their first idea of what's going on.
I trusted my intuition for a good while as it kept misfiring until the worst break up, and then I learned to distrust it with all my might. :-D I'm not saying I do a perfect job of distrusting my intuitions, but I at least learned to put in an effort.
That comes to distrusting my intuitions both ways -- intuitions that are favorable towards the person as well as intuitions that are not. Though my tendency was to see the person in too favorable of a light.
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I used to trust my intuition until I got cheated on. My intuition told me something was off but he kept lying saying it’s all in my head and I’m insecure etc. by the time the truth really came out he was long gone with no explanation. So I felt dumb for a long time for not trusting myself. I’m learning to trust my intuition again. But now I’m always trying to figure out is it my intuition or my insecurities. It’s a constant battle. I’m getting better though.
I'm one who always gives a person the benifit of the doubt unless I know some history about the person to where he/she has dirt on them. So unless I'm able to find dirt within the situation, I tend to not go overboard on just instincts alone as my "instincts" can cause me to become paranoid with trust issues.