Would you hand over your cell phone to your partner to just browse through at random?

Not that I have anything to hide necessarily, but why should I ever allow anyone to browse through my phone? It is private stuff. Things that I don't share with anyone are on there. Maybe even a photo or two that would need to be explained. By not sharing I have to explain nothing. I personally would not ask her for her phone for that reason. Why is this so important to some people? Would you hand your phone over right now? Am I the only one who wouldn't and not for any horrible reason?
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I think I kept it private for so long I feel like it is my right to keep it that way. I am not doing anything wrong and I just want to feel trusted rather than feeling like I have to prove it.

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  • No. I’m not hiding anything, but I still want to have some privacy.
    I would never expect him to let me go through his phone. And I wouldn’t want to. I trust him enough to not have to snoop through it, and I hope it’s the same for him.

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    • Thanks, Julie. This is my point exactly.

    • I trust my girlfriend and i don't need to snoop to prove it to myself and I would hope that trust means I don't surrender my personal thoughts at the whim of someone who might use it against me in an upcoming argument. It is not a matter of hiding. It is a matter of respecting privacy.

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  • I go through my boyfriend's phone all the time and he never really minds. I would let him go through mine too. I've had people cheat on me before so it's good to be able to access what he has just to double check

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    • I don't understand the thumb downs but ok... He also doesn't mind that I go through his messages if it helps me relax about cheating as I have anxiety

  • Sure, but I wouldn't unlock my conversation with my friends on here and on Viber as some of my friends told me some secrets about their life that I do not want him to see. I would always make sure thing things they have said to me will always remain between me and them.

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  • The broader question is: to what extent should you have any right of privacy with respect to an exclusive partner, cohabitant, or spouse?

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    • Yes, if you must prove that you are trustworthy, then you don't really have trust. Prove it once and she will be demanding more proof a month from now.

  • I would for sure.
    My ex was s bad cheater and when I finally looked at her phone I was shocked.
    I should've checked it sooner.
    I would totally turn over my phone, in fact I would like the attention. LoL!
    She might even get to know me better by seeing what porn turns me on.

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  • to many, its like a diary.

    Do i want people to know I google stupid questions? No
    Do i want them to know im on a site called "girlsaskguys"? Hell no

    its private stuff and i never ask my boyfriend for his phone. Not because i trust him or anything because he probably does talk to other chicks but I just simply don't care. I have other things to worry about than someones phone activity

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  • I wouldn't. I have nothing to hide, but i wouldn't want anyone browsing through my phone.
    I wouldn't expect my partner to hand me his phone so why should i?

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  • I would keep my phone to myself, as I believe it is your personal space. Of course, if they were maybe suspicious I would show them proof against me cheating or anything, but I wouldn't simply hand it over. Obviously I'm young and haven't had proper commitment in a relationship, however I believe in being honest with your partner and loyal, however I don't think I would show them my personal and private things on my phone. It's my safe space.

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    • I would keep my phone to myself, as I believe it is your personal space. Of course, if they were maybe suspicious I would show them proof against me cheating or anything, but I wouldn't simply hand it over. Obviously I'm young and haven't had proper commitment in a relationship. Although I believe in being honest with your partner and loyal, I also don't think I would show them my personal and private things on my phone. It's my safe space.

    • ^ corrected version

  • I certainly don't have anything at all to hide from my husband, and neither does he.

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    • I don't have things to hide either but what if someone demanded to see your diary? Just because we are in relationships does that mean we are not entitled to any private thoughts whatsoever? I use google sometimes to find out why "she" is acting hormonal or something. I don't need her finding that and starting an argument over it. Similarly a diary reading may still up some stuff that would have been better off not read.

  • Absolutely. I have nothing to hide. My boyfriend doesn’t want to go through my phone because he trusts me, but if he ever wanted to he can. He doesn’t need to have permission to go through it. When we first started dating we both gave our phone passcodes to eachother :)

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  • Sure. Why not? I'm a writer, so I have some things on my phone related to stories, and they make absolutely no sense out of context, but if he had any questions, he could ask, and I would have no problem adding context.

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  • yeah, I've got nothing to hide. im more worried about why they would want to check up on me like that though

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  • I understand that. unless you’ve given him/her reason to question your loyalty, they may just have trust issues, and handing over your phone rarely fixes that. You should figure out which it is.

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  • Nah. I have 8GB's of porn on there. And it's all jpegs.

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  • Yep, I have nothing to hide, besides ideas for a present for her. Trust is one of the pillars of our stable and loving marriage.

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  • I believe everyone has a right to a degree of privacy, I believe treating someone in this manner is a violation of that right.

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  • Yeah. Just him though. With everyone else I keep my shit locked worse that Fort Knox

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    • Well I have more than just silly stuff on my phone. I have a lot of personal stuff on their too. Which I actually try to just Dropbox or put in Google drive and delete off my phone itself. But still, I rather people not see that. Also my text messages are important to me too.

    • Plus my personal artistic work if a big deal to me. I don't like people going through that. Or my music haha. I'm just really private

  • I would, but only if it was out of boredom of necesity. If they did not trust me and that is why they wanted to go through my phone i would be mad and not allow it.

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  • I agree, I have a lot of private things on my phone that I wouldn't be comfortable sharing with anyone. Not to mention I also have conversations with my friends on my phone about their private life that they don't want other people to know.

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  • It depends. If I trusted the person, I'd be fully willing to allow them to go through my phone as a sign of my trust. If it's early on in a relationship though, I wouldn't just on principle

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  • I have nothing to hide, so why not? I have no qualms with them searching my phone if I have nothing to hide.

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  • Nope.

    There is literally no reason for someone to go through my phone.

    Going through my phone is telling me you don't trust me, and I won't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't trust me.

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  • If they want to put the address in for the GPS or something, but never to just browse through.

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  • Sure, I have nothing to hide but some stupid memes lol

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  • In any relationship I’ve had, it never involved going through each others phones. I think it’s just a sign of trust in one another!

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  • I suppose. It's not like I'm hiding anything from him.

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  • Yah sure. If I have to keep a few random nudes of anonymous women a secret from my partner then she doesn't really know me at all and therefore not really my partner.

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  • Most probably wouldn't. I would but then after she found nothing would dump her immediately for not trusting me.

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  • Of course. There’s nothing on my phone that I need to be concerned that my partner will find.

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  • Yes I have before, I am comfortable with her knowing whatever she would like.

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  • No. If I did, she'd want to see it all the damn time.

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  • Yes I would. Only those that have something to hide would have a problem with that.

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    • I want to be trusted by not having to prove it. Plus I am technically inclined and have had others use my phone and delete stuff that I needed. My phone is very much like a diary to me.

  • Yea why not she sometimes borrows my phone because she doesn’t have one so why not

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  • I would have to hide the porn first.

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  • I have nothing to hide (on my phone) :)

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  • I think phones are the most private thing ever.

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  • Sure I have nothing to hide

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  • Sure. I have nothing to hide.

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  • Nothing to hide, nothing to fear

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  • Nah I want a relationship not an inquisition.

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  • Personally no...

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  • Sure. I’ve got nothing to hide

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  • If they asked

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  • No way

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  • Yes, if she made hers my property.

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  • Yes I would

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  • Depends on one's attitude. Some don't mind, some do.

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  • Before I found gag, I would.. But after I found gag.. Maybe not.

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  • nope will never do it again
    when I was a teen yes I let them look

    but now NOPE lol
    fuck them

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  • He is free to use it any time he wishes. I don't have secrets anymore.

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