When I went back to Europe and we started growing apart, I would remind myself of the poem which I took for a token of him in love with me. Whenever he'd say he felt distant I'd remind myself of the lovely words he wrote about me. The distance isn't the problem. Every time we are together we feel good about each others company and when we're distant, we communicate every day and miss each other.
I noticed lack of affection on his end but i assumed it was something that had to be discussed also as he would only show me affection when he wanted to have sex. In the meantime, there were times he displayed lack of any affection. He called me an old fart on my birthday not even sending me a card, the anniversary we spent with his friend, as he didn't see anything wrong with her joining. He doesn't take any pics of us, doesn't do "couple stuff" in general. It feels like we're great friends who have fun sex (although he never makes sure i have the pleasure too if you know what I mean) and who grew to love each other.
Recently I found out the poem wasn't about me but about a girl he was seeing, who wasn't really into him. I feel like I got into this relationship on false pretenses and stupid for assuming that he was in love with me when in reality he took me for granted which he admitted. Now he says things have changed completely, that he loves me and wants to prove it. He's coming for Christmas next week. What should be expected of him as a sign of a change of his feelings