Yeah, it's very bad. And uninterested woman of sexual desires, will lose my interest fast... if I have to initiate it, turn you on, get you hot and ready, fuck you, do all the work throughout the whole process the whole time (which has happened a lot in my previous relationships, usually with the "hot/sexy girls some would consider a 9 or 10) then I'm done with her. She isn't worth a lot of my attention. We can be friends and we just talk and stimulate our minds she is smart and a decent conversationalist (which again, I have yet to find in a "hot" female). But relationships, especially long term, fuck out of here! I'll have friends with benefits friendship, if I just need to hit and leave that's the only time that would work for me
When we don't initiate, it doesn't mean we are uninterested. Trust me if we don't we don't want sex we will either just decline or find some excuses to avoid you. I think most women feel like it is a guy's job to do so plus when we always agree to your advance, we assume you are fine with it.
Part of the problem is expecting the guy to always.. that traditional thinking has to go. I'm confused about your last sentence. "... plus when we always agree to your advance, we assume you are fine with it." Don't know what that means..
Most women think that men are okay with initiating all the time as long as we never decline.
I think it is a comfort thing as you gain more experience and relax in a relationship there will be times where the girl may feel friskier than the guy and initiate it then. I feel girls especially young girls in the early stages or in their first few relationships have more pressures so it is probably easier to allow guy to take the lead.
For me it is the other way around. I used to initiate when I was younger (at my early 20s) but not as much as I hit 25. My sex drive is still the same though.
I'm always the initiator. In every relationship. Current boyfriend is totally into it, always. So I've just come to terms with being "the girl that initiates" or whatever.
Dang! That's super cool. Even tho, I would still keep a balance to not make the girl feel left out in the initiating part.
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Depends on her personality. If I know she is very submissive, then I'll get it. I've dated chicks like that. That said, it's not an ideal situation, sure. It's nice to know you're desired, yeah?
One of my biggest turn ons is if my girl initiates.
Everyone loves feeling desired, and when i feel i'm very desired by my girl.. it's definitely gonna be hot.
Hell, I would say yes in a heartbeat.
I won't mind if my so refuses my request for sex, but I do mind if she refuses it all the time despite her revealing her skin to me often (like showing up in her underwears only or flashes me her assets when we flirt together).
Some women don't initiate bec they dont have to. The guy is always ininitiating.
This is very communication based I think sexual interaction is a very important chapter due to it having many benefits for both partners however you both need to be on the same wave length or you'll just be having sex for the sake of it and it'll just start feeling wrong
Yes it is bad. She never initiates it? That's her way of saying she's not all that attracted to me. Otherwise she'd initiate sex on her own.
It can happen that's why it's best to both be initiating it , we aren't mind readers so reassurance is important , if u really like someone it shouldn't be hard to reassure them that you are really into them as well , so Next time beat them to it , surprise them by wearing something sexy and come on to them
Yup... a relationship like that doesn't have long for this world. If he feels she doesn't desire him then... well.. he will feel like dirt. He will feel unattractive and will feel unloved.
I actually broke up with a girl after 6-8 months... and a significant reason was because she would never initiate anything but had no problems if I did
thats not desirable at all... I mean if you never feel like you want to express your feelings then how does he ever know how you feel? just accepting his expressive actions is not enough, you have to reveal your expressive actions as well
So your ex never initiated but rejected your advance?
no lol.. she never initiated but accepted mines, she never rejected it.. but never initiated either that was a huge problem I had lol.. p. s did you get sexier now that you're engaged, seems like it 😉 damn
I see. I don't know I think that's just how most women are. We want it but we don't think guys will have a problem as long as we say yes. Aaww thank you. Trying hard to look as young as I can 😁
Yes , and truly because every “human” wants to feel desired.
Some girls don't feel it is their place to initiate. If she is eager and and uninhibited, but waits on me, that's OK.
I’d get bored and frustrated
I’d probably discuss it with her. If she said and showed that she was typically HAPPY that I was initiating I’m okay with doing the vast majority of it.
It would be nice if she’d occasionally initiate some things. Maybe sex. If she likes it when I initiate the sex if she can occasionally initiate a bj that would mean a lot.
I'm fine with a girl not initiating sex if she is at least initiating things that could lead to sex. Like making out on the couch. Taking off a piece of clothing before sitting on my lap. Beckoning me over to her sexually. If she's checking off those boxes, then I can let go some of the more direct ones. But if she's not initiating aaaanything sexual, then I wouldn't be fulfilled.
Yes. When a girl is horny I want her to have the confidence to flirt or grab my crouch or kiss me hard to let me know. Confidence is sexy. It is annoying being the initiator all the time.
It's not best practice but it's also typical behaviour for many women after the youthful gimmick of sex and a new relationship has gone.
It's frustrating, yeah. Guys need to feel desired too.
Pretty much, yes.
But some girls are very shy and reserved about those things I guess
I am not shy but I don't know why it is just something that I don't think of doing. My fiance feels like I am not attracted to him that much because of this issue 😞
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