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I'm introverted. I don't really have a "dream partner" but I tend to be drawn to extroverted people in general more. I feel like they're better at getting me out of my shell and helping me push my boundaries, which I appreciate (as long as they're not too aggressive, of course). It's nice to be around people who actually want to do things rather than stay inside for a lot of the time. If I was with an introvert, we'd probably end up staying inside quite a lot. Which I don't mind that much, being an introvert myself, but I do like having someone who wants to go on adventures more often. I think us introverts sometimes have a bad tendency of overestimating how much time we need to rest and recover. I know I have, and I know a few friends who do too. It's so easy to stay cooped up in your own apartment because it's cozy, safe and familiar, and to tell yourself that you should keep staying inside because you're "tired and deserve it". I've done that a million and one times even though I haven't really been *that* tired. So to have a partner drag me out of bed to do something fun would be nice, lol.
I'm Introverted and my partner is extroverted and i like it that way. There are certain situations in life that we have to equal eachother out. He helps me come out more and I help him when he needs to turn down
I'm am more reserved so that might be nice o have a similar type. I'm just hoping our personalities will enhance one another.
This is a really cool question! :) I personally view myself as EX who was forced to be IN by outside influence. I was a very quirky kid, shy is not the word used to describe me. At 5-6 years old i would approach random adults in grocery stores (with my parents nearby obvi) and just strike up random conversations. In middle school i was bullied for everything that all of my parent's friends loved about me. My "nice shoes" were nice, but "on the wrong feet". So co tinuous bullying (and an unexpected rejection from my first love) caused me to fade away into the pit of lonliness, confusion, and hopelessness. Eventually i stopped talking to people, i stopped caring about people, i hated everything and everyone. So long story short, in my adult years after finally starting to realize all of this, i have started trying to break out of my shell more and return to how i used to be/who im supposed to be. Im still awkward af, and that may never change. xDI've had more romantic interest in those who are IN, because i understand them better. To quote Emerald from RWBY, "How can they be.. so happy.. all the time". I just dont understand extremely extroverted people, but i have mad respect for being so confident in oneself to not be a stranger to anyone. :) I did have a crush on an extremely attractive boss of mine who was extremely extroverted. She would always approach me to strike up convos, and we became friends. I liked her a lot because she related with a lot of the mental health issues I've had, so the crush obviously developed. I never pursued it, she never made a move. A year or two down the road, she randomly tells me about how she had a huge crush on me when we met! Biggest loss of my life, if only i knew. :3 (We're still good friends, but i dont think itll be more than that tbh lol).Big rant... sorry ×~× To answer the last question, my perfect partner would be anyone, whether it be IN or EX, as long as they genuinely had a kind heart. :3
Thank you for the thorough answer! It won't let me see the last part of the comment though, the second plus button won't work :(I'm sorry to hear that's how your earlier years ended up developing. I'm glad that things are turning around that you're older, mad props for the bright self-improvement/fulfillment!!Although I couldn't see the answer to second question, I get the feeling that both introverts and extroverts would deeply appreciate you. As an introvert, I know I would be happy to meet someone who would encourage and bring out the connecting and opening up aspects of life and going out there and enjoying it, bringing me out of my shell, while also understanding and relating along side our introverted natures. I guess that's also my answer to the question :PI'd like to read yours if you don't mind copying/pasting it :)
Ahh weird bug, it won't let me open it either lol. Basically it's:I would be happy with either an introvert or extrovert, like you said, an extrovert would make it really easy to break out of my shell and have fulfilling experiences. Conversely though, i tend to enjoy the complex simplicity of an introvert who spends a ton of time thinking (most of us do lol). Intellectual connection is very important to me in that regard. But all in all, i would be just as happy with either, assuming they are genuine and have a big heart. :)
Im a mix between the two. I can and do spend long stretches of time alone, or with a couple of close friends and i often want to spend time alone to recharge after dealing with a lot of people in a day.That being said, I do work in sales and have little trouble with being very extroverted and high-energy, whilst making new friends and contacts with relative ease. After spending a lot of time alone, I feel refreshed if i can interact with a lot of new people in a social setting.It mostly depends on the scenario and environment. My ideal partner could be someone introverted, who I can share my passion for music or science with. Equally, I have been completely smitten by extroverted women that have been very up front about wanting a relationship with me (going so far as to ask me to go for a walk outside, where they've asked me to date them!) In both cases, the deciding factor is the other person being honest, affectionate and a counterbalance to myself. I have always been attracted to women who are either as intelligent or more intelligent than I am, as it feels like a real challenge to win them over.
I'm more introverted than extraverted, and I want an introverted partner. I've always gotten along better with introverts. All of my friends in highschool were introverts except 1 for sure and maybe a 2nd. I like the description of intro/extraversion that divides it into assertiveness and enthusiasm components, because I find that I just have no interest in interacting with anyone that I'm not going to have some sort of long term, mutually beneficial relationship with, but, in the absence of an extravert, I'm perfectly capable and comfortable with taking initiative (as necessary). I want an introverted partner because I feel that for one, I'd be able to relate to her better, and second, to be 100% honest, I think loyalty is more secure with an introverted partner because they simply have fewer opportunities to cheat, even if they wanted to. I know that if loyalty is solely dependent on the opportunities available to your partner, you already have a problem. However, if all else were the same, and I was being offered either an introverted partner (with more security) or an extraverted partner (with less security), what reason could I possibly have for choosing the latter? It's like being offered either $100 or $50. Am I wrong?
