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They have always been work. Today people aren't into that. Work. It's not sexy as it once was.
I don't know if it's so much the work as it is the end results. Relationships are always a gamble. You give and there's no guarantee it'll ever be returned. If you have enough bad relationships it hampers your willingness to give. And it's just a death spiral from there.
@ChiTown33 Sorry but it is the WORK. If you are afraid or a beta male that is scared of commitment then that is a totally different story and I would be happy to debate that on another occasion. Life is a gamble... Love is gamble... sometimes when you "Pray for rain you have to deal with the mud." Sometimes people give up because they get a little bit of mud on them and that is unfortunate and totally their choice!
Everyone's entitled to their opinion i guess.
@ChiTown33 Yes but you responded to me so... I replied!
And i was pointing out your post was a little simplistic. If you're happy with that that's fine. I can only lead a horse to water.
@ChiTown33 You have no argument. Get lost Squidward!
Just how I see it.The reason people say relationships are too much work is because everyones opinions matter now. Everything is streamed online now so everyone is in everyone's business. On top of that people want "perfect." The perfect body, perfect personality, perfect everything in the sence of society instead of what they want. Whats "perfect" for one person isn't going to work for someone else. Plus our society has given into the idea of "You're special. Everything about you matters and dont let anyone change you but if you're too different you'll become an outcast or a weirdo." That's just how todays generation is. Yes you're special and yes you shouldn't let someone change you but on the same note you're just another face on the street and you have to learn how to adapt to not only life but for the relationship. You will have to make some sacrifices and learn to understand that not everything revolves around you. But people can't seem to understand that so after one argument "she's a bitch" or "he's a asshole" there's no trying anymore. People want to jump ship the first sight of issues instead of work it through sadly.
They are no more work today than they were 10, 20, or even 70 years ago. The only thing that has changed is perception.Instant gratification has become a norm. Want a decent meal? Pop in the microwave, and you have it in a few minutes. Want a TV show or movie? Stream it when you want. Need cash? Apply online and get it within 5 minutes. Want something? Order it online and it’s at your door in 24 hours. Need advice? Pick your social media, and you have it in minutes (good or bad).Overall we don’t have to wait for much of anything. We get what we want, when we want it, how we want it. Without much effort on our part. There are some people who just expect things to be easy all the time.These same people then get into a relationship and become confused. “Wait, I have to put in effort? That wasn’t part of the deal. This supposed to just work.” Sorry, this isn’t a movie.Relationships have always taken effort. That will never change. Perceptions will, but if you want a relationship to work it will take - um - work.
Bam! Your last two paragraphs summed it up.
Everything is too much work and for good reasons. You always have to constantly try to please your partner. Your partner can be moody at any given time for no logical reason. It's expected for you to get sexual, even when it constitutes sexual harassment on the unwanted partner, and call it 'well that is what a dating couple is supposed to do', and then you have the 'if there is no sex, it's a friendship' jokesters. Men don't really want to pay for the first date anymore. Now you have to split. You got to wait a certain period to 'text' or talk to them so you won't appear needy. People giving you unconsolidated advice. People don't know to COMMUNICATE anymore. Always asking ridiculous 'does she/he like me?', 'is this person still attracted to me?' They do NOTHING to start any kind of relationship. And it's very frustrating that we have so many regressed children instead of adults. This is a toss away society. And hardly anybody wants what you want or shares your values. I realized that dating was never for me. I am content being celibate and unavailable. Many relationships today are not even relationships. I call it sim life. Traditional courting was much simpler and to the point. It had a purpose. These days people don't even KNOW what their purpose is for living. Dating should never have to be this hard. Everything in life requires work, don't get me wrong. But when your dealing with people who put you through the wringer, have no respect for your needs, let alone know how to maintain a proper relationship with you, they give you hell.
"'its expected for you to get sexual, even when it constitutes sexual harassment on the unwanted partner, and call it 'well that is what a dating couple is supposed to do', and then you have the 'if there is no sex, it's a friendship' jokesters.""Well I mean yeah, you're dating so physical intimacy is a part of dating/relationships. It doesn't have to be right away, but it does have to be at some point in time during the relationship. Otherwise it isn't a relationship/dating, its a platonic friendship.
