The way I see it, there is only one dominant one in the relationship. If two dominants get together, they have to battle it out. And that can result in two situations. 1: They absolutely hate each other and can't stand the other, and it's like two trains crashing into each other.2: One caves and becomes the submissive one in the relationship, even if they are still generally dominant among others.In any case, no one is 100% dominant. And there is always someone more dominant. And it is situational, as well. So, I think a dominant could be with a dominant, but they'll have to fight it out and determine who the boss is. On the plus side, that can lead to some pretty great sex.With a D/S, I don't think there's as much conflict, and it's easier to just slip right into the groove.
I'm generally submissive to my dominant girlfriend, but I step up when she starts getting too controlling and demanding my attention 24/7 or that I quit my job or institutional position.Some people here and IRL said that I'm doing something wrong or having an excessive laissez-faire attitude; other said I should just break up with her because she's being too controlling and even abusive.I honestly don't know what to think or what to do.I'm not and I don't want to be a controlling or the alpha partner, but I also don't want to be treated like a child and a piece of meat that has to do like he's told every time.
Maybe I'm overthinking it and should just shut up and not complain too much, as long as she's happy, everyone's happy.
Poor bastard those people are right, she's not 'dominant' she's just being a bitch.Get rid of her already
@bloodys2 Maybe but sadly I'm still idealistic enough to love her and being committed to make the relationship work and make her happy.It is that wrong?
No offense but it's stupid and self destructive to stay in such a relationship for HER benefit and not because you are happy imho
@bloodys2 Maybe I'm that stupid, I honestly don't know what to think anymore.
Many will disagree with me on this, especially MzAsh, but as a man you shouldn't be the submissive one. Women in general don't truly respect submissive guys, even supposedly dominant women, this is why so many people are saying this to you. Although your girlfriend seems to love you some of her behaviour seems to be a little disrespectful. I don't think you understand how this submissive behaviour is actually what makes women act that way towards you.
I was going to say the same thing on the question of your sister and girlfriend siding with each other against you. If you weren't submissive that wouldn't happen.
@englisc Honestly it got to a point I no longer care.As of now I'm happy to rise up, go to work, get back home, make dinner and then close myself off in the work room to do read, work or indulge my hobbies until bedtime.
But Jean IS submissive. That’s his nature, it’s pretty obvious even in this conversation. It’s not a bad thing. It’s just how it is. He really can’t change that just you can’t tell an introvert to be extroverted. It just doesn’t happen.Now that doesn’t mean he should be in a toxic relationship and it sounds like he likely is.
More than abusive it's dismissive.Whatever I do it'd not enough if I don't give her my attention 24/7.She and my sister keep looking down on what I do and it's disheartening.Last week I presented my book (a poetic-photographic collaboration with a famous artist, pic in my profile) and none of them showed up.
@MzAsh I think that dominant/submissive behaviour can be learned, and I think that it's different to introversion/extroversion. It's mainly about confidence and assertiveness. When I was younger I was a shy kid, lacking in assertiveness, and was probably submissive as a result. I worked on this and eventually I became much more confident and able to take the lead.The reason I say that it's bad for a man to be the submissive one is because so many guys have been in this same situation and say the same thing - their girlfriends don't respect them, and it's usually because of their submissive behaviour. Women who actually do respect guys like that are few and far between.
Eh that highly depends on the guy. Very few men these days know how to be dominant in the right way without getting controlling and weird.
I admit it's not a very correct or right thing to do, but since she and my sister won't listen to me I just started closing myself off.I shut in the work room and either work, read or indulge my hobbies.I only come out when she has fallen asleep.
@MzAsh True, but those guys just don't know what they're doing. They're the guys who equate dominance with asshole behaviour.
How can you be dominant if someone allows you to be! To show dominance you want a challenge
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There's far too many facets to this question. My Mum and Dad have been married the best part of 40 years.. My Dads an introvert, my Mums an extrovert, My Dad was predominantly the bread winner, my Mum was predominantly the house wife, My Mum was more out spoken, my Dad was more laid back... I don't believe as a rule people are 100% dominant or 100% submissive, instead they have areas where they show dominance and areas where they show submissiveness. So I think the best relationships are those where the people compliment each other, so if one partner is submissive in one are area the other partner is the opposite, that's essentially teamwork lol
Depends on what your after, i am a switch so if your dominant in bed then ill gladly submit to you while also enjoying my turns as a dom. Outside of the bedroom i rather have her be my equal and i don't let myself be dommed.
"Dominant" has two meanings and your question seems to mix them. There are people who are dominant in life but enjoy being dominated in the bedroom.
That really depends on the individual woman, doesn't it? And what exactly do you mean by "be with"? As life partners, or should they keep a few slaves around?
Sure if she wants to be miserable forever. The dominant woman yearns for a man to put her in her place. The dominant woman has to look for a dominant man, who is so appealing that she is willing to cast aside her dominance.
Obviously. Two dominants simply don't work together.
Depends on what they like. I'm always dominant, regardless of what kind of guy I'm with.
There must be an alpha and a beta, not two alphas or two betas
They have to, because almsot any man is physically stronger than any woman. So for the woman to be able to be dominant, the man needs to allow it.
I don't see why not. They'd be the perfect match.
Yes. Alpha+Alpha couples barely work out. ♥️🥰
Yes, they should. Better yet, dominant women should be with other women.
Yes of course it is like the earth needs the sun.
Yes cause there have to be some kind of balance
They should be with whomever they want to damn be.
I have no idea.
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