- Break up with her
- Stay with her and figure something out together
- I just want the results
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I went through this. I know you think you’re doing him a favor but you’re definitely not. You’re building up future heartache and resentment every time you fake it.
In my case, it was all about her hangups. She didn’t feel like she deserved an orgasm because of body issues, she couldn’t stand being naked, and wanted sex to be over ASAP.
I don’t know why you’re doing it (or if this is hypothetical; I hope so) but it’s not cool!
We got through it eventually, with me being patient and reassuring with her self image while fighting back the rage and depression I felt over all the time we’d lost, which still makes me mad as hell even though it was long ago. (Now she’s a great lover and she enjoys sex.)
But that’s my situation. What’s yours? What exactly do you mean by “she doesn’t enjoy the act”?