Your not supposed to do that at all. That is not what a relationship is supposed to be. Your supposed to wait for marriage for that. If other peop le want to screw up themselves that's on them. Not me. That's wrong. You always talk about a person's believes and respect them. No, you people are too horny and there is no boundaries.
That is an excuse to hurt somebody out of selfishness. I'm not getting hurt.
Wait for marriage? What is this? the 1700's? Also, why even get married when the guy can get sex without any sort of commitment? Especially since marriage doesn't actually benefit the guy.
@DWD94 Because sex is a marriage and marriage is all about sex. It doesn't matter if it's 1700, or 2019. You have to respect people. "Also, why even get married when the guy can get sex without any sort of commitment?" first of all, if a guy wants to whore, let him be a whore. Marriage benefits everybody, the rules never changed. Its people doing dumb things and then complain about what they got to do. If you don't take it seriously, why does somebody, let alone a woman have to take you seriously? She can use you too. I don't have time for picking up dogs. I respect myself too much to treat my relationships like trash. Any guy who cannot respect me could walk. I don't care how rich or handsome he is, I won't miss him. I can live by myself a virgin. Safer than ending up like my late mother who died because of her sexual choice led to HPV and then terminal cancer. No way.
You, people, choose not to commit and be serious. That's not my problem what happens to others who do wrong. At least I am faithful of myself and to myself.
"Marriage benefits everybody, the rules haven't changed"LOL! By everybody, you mean women right? Men stand to lose everything in marriage. First off, weddings themselves are expensive and the bride is the focus of the wedding. The groom is just there..Secondly, most women aren't marriage material. They refuse to cook, clean, and take care of themselves physically yet they have a laundry list of demands for men.Third, most divorces are initiated by women. And when divorce happens, the man loses everything. Sorry but I'd rather continue casually dating. Any benefits from marriage can be found elsewhere, including sex. Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
@DWD94 Everybody as in MAN AND WOMAN. "Men stand to lose everything in marriage. First off, weddings themselves are expensive and the bride is the focus of the wedding. The groom is just there.." As the Maid of Honor to my close friend's 1st wedding before her divorce, allow me to just say men lose everything in marriage because he does NOTHING to secure his marriage in the first place.1. If you think marriage is a joke. Don't get married. Bad enough premarital sex is a sin.2. Do NOT get married with the idea of divorce. You do whatever you got to do to make sure your family is secure. 3. NEVER marry somebody who doesn't share your morals, values, virtues, principals, religion, faith, beliefs, about love, marriage, life, sex, children, politics, family life, career, etc. 4. Many of you hop in the sack with the WRONG KIND OF PEOPLE. 5. Weddings are NOT that expensive. Its all about what YOU and they choose to do. There is nothing wrong for going for what you want. But you must be realistic and budget properly. You have to think about these things as a child or teenager. My close friends ALWAYS wanted to get married, and they had the money and the resources to do it. 6. It is the HUSBANDS time as well. If he doesn't want any commitment with any woman. Then he should remain to himself and be celibate as me. Not lead her on. It's disrespectful to waste others time and stop her dream. And that dream should be shared with you."Secondly, most women aren't marriage material. They refuse to cook, clean, and take care of themselves physically yet they have a laundry list of demands for men." So here is my question to you dumb men? WHY oh WHY are you going AFTER girls who can't cook, won't cook, clean and do the basics for herself? I can do those things. My close FRIENDS can do those things. That is why you start off as friends first for a long time, get to know her background, get to know her FRIENDS, and FAMILY and you do NOT DATE HER until you know all you need
to know to sacrifice for her. Too damn lazy. You're no different than these dumb chicks. Who are you to judge? "Third, most divorces are initiated by women. And when divorce happens, the man loses everything." And you don't think that women don't suffer either? The children if any? EVERYBODY suffers. When my close friend had to get her divorce out of her husband's choices, I wept for her! I suffered for her! It hurt her so bad she needed counseling because it was toxic. All she wanted was to be a wife, to have children, and everything she tried to build, he destroyed! Instead of getting them a place to live, he shacked them up in his parents house. When she had thousands in the banks, he left it under a hundred dollars to do WHAT? Smoke weed, buy weed, watch porn, drink and buy unnecessary things. They had enough money for an apartment and the deposit, he did NOTHING. Every job he gets, he quits in less than TWO WEEKS! She paid ALL the bills, the rent, and the groceries, and cooked for his entire family, mowed the lawn and tire herself to death. ONLY to sit on his butt and tell her, she doesn't expect him as a MAN. You are not married, buddy. You have no idea the hell that comes with dealing with people you try to share a life with and have them try to destroy you because their either jealous, envious, bitter, etc. Your suppose to work together as a couple and you destroy each other. Disrespect each other. All the things you do before marriage, you carry along with you. It doesn't go away until you confront the problem.
