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People with chronic low self esteem, or even bouts of it, are taxing to be around. I have low self esteem sometimes and I exhaust myself lolWhen you're with someone you want them to be happy and content. Of course, being a partner to a human being means that you have to be there for their mood swings and emotions. A good partner lifts up their SO when they're feeling down and is there for them when they're going through a difficult time emotionally/physically/whatever. But constantly seeing your efforts at cheering up and encouragement shot down/being ineffective is draining on even the best of people. Those with self esteem issues tend to focus on themselves more, also. So the other partner gives and gives and gives of themselves in the attempt to boost the other's spirits and the other, because they're so low, doesn't pay attention to the emotions of the "happy" one. So the giver's emotional needs are often ignored in that kind of relationship and that makes for an unhealthy relationship.
If it is VERY low then yes. It definitely affected my last one. I was so miserable throughout the entire relationship because of how insecure I was. Every insecurity i did have was always backed up though because I always found out in the end he was cheating and sexting other girls and lying the whole time. If I had more self confidence 1. It wouldn't have been so painful for me to go through that and my own bad qualities wouldn't have come out as much, and 2. I would have left sooooooooo much sooner
Absolutely. But it manifests differently to different people. Some will push caring people away because they feel they don't "deserve" love or worry that they can't/don't know how to "contribute" to a solid relationship. Others will get super clingy and won't let go because they feel anxious that their partner will find a "better" option any moment now. Some will just assume that they will "screw up" someway or another so they try to "hit and run" approach in dating so people don't realize how insecure they are as a person. It's just up to the person.
Usually it does affect the relationship's partner. Which is normal, the partner is a psycho if they can't empathize. It's when the 'depression' is more than several days like dealing with the death of a loved one. If they have an issue and they just can't or won't deal with it and it's always a thing... it's going to do nothing good for their partner in a positive way. Personally I think 'depression' is just too fucking 'trendy' now days. Makes me wonder about the parents that raised all these emotionally unstable kids that are now adults.
Yes. It's often those partners who are very controlling and jealous.I dated a very insecure guy 2 months ago for a while and he ruined everything because he thought he wasn't good enough all the time. Didn't matter that I told him I found him to be handsome, that I liked him the way he is etc. he wouldn't believe it. Eventually he told me he was afraid he's not good enough, I tried to tell him that he is but he pushed me away. Eventually I couldn't even get a hold of him anymore. Very selfish of him as well to push someone away without saying goodbye, just because he felt insecure. So yeah insecurity can ruin relationships in all kinds of ways.
I’m as insecure as they come, one word can make me hate myself for days. Call me ugly and I’ll cake my face with makeup. And I’m in a relationship where he’s kinda annoyed but supportive. What I’m saying is yes, it affects relationships but if it’s a strong one, there shouldn’t be too much of a problem. I get that most people think low self esteem is a turn off but we all have insecurities and you can’t be mad about that
Yes because you dont know your self worth, your always doubting you can't fully believe when someone says your beautiful or I love you or any compliment, you can fully love someone if you dont love yourself which is something iv struggled with for years.
Low self esteem people are controlling, get jealous easily, easily defeated during difficult situations, not fun to be around, unattractive, have less fulfilling lives. Lower quality of relationships, breakups are more difficult for everyone, they could stalk you/have nothing to lose and could harm themselves or you.
Yes, of course low self esteem can totally destroy relationships. It can lead to insecurities which in turn can lead to jealousy issues and sometimes even revenge.The entire relationship can turn into an unhealthy one.
Definitely. Low self esteem also brings insecurity, and insecurity leads to jealousy. Jealousy can destroy any relationship if it's excessive.Low self esteem also leads you to engage in a relationship with any person that shows interest in you and accept any kind of behaviour from your partner because you don't know your real value.
Yes because you see yourself in a different way than your partner does, where he sees beauty and looks with loving eyes loves she sees imperfections and looks with disgust at something he loves, trash talks herself probably and nothing breaks someones heart more than to see someone you love put themselves down and refuse to listen to you over and over gain, at one point it can become too much.
Low self esteem can put you in an inferior position, thinking you worth less than you actually do. If you can't love yourself, you are not able to love anyone.
Do you feel that would be present if the insecure person dated down/ someone who wasn’t good for them?
You see, people with low self esteem tend to think everyone is too out of their league, no matter how much of a loser the guy is. If God forbid someone good shows interest, the insecure one imagines what's wrong with the person to actually like them.
Definitely. Because you doubt your self worth and that the other person genuinely cares about you. And not just that, but everything in your life. And when the other person can't do anything to help you feel better, it affects them too!
100% it will. Low self esteem makes one suspicious, needy, dependent, and more towards their partner. You can’t be the best you until you heal yourself. People just sense than kind of thing and it’s not an attractive thing.
Constant self pity is degrading to yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, how can your partner?
Yes it still would be I believe. Insecurity is something within yourself. Not brought on by other people. People don’t make you insecure. People can trigger insecure feelings you have about yourself.
I think its usually too high self esteem is the bigger problem. So many girls think they are just all amazing for no reason other than they exist.
possibly, your partner might get fed up with it after enough time has passed. but if your partner really loves you, they'll look past it.
Yes. Low self esteem meaning that you are insecure about yourself, that you don´t accept compliments and question his motives
It can be that they breakup do to feeling not worthy of the other
Yes, because I wouldn’t want a man whos insecure. Plus if a guys insecure or girl. They may get controlling or jealous at times which would lead to an unhealthy relationship.
Yes leads to insecurities and that leads to trust issues
Yes it could happen
Yes, anything about yourself affect your relationships.
Yeah... it do very much
Only for men, low self esteem in women is just a joke
What? Where did you get that from?
How’s it a joke? Women care about their looks and one word can break their self esteem, hows that a joke?
I don't like insecure men and women.
Yes it can.
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