If I were single again and had a strong interest in a girl and she told me this I must say it would be a huge red flag. This sounds like a life with her would be frigged sexually and may have the chance to turn into a sexless relationship/marriage. I could foresee it turning into a scenario to where she'd reject me regularly or enough to where I'd stop trying to initiate, I'd grow to resent her and we'd probably break up or divorce eventually so I would assume this is going to be a break up. I probably wouldn't just break up on the spot. We'd have to have some serious talks about this and I'd pick her brain over what is going on, how she feels, what are the chances this could work out to where those feelings wouldn't apply to me... I could be special enough to her that those sexless feelings she's had in the past would go away and she'd desire me because I made her feel loved and special, but unless something really encouraging was discovered it would be a break up. I couldn't stand being in a sexless relationship or feel close, content and satisfied if my partner didn't really want sex and physical intimacy and the spiritual high you can get from connecting like that.
What if she agreed to have sex with you so you can enjoy it? But the downside would be that you know she herself isn't liking it.
It wouldn't matter. I couldn't and wouldn't be enjoying it if she told me she isn't liking it. That ruins it. If she truly felt like that (she'd be 100% fine and content if we never had sex, she never wants physical intimacy with me) than I'd break up. It would be impossible to be happy or fulfilled or satisfied being with her. We'd be completely incompatible.
If sex isn't something that's comfortable for her to engage in, I'd respect her choice and back off from the subject. If she prefers to wait before pursuing something so intimate, I can certainly wait. If she never wants to have sex at all, I'm ok with that as well. The important thing I want her to know is that I'll respect her choices and be as supportive as I can to her to show I'm empathic, understanding and loving! It wouldn't be right to force her to do something she doesn't like and I'd certainly wouldn't break up with her over this if I believe she is my significant other for life. Relationships are all about compromising and being able to understand the couple's wants and needs. While sex in itself feels absolutely divine in pleasure, it's not a requirement for me to be in a happy relationship! If I can go 6 years without having sex with my current girlfriend, I'm sure I can wait longer! I want her to know that I care and love her; to treat her like an equal and respect her to the highest degree.
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I assume she is a healthy person, sexually speaking. In this case, the "fault" lies in me. So communication is the way to go. The end result may not make her a sex addict, but I think if I can give her at least an orgasm each time we have sex, then she will like sex, eventually. (Reason: All of us, men and women, are sexual beings.)PS: But if she is medically unable to have sex, then very likely I'll break off. I'm a sexual person.
I mean she doesn't like the idea of sex in general, not that your bad in bed
I a "Software Guy". I reasoned very strongly.To me, there is no such thing as a healthy person doesn't like sex. I believe if I play my part well, especially through communication outside the bedroom, I can motivate her to "like the idea" of sex, and then try it, with her hoping to enjoy sex after we enter the bedroom. ("Divide and Conquer" method LOL.)As far as my pride is concerned, I managed to make my first girlfriend, a virgin who lost it to me, overcome her shyness to sex (not all, but good enough, I think) before we broke off :-)
I dont need sex every dayBut i do need enough to subdue urges. I also need a woman who is willing to have kids. So.. its doableAlso it means she probably hasn't had a lot of partners lol, which is always a pluse
I'd work something out with her but respect her wishesI don't want have sex with a girl whose not ready and Idon't want her to worry cause i wouldn't break up with herlove means more to me than actual sex.
Try to convince her. (I wasn't good at that when I was 18)
Continue dating her, i don't date people for sex purpose 😂😂
I'd try new things. New styles, position, toys, vibrator etc
I'd bid her a fond farewell.
I have a high sex drive so I need a parter that has the same or else it's not gonna work out, if she don't like sex then she ain't dating me
If she were to have sex with you anyway because she knew you would enjoy it, but isn't enjoying it herself, what would you do
If she’s isn’t enjoying it I would not be enjoying it so yup I’d leave, she’s got to find somebody that doesent like sex either
What is the point of even trying if she has zero enthusiasm for sex?
Perhaps she still wants someone to be with a love, but is uncomfortable with the idea of sex
Or it just doesn't feel good
She has every right to feel that way, but why would I stay in a relationship when sex is important to me and not to her?
If she were to have sex with you anyway because she knew you would enjoy it, but isn't enjoying it herself, what would you do it that scenerio?
No, long term that isn't sustainable. I can't have sex and feel good about it if she's just doing it for my benefit.
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