You cannot fool around with life! And that is how many of you get with the wrong crowd, end up with bad friends, lack healthy boundaries, let alone know how to even have a relationship with others. Many of you people lack proper communication skills. Marital skills, empathy skills, and the list go on. Instead of learning how to learn and grow, you lust and you think it's love when its not. You call women b's and hoes when you don't even look at yourself. And then get pissed when virgin women like me are disgusted by you and are repulsed and don't want anything to do with you. Let alone touch you. Its choice to wait and chose not to wait. Its a choice to do life right from the beginning, even if you're not perfect at it, but it's also a choice to not try and do life wrong. There are plenty of options, but not all options are equal. And when you lack wisdom and discernment, no amount of knowledge is going to help you make the proper decisions. As a man, you especially as God commanded, are RESPONSIBLE for your leadership and how you choose to lead your family. It is a wife's duty to follow your lead.
Its easy for you to say marriage benefits everyone when you're not the one who stands to lose everything from it. The man is the one who stands to lose everything. "1. If you think marriage is a joke. Don't get married. Bad enough premarital sex is a sin."According to the Bible, but why should I care about what the Bible has to say about morality? (especially when that same book endorsed slavery). "3. NEVER marry somebody who doesn't share your morals, values, virtues, principals, religion, faith, beliefs, about love, marriage, life, sex, children, politics, family life, career, etc. "You realize people change right? A person's values can change over time as well as their beliefs."6. It is the HUSBANDS time as well. If he doesn't want any commitment with any woman. Then he should remain to himself and be celibate as me. Not lead her on. It's disrespectful to waste others time and stop her dream. And that dream should be shared with you."Dont hate the player, hate the game. Not all of us want marriage, some of us just want sex. Its not a crime."So here is my question to you dumb men? WHY oh WHY are you going AFTER girls who can't cook, won't cook, clean and do the basics for herself?"Men don't "Go after" girls. Girls go after men. Women have always been the ones that have chosen men. This is true in the animal kingdom as well. Males are the ones that have to woo the females in order to attract a mate. Same is true for the human species. "As a man, you especially as God commanded, are RESPONSIBLE for your leadership and how you choose to lead your family. It is a wife's duty to follow your lead."Nah I'm done leading. I'll just do my own thing. I dont need women to tell me how to be a man.
@DWD94 No. Your selfish and bitter and being a hypocrite. People like you will never change and always stay stuck. You say why should you care what the Bible says about morality, but why the hell are you even still alive then? To waste another's time? I could lose my family, lose my virginity to somebody who used me, not help my kids and suffer as my parents suffered, how my sister is suffering, how my entire family is suffering. To be another failure. "You realize people change right? A person's values can change over time as well as their beliefs." That is not a consistent person who needs to stay on their own. Mine has never changed because I know myself. We only grow and mature with it. If it's not benefiting them and others, then they change for self. I don't use that as an excuse."Dont hate the player, hate the game. Not all of us want marriage, some of us just want sex. Its not a crime." NO, I hate sin and the people doing sin choose to do wrong and hurt others. It is a crime to God. That same crime got my mother sick and killed. And the price of sin is death. So if you want to go to hell. You go their by yourself and destroy those who want to be destroyed. People like you are evil."Men don't "Go after" girls. Girls go after men. Women have always been the ones that have chosen men. This is true in the animal kingdom as well. Males are the ones that have to woo the females in order to attract a mate. Same is true for the human species. " Either your an animal or a human being. It is choice to act like an animal. And its a choice to act like a civilized human being. And many of you are NOT humans at all. Men don't have to do jack. You chose to chase skirt instead of keeping your penis in your pants. And its a choice for women to open her legs to the wrong men. Period. I never went after some man. God called animals to be animals, and us humans to follow the rules set for us.Your done leading? Okay, be a woman then. Because your no man.
