Obviously appearance grabs your attention at first. Personalities is the onething that's going to hold your attention the longest. Maybe it's more like the best looking Apple in the bunch isn't the sweetest or the brightest orange isn't the one that's going to taist the best.
The honest to God truth is, from what I see 1,000 times daily from both genders... is that appearance is the first attraction-and personality is 1(of a few) traits that can make it last. Meaning, if they don't have the appearance, there won't be any approach, period.
I believe, by personality, you mean the "inner personality". If that is the case, it's a no brainer. "Attractive" is something "visible". You only start liking the personality after you get to know is a person. However, appearance is visible from a 100 feet away.
Our first impression is always based on appearance (on the subconscious level), then we learn the personality. Some can say that there needs to be a balance of both and I, probably, agree with that. However, when we age getting old, our beauty is "passing away" and everything left is personality we've once loved. The way a person behaves, speak, smiles, walk, snores... All these things become more important than a beautiful face.
Both is #1 for me, But I only picked Appearance because it's kinda like that saying love at first sight & I truly believe that.. I think the right one will have both... But you have to love that person inside & out.. 💯
someone could be the best looking person and be boring af... or u can have someone who is less attractive and be the most interesting, fun person u've ever met...
A beautiful looking person with a bad personality is not attractive at all but conversely a person appearing less attractive with a great personality is always going to be more attractive/appealing
The other dork blocked me, because I asked her why she wasn't capable of answering a two-option poll question. How hard is that? lol Personality will always win in my book. Of course both matter. No shit, Sherlock Holmes. lol
I think it has a lot to do with how long you expect to be with that person. Good looks fade over the years but a great personality can last a lifetime.
Of course, there are extremes. I would not have casual sex with a woman who was a terrible person even if her looks were 10 out of 10. And I dont think I could marry a woman who looked like she just walked out of an abstract art painting, even if she had the nicest personality ever.
I mean of course appearance is important too to some degree. I also need to have some sort of physical attraction that fits my standards. But personality is a must for me. If I were to divide it, it would be 20% appearance / 80% personality.
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Everyone says personality when they are exposed and being judged for their answer. When they're actually selecting a potential partner and know there is no reprecussions it's 100% looks. Go out in public and look at who's being successful and who's not. Talk is cheap peoples actions speak the truth.
That comparison makes zero sense to me. It's a false dichotomy. Why do people believe that these two things are somehow competing against eahc other in a person? I just don't get it.
@ChetAtkins If you don't understand what a false dichotomy is, while I do perfectly understand what a flawed poll is, then yes, the problem is definitely you.
Now do me a favor and take your cool beans and try to impress someone else with your insecure passive-aggressiveness, because it sure as hell isn't working on me. :)
@ChetAtkins You’re 27 and probably American. I’m 22 and I’m from Latin America and I still know what the hell a false dichotomy is. Both of these options are important, it’s not a “A or B” competition.
For things to go anywhere you have to have some things in common and enjoy each other's company.
For things to be romantic I have to be attracted to her.
They are equally important.
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People like to say Personality but no one actually means it. Don't get me wrong when you find someone attractive you want them to have the personality to match. But i don't care how winning their personality is. if they're ugly you're not going to even talk to them.
The combo is attractive. Iyou're basically asking which i would rather have? Sugar or coffee. The answer is both, i need a minimal quantity of both and the right ratio
Both. It doesn't need to be one or the other. But the one that matters most is personality. When we're both old and our looks are long gone all that will matter is our personalities.
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Obviously appearance grabs your attention at first. Personalities is the onething that's going to hold your attention the longest.
Maybe it's more like the best looking Apple in the bunch isn't the sweetest or the brightest orange isn't the one that's going to taist the best.
The honest to God truth is, from what I see 1,000 times daily from both genders... is that appearance is the first attraction-and personality is 1(of a few) traits that can make it last. Meaning, if they don't have the appearance, there won't be any approach, period.
I believe, by personality, you mean the "inner personality". If that is the case, it's a no brainer. "Attractive" is something "visible". You only start liking the personality after you get to know is a person. However, appearance is visible from a 100 feet away.