It's funny how you want to blame women for your own choice to not step up. That's why so many women use you, want you for kids and money and divorce you. I don't pity guys like you.
How am I bitter? Lol, I'm just pointing out that there is no incentives for men to get married. Out of all of us, you're the one that seems to be more emotional (especially seeing as your comment is really nothing more than a barrage of shaming tactics being used against me in an attempt to try and lambaste me into fitting into your close-minded and naive view of what a 'real man' is).Also I have no problem with being called selfish. If refusing to be a woman's disposable utility makes me selfish, then by all means, I am selfish. Until then, I'll keep fuckin around :)Like I said, don't hate the player, hate the game.
@DWD94 Shaming tactics? If you want to be a hoe, be a hoe! I don't worry about guys like you. There are better men out there. I ain't getting emotional. I just tell the truth. You are disposable. And you using women as a human sex toy shows your using and disposing of them. Disgusting. There is no game. Only sick people like you who I often see dead on the news.
Well it is a game though. Dating is a numbers game. Always has been. Dont hate the player, hate the game B)
@DWD94 Dating is not a numbers game. Never was, never will be. I don't have to waste my time playing a numbers game. I know better to be with people who share my values. You choose to be a dog. Not that hard to find one good partner and stick with them. You sound mentally ill.
Dating is a number's game for men. You don't have to waste your time playing a numbers game because its men that do most of the work. We're the ones that have to do more work when it comes to dating. If we talked to one girl at a time like you suggested, we would be single for years.
No, as I said before you people just like playing games. I know men who never did it. You don't have to put in a lot of work. Everybody puts in a lot of work. The problem is you people don't know how to have relationships properly with others. Many we don't even have proper relationship with your own parents. It all stems from your childhood and your attachment. And you have bad attachment issues. Many of you are psychologically unhealthy. You would not be single for years if you would actually know better to actually form friendships with women and pick that one girl who you know shares everything that you believing not by looks, you would have been married to that person if you both had the same desires. So please don't give me that BS excuse. Many of you pick and choose when you want to get serious and then complain when nobody really wants you.
Here we go again with the shaming language and the whole "Well if you would just stop chasing bimbos blah blah" spiel. This type of shaming tactic you're using against me ignores the fact that semi-attractive, or even unattractive women are just as problematic as women that are 'bimbos' or 'hoes', or whatever.And you say you know men who never talked to more than one girl at a time. I call bullshit. Men aren't really going to admit to that sort of thing when they're dating a girl. If a girl asks me if I'm talking to anyone else, you think I'm actually gonna tell her the truth? Hell no. And even if those men did only talk to one girl at a time, I guarantee you that they were probably single for years on end and wasted their time befriending a girl in hopes of dating her only to be told "I only like you as a friend".Talking to one girl at a time and being friends with her for a long time is a shitty way to date. Its how guys get friendzoned.
Not my problem.
Your problem is going after girls who never had any interest in you in that way in the first place. I'm the problem. You people are. It's not my problem that guys like you don't even know what kind of woman is right for you. Too busy chasing skirt.
The "these days" question is complicated. We could compare and contrast various aspects of society over the generations. The bottom line, though, is that healthy, long lasting relationships have always required work. Can you imagine being best, best friends with someone for your entire life? It is possible to do so, but it would require deep commitment and effort from both.When I was in my teens and twenties, life was relatively carefree. My friends and I pursued fun. All my girlfriends were part of that fun-seeking. Honestly, even though I liked them a lot and fell into infatuation for a while, I mainly saw them as sex objects. I think that is a function of the self-centered, not fully developed, teen brain that, according to studies, doesn't mature until a person's mid 20s.Looking back, I had no idea what love was. Teens think that the very powerful emotions of infatuation are love. So a person's chronological age is a factor in discussing relationships. There is also the fact that different individuals mature at different rates. Not only age but experience and knowledge play a part in gaining the maturity to engage in a permanent relationships. On top of that one needs the will.Speaking of my own experience again, I was in my mid-30s when I decided to settle down. By then, I was making decent money and had built up a nest egg. I wanted a partner with which to share my life. After some trial and error, I met my future wife. We dated for a year and then were engaged for a year. During that time, we got to know each other well. My respect for her intellect, logic, judgement, instincts, ethics and principles, combined with her femininity and uniquely feminine perspectives grew. She likes to pursue various ways of learning about ourselves and each other. We have even attended couples counseling on a few occasions, not because we were having big problems, but as education and as a means to keep our relationship fresh, healthy and solid. I have participated in all these things enthusiastically. Like any form of education, they made me wiser. While I am certainly no doormat, neither is she. It's something about her that I respect. But we have learned how to disagree and have discussions without causing damage to our relationship. We learn from each other. I have grown tremendously as a human being because of her. And most importantly, we trust each other completely. I wrote all this to explain why I believe healthy relationships require not only commitment, but constant effort.
Because people anymore are not willing to put much effort into anything in their life: work, home, relationships, etc. They expect everything to just fall into their laps all perfect. That is not realistic. There is a definite line where you are putting in TOO much work to a relationship that is not healthy. But good, healthy relationships will always require moderate effort from both parties.
Its just pure selfishness and narcissismPeople only think "Me, me, me"If their boyfriend or girlfriend hinders them in any way, its "A million fish in the sea" or "You dont have to put up with that" And then you can log on to tinder and match with 200 people no problem.
People are just lazier, constantly seeing unrealistic perfect relationships on tv. People are generally more selfish and impatient with others, breaking up at over the smallest things because they do not seek to love, they seek to be loved and focus on that imaginary perfect partner they have created in their head.
Society works against it now and there are so many distractions. It can be done but the work ethic of it has been thrown out the window. Maybe it’s because there’s a collective drop in morale. I know how to be a good wife because I was a good one. Now that I’m older, there is just so much selfishness not sure I could even be patient with someone like that.
They are work. Differences, hurt emotions, arguments, make-ups, dropping your ego, romancing becoming selfless, putting yourself in uncomfortable positions emotionally, becoming vulnerable... This is a stupid question. It’s too much effort for a lot of people for obvious reasons.
One thing that's changed is that it's much easier for a partner to cheat because of internet and social media. Finding people is a lot easier than is used to be.
I'm sure women have their reasons to say the same but as a guy I feel it's too much effort for nothing in return. Most women today have TREMENDOUS egos and think they're more than they really are - leading to this attitude like you're supposed to 'earn' their respect and attention. It's nauseating. I'm tired of going out with women don't make a little effort to impress ME as much as they want you to do for them.
You are right.
Well you sound like a twat so fair play too them for thinking they're worth more than you.
Just because they have vaginas should not make them more worth than me.
Every guy and majority of girls want to fuck your girl. Majority if not all girls dont Wana fuck you. Majority of guys don't Wana fuck you either. You're worth pretty much nothing...
@houseofmince Their vaginas is what girls make worth than me, not their brains.
I care more about women's vaginas than I do about your brain. Most girls if not all care more about vaginas than they do about your brain.Most guys would agree if not all.
@houseofmince So the op owner was right. Why did you type like he was wrong,
Well back in the day you would have either been married off by your parents or you would get married early BC you couldn't have sex before marriage. Since divorces are more accepted and relationships last longer before marriage people have the choice to give up on them
Personally.I find them too much because I perfer a stress free life. It a game of crap shoots and lots of sacrifices along with much understanding. And explain.Emotions wear me out in the worse way.