Our first impression is always based on appearance (on the subconscious level), then we learn the personality. Some can say that there needs to be a balance of both and I, probably, agree with that. However, when we age getting old, our beauty is "passing away" and everything left is personality we've once loved. The way a person behaves, speak, smiles, walk, snores... All these things become more important than a beautiful face.
Both is #1 for me, But I only picked Appearance because it's kinda like that saying love at first sight & I truly believe that.. I think the right one will have both... But you have to love that person inside & out.. 💯
You only catch a person's attention with good looks, but you actually attract a person and keep them around with an attractive personality.
Personality is held as a higher standard for me, personally.
Appearance is more attractive to me, but a terrible personality can ruin even the most attractive appearance.
someone could be the best looking person and be boring af... or u can have someone who is less attractive and be the most interesting, fun person u've ever met...
A beautiful looking person with a bad personality is not attractive at all but conversely a person appearing less attractive with a great personality is always going to be more attractive/appealing
You knocked that one out of the ball park.
@ChetAtkins thanks chet!💟
Don't thank me. You earned it.
The other dork blocked me, because I asked her why she wasn't capable of answering a two-option poll question. How hard is that? lol
Personality will always win in my book. Of course both matter. No shit, Sherlock Holmes. lol
I think it has a lot to do with how long you expect to be with that person. Good looks fade over the years but a great personality can last a lifetime.
Of course, there are extremes. I would not have casual sex with a woman who was a terrible person even if her looks were 10 out of 10. And I dont think I could marry a woman who looked like she just walked out of an abstract art painting, even if she had the nicest personality ever.
No contest. A guy can have the greatest personality but it won't matter if he isn't attractive because women will never talk to him to find that out.
Attractive guys can have shitty personalities but get loads of women anyway proven by all of the stories women tell about how bad their exes were.
I mean of course appearance is important too to some degree. I also need to have some sort of physical attraction that fits my standards. But personality is a must for me. If I were to divide it, it would be 20% appearance / 80% personality.
Everyone says personality when they are exposed and being judged for their answer. When they're actually selecting a potential partner and know there is no reprecussions it's 100% looks. Go out in public and look at who's being successful and who's not. Talk is cheap peoples actions speak the truth.
Somebody could have a cute face, but if they're attitude stinks then that would end my chances with them.
That comparison makes zero sense to me. It's a false dichotomy. Why do people believe that these two things are somehow competing against eahc other in a person? I just don't get it.
It's called a "poll" question. You either have the ability to answer or you don't. You don't. Cool beans.
@ChetAtkins Nah. You either understand what a false dichotomy is or you don't. You don't.
So yeah, "cool beans".
Yeah, that's it. LMFAO
It's not you, it's me. :)
@ChetAtkins If you don't understand what a false dichotomy is, while I do perfectly understand what a flawed poll is, then yes, the problem is definitely you.
Now do me a favor and take your cool beans and try to impress someone else with your insecure passive-aggressiveness, because it sure as hell isn't working on me. :)
@ChetAtkins You’re 27 and probably American. I’m 22 and I’m from Latin America and I still know what the hell a false dichotomy is. Both of these options are important, it’s not a “A or B” competition.
@latinabutterfly96 I think he just wanted to be smug.
I'd say they are 50/50.
For things to go anywhere you have to have some things in common and enjoy each other's company.
For things to be romantic I have to be attracted to her.
They are equally important.
People like to say Personality but no one actually means it. Don't get me wrong when you find someone attractive you want them to have the personality to match. But i don't care how winning their personality is. if they're ugly you're not going to even talk to them.
The combo is attractive. Iyou're basically asking which i would rather have? Sugar or coffee. The answer is both, i need a minimal quantity of both and the right ratio
Nice analogy 👌
Personality. No matter how good looking you are, if you have a bad personality, I find that ruins your outer appearance.
Both. It doesn't need to be one or the other. But the one that matters most is personality. When we're both old and our looks are long gone all that will matter is our personalities.