If one is independent and doesn’t need a so, that person is nearly incapable of having a relationship and pair bonding. In this case, a relationship is difficult to maintain and takes extreme effort and pampering to satisfy that person to keep it going. These narcissistic personalities therefore require “…too much work” to have a relationship.
It seems like in relationships, you have to put in the effort to get someone to like you and try to keep it that way, like being romantic and stuff. You can't just think about yourself anymore, you have to think about them too. Those are the only points that are coming to my mind right now
This question has a list of things that I think explain why relationships seem like a lot of work. The "how to get the spark back" list is the one I'm referring to. How long did it take you to had a spark and chemistry in your relationship? ↗
People are fucking full of themselves with LOW attention spans. Everyone has been taught that they are the best and deserve something better. 2 selfish pricks in a relationship who have no desire to grow together🤷🏾♀️Worthless endeavor. PLUS with this whole new independent attitude no one needs anyone for anything. So that old school I need someone to complete me mess is gone. Women do everything as do men.
I am the best
People are now lazy and think life should be easy as they is what is projected by celebs on social media! It’s all bullshit! Life is hard. Relationships are harder... but that is what makes them so special!If it’s easy it’s too good to be true!
Because women aren't women anymore. They have a laundry list of demands while many of them have very little to offer in return.
For guys, I think it more about not wanting to buy the book when the library is free. Probably half of the women I have dated want sex within the first two dates, and nearly all within the first month. Since "sex" is often the primary goal for guys, especially younger ones, and sex is so readily available, the argument is, "Why deal with the drama and compromise of a relationship?"
It's not that they've become to much work but everyone has been through so much with their past relationships that no everyone would rather go back to their ex's than start over again with someone else,
This world became LAZY! I see people that cannot pick up their trash in my town, there are trash cans a few feet away from you. They cannot pick up after their dog when they do their business. If a man doesn’t want a relationship then he lazy I guess, he want to be single forever. If men only want sex then there a problem with getting STD.
Little lady we men have nothing to gain from relationships. It has nothing to do with being lazy. Masturbating is more fun and exciting because we get to use our imagination. Male friends are better for talking about deep stuff. Job and social life is good. Why the bloody hell would we need relationships.
Participation trophies, free handouts, and equal pay for LESS work has made people not put in enough effort before giving up.Also as others have pointed out, social media makes cheating much easier.And another thing would be liberal morals. Hooking up and being promiscuous seems much more widely acceptable these days.
People are more self envolved and aren't willing to give as much to make things work. They quit to easily because they believe there is someone easier to be with.
I think we have false expectations because we became so "me" focused, and I deserve. I also think relational dynamic changed around 60's and 70's. Relationships always work, 80 yr olds tell me this... but they say... it's a marriage not a relationsip! Now we say, it's a relationship! As if the thought being... if it doesn't work, I'll just move on, rather than thinking... we are married and that's that, we gonna work it out. It's a diff mindset. Too much work means... people don't want to change... emotionally frozen. As well, it seems people may be more emotionally damaged as the snowball of divorces, loss of parents in wars and stress increase in society. We used to work on farms all day, now we are under stress load that seems normal.
Great points, lightbulb.
More people are more individualistic and less empathetic than in the past. They also feel entitled to higher standards and get offended or disappointed at the mere thought of dating someone who seems like a weak loser
You answered your own questionRelationships, are WORK. Yes, you're not getting paid to be in a relationship but, if they weren't work, noone would want to do them. And if it's easy, you're probably not in the right relationship.True relationships, are tested under the hardest of conditions
Because people want everything on their terms all the time. If it's not absolutely 100% totally what they want, it isn't worth their time, because they will hold out until they find someone who is everything they want.
We live in a time where people will only put in work/effort if they get sex out of it. People don't want to work on creating a connection and friendship and have it blossom into something beautiful with another human being anymore. Depressing when you really think about it. Its all about mindless shallow sex and other material things.
They aren't, they're a lot of work and some people just don't like dealing with that, completely understandable. If you do find the right person though, don't shy away from putting in a little effort to make it truly amazing.
Perhaps because many have grown accustom to life being handed to them. So, for them, a relationship is work. Never felt like work to me. Time consuming however is another matter :p
Lol yes, it does consume your time. But it's totally worth it.
To much work is pooring your heart out to your girlfriend and he just blind siding you fuck relationships I prefer to be happy over stressing about some girl that doesn’t understand how much you love her 😂(my girlfriend makes me feel that sontimes)😂
Men can't get away with being horrible boyfriends or husbands anymore... Women call the shots these days.
And they never should get away with it.
Boyfriends or husbands should stand up for themselves if they don’t like something.
cause they have grown up with unrealistic expectations and never learned that relationships are freaking hard work. expecting them not to be is idiotic but they don't know better.
Sour grapes. They haven't been able to attract a partner do they pretend they don't want one.
Because most girls are hos. So either we can try to date a ho and its just going to be drama or just fuck hos.Yes i know there is non ho girls but so few its like y'all dont even exist.
Sex is easily available. That's what has changed. Women are sucking dick on first date and other women are calling it women empowerment.
Women were sucking dick on the first date when your grandparents were your age. Your point is invalid.
Awww did someone get salty?😂 In India, things were different. Nowadays, we are more influenced by the West and it's actually really wrong but trust me old man, during my grandparent's era they used to have marriages as virgins.
@Lliam exactly lol. He’s a real bitter dude.
Aww slut got pissed 😂
Only slept with one guy. But still you’re bitter af. Sex has always been easily available. You’re just mad no woman wants to date your sour ass. Yuck, you’re a serious embarrassment. No wonder why India women want to escape, and don’t like Indian men.
WoW girl! Never thought you were so serious about me!
Because everyone is expecting shit. Girls especially. Can't chill, always some bullshit drama because y'all are insecure and what not.. etc. etc.
They've been spoonfed and spoiled their whole life.Anything that requires little effort such as "where to eat" is considered "too much effort"
Be a man in the relationship and you’ll understand.
I think people changed over the years, less and less people are looking for monogamous relationships and simply dont want to put in any effort into a shared existence when they are just happier being alone. To each his own I always say.
Because they are hard work and for some people it's not worth it. It's such time and age luckily that your main goal in life doesn't have to be to get married and start a family.
Never heard anyone say that. But what I have heard is that relationships are worth prioritizing in today’s economic climate.
I just think that a bunch of bullshit its supposed to be work and anything in this world that's worth having your have to work for. So fellas let's put in that work!!!
Because people today dont really respect relationships like it was in the past, i blame a lot of it on social media , social media has changed the way people think when it comes to relationships. Instead of living a happy content life people today compare their lives tp others on social media and think the grass is greener on the other side. People from your past have easier access to come back into ypur life compared to how it was back then , which causes conflict in relationships. Most people want what they can't have
Good points, Finchie.
If people stopped for the moment and realized what they have in a relationship and stopped wanting what they dont have they would be happy. I see to many perfect cpuples break up over the stupidest shit , they can have a great partner, someone that provides , works their ass off , helps around the house , Always loving to their partner but the partner becomes selfish cuz they want more and ruin the relationship
Have you seen the requirements or dealbreakers that some women have?Must be 2 meters tallMust earn 6 figures of salaryMust have his own houseMust be rippedMust have blue eyesMust have specific zodiac signMust have same views as her (political or religious or other...)Must NOT like hip hop, rap, porn, video games, body pillows even if there are legitimate reasons.Must pay for everything and especially on the first dateMust drive a Bugatti or Porsche or something like that...These things are work worth no less than 20 years long.I believe true love does not care about these things. At the same time love is an illusion and is not real.
Lol the whole zodiac thing is an indicator for me whether or not they are worth swiping right. If I see zodiac mentioned on a girls profile... no thanks haha
@911sugartits420 you and me both bro. It's just not worth bothering with.But hey, at least they put it in the profile in advance instead of the first date 😊
Those women are TOO Damn Picky! I’m glad I’m not one of them.
@Kitty46 yeah. With requirements like these it makes me believe these females, who have them aren't looking for a loving relationship but a perfectly remastered romantic movie scene where she and her non existent prince in shining armor are being together.
That probably one of the reasons why guys cheat
@Kitty46 what does it have to do with men cheating?
Because it's true. Women have become hypergamous thots who are never happy with what they have. The only way for a man to keep a relationship is to continuously struggle to keep his woman happy, which in turn takes away time from work and other responsibilities. All of this in order to ejaculate into a hole. In the end it's still no guarantee that she'll keep this man. Chances are that she will either dump him or cheat with the next man she finds that has a higher value in the sexual marketplace. It's a no-win scenario.
Stop victimizing yourself.
@res13 What has this to do me with me and my experiences? There are thousands of men out there who just walk away from women. Your boobs are not worth the squeeze. Also you're a 16 year old in Sweden according to your profile. I wouldn't expect anything intelligent from a teenage feminist future cat lady. GTFO
You revealed why you can't have a meaningful relationship, TheFlak. You think they are supposed to be about ejaculating into a hole. You even think of women as people..
@Lliam Yes because that's the only thing they have to offer Mr. Mangina. They have three holes for sex and that's it. Women are basically sex objects. They value themselves only in regards to their sexuality. That's why they simulate the end of the world when they get rejected.
People are annoying and we are finally coming to terms with that.
We've been having a stream of ego boosts on society recently - everybody thinks it is about them. In the past, relationships and love developed from the necessity of marriage. Now, marriage and relationships are only done of they make you happy. There used to be a moral obligation to a more localized society, while now it's more about doing what you want. Relationships aren't working, because no one wants to put the effort into loving another person.Love has lost its distinction from affection. Love is being who you said you would be, even if you're not feeling the same way you were when you said it.
For modern people, everything is to much work, walking, working, studying, reading, and even relationships
Because they're lazy. Men want pussy without bothering to make the pussy happy. Women want--who the FUCK knows what women want? They don't even know.
Social media and apps makes cheating/messaging other people so much easier.
Expectation is completely unrealistic. As others may say " It was never easy " true , but the roles were cut and dry , each knew their role , now with the expectation of " I can have it all " and the 24 hour instant glory and happiness being tossed in your face every few minutes , you tend to question " Why am I not happy " , look at all these smiling people who have , moved house , purchased a car , had a massive session while on holiday , they are so dam happy. Its not working for me because of him / her. Why don't we have that house? Why doesn't he get a better job? Why does he cut his toe nail like that? etc etc etc , its never ending , how can you live with pressure like that.No reality , those people are just as unhappy as you.As EVERY relationship rich , poor or otherwise is hard work , the expectation involved pushes it over the edge. Hence , back to the direct topic , they say " too much work " because often they are.
People have more expectations because of movies and things like online dating have made it harder to date
In my opinion, sex is so easily available nowadays that people take for granted a true and meaningful relationship until they are older
Because they are lazy and don't want to put worth the effort in relationships as well as many other things, such as an actual OCCUPATION!
Because that generation of people are a lot lazier then we used to be. in my opinion
Well back in the day a family could survive off one paycheck , it was simpler to a degree they both had roles man works outside woman works at home, now both need to work in order to survive then both have to come home and clean. As we're advancing were also becoming more aware of our feelings and how to deal with them. so we're taking care of work taking care of home some have kids their taking care of as well then their living paycheck to paycheck on top of having to emotionally and physically satisfy each other while also trying to be each other's crutch people are in massive debt because they say in order to make money you need to go to college then you're in debt and once you mention it people say well you shouldn't have took on the debt lol forgetting they told you to take it on so you could survive. Anyway whatever I'm not in any of these situations I just observe
Only when it isn't being reciprocated or appreciated
Read about liquid modernity. It explains many things, even why a lot of people nowadays aren't able to build long-lasting relationships.
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