I'm pretty shy. I hate most parties, especially when I don't know anyone. I will probably quickly turn to the phone to pretend I'm not so awkward. But, oddly, I'm really extroverted for an introvert. I'm not quiet when in my element, though. I'm a performer. I'm most comfortable on stage. I hate trying to work a crowd or entertain in little groups. But if I'm not performing, I get really shy. When I'm most stressed I need to get out. I hate being alone. But the wrong party or place will drain that energy quick, and I'll just want to be home reading and not playing the game. But if I'm home alone too often, I'm like "I need a coffee shop." I think ideal dream woman, I'd like to be extroverted in a lot of ways. Maybe as someone to build me up a little for introductions, or if they know each other, she can help give me something we both have in common. If not, at least there's a buffer or someone that I can have a conversation with when no one else is willing to talk to the new guy. Now, extroverted to the point where she was constantly going out, or she was leaving me alone to go hang with friends (still by myself), that'd be annoying. Getting drunk 5 times a week (hell, month) and showing up at 4am because of all the parties would be draining. It wouldn't last long if that was her way of showing her extroverted side. If she never had tome to take a breath, or be with family, that'd get old quick.
I am a total introvert and I want my dream partner to be an extrovert because extroverts seem to always bring out my wild side. I secretly crave adventure with a special person who I want to spend the rest of my life with. We can do crazy shit as well as be boring f**ks. That's the beauty of it though, there's a choice and I don't mind either.. Extroverts motivate me, introverts do not. I am boring a** hell and I guarantee other introverts are as boring as me. I don't want that. I have this wild side to me that is spontaneous but I don't know how to be that person. So I'm waiting for Prince Charming. Until then, I'll continue to be boring me
So sad, fellow introverts perpetuating the stereotype that Introversion = boredom and then you agree that these are stereotypes made by extrovert people who can't understand just because they make the majority.Of all people you should know that introverts have fun in a different way, and they can never get bored on their own unlike extroverts.
Call yourself boring, but don't put a personality type in a box.
@Lynzerilee I agree. Boredom is subjective and grouping one type of people together isn't fair to my fellow introverts. Got it👍
I'm definitely introverted! I'm much happier staying in doing nothing, than going out. I'm okay going out occasionally, but I'm mostly a homebody.As for my ideal partner? Definitely introverted. As long as he has basic social skills and isn't a hermit, we'll get along fine.
Everyone is both. Some are just more of one than the other. Personally, I believe that I'm more introverted than extroverted. I like people but three is a crowd and alone time is essential for me. I usually prefer being by myself or with one other person. However, I very much enjoy going out, exploring and gaining new experiences. To me, it doesn't really matter if my partner is introverted or extroverted. I (sometimes) enjoy the company of both as long as I don't feel pressured to be someone I'm not.
I'm very introverted. I'm a reserved, quiet, homebody. I spend more time in my head than talking, and I think carefully before speaking.My preferred dream partner will also be introverted, though probably not as introverted as I am. It might be good if she's a bit more outgoing than me since I'm the kind of guy who'd be up for any activity as long as it's with the right person. However, like me, she'd be happiest staying home doing stuff with me (just the two of us).On a side-note: I don't think I'd go well with an extrovert. I'm not attracted to the hyper or bubbly personalities that characterize many extroverts. Neither would I be comfortable with someone who is everyone's friend and always has people around them, the life of the party.
I'm very introverted. My ideal partner is somewhere in the middle. I wouldn't want someone extroverted who constantly wants to hang out in large groups etc. because of my social anxiety and feeling drained very fast in such settings. It wouldn't be good for me or fair to my partner when i'd never wanna go with him to such settings or not have a good time if I did. I wouldn't want someone too introverted either. I do like doing things outside and sitting at coffee shops or having picnics in the summer and I think that it can be fun being out on the town. The most introverted guy friend I have never goes outside and he seems pretty content with that. My most extroverted friend is always hanging out in large groups except when we get together because I don't like that...
Beyond introverted, I have a personality disorder. No preference for my dream partner, with time and communication I can get along with anyone. But I think an extrovert will improve me more as a person than an introvert would. An introvert will understand my nature and learn to live with this social anxiety I have, which won't really benefit either one of us. An extrovert on the other hand, would push me to have a better social life and connect with people. According to my psychologist, that's what I need to fix my personality disorder.
This question is so hard to answer for me. I’m pretty introverted but when I date another introvert things get too boring because we don’t extrovert enough. However when I date an extrovert I feel we don’t introvert enough. So I don’t know who to date. Lol
I am more of an introvert. I was in a relationship where I was the more passive one and a relationship where I was the more dominant one. I think, in the end, it doesn't really matter to me, the only thing that matters to me is that both sides initiate in the relationship (of course it doesn't have to be equal).
I'm not really sure. I think I could be with both. Extroverted because opposites attract (my parents are like that and so far it works well for them) and introverted because I'd have someone who feels the same.I think someone in between would be the best.
Every time I take the Myers Briggs test I come out as INTP, however people say that they don't really see me as introverted. That's simply because I talk fine and I'm pretty easy to talk to WHEN I DO go out. But that's the thing... I don't usually like going out because I find most things people talk about are depthless and dull. I don't connect with many people, so it leaves me feeling drained, whereas when I'm on my own in my own thoughts, I feel content.
I've already found my dream partner. However, I do sometimes think if she was a little more extroverted and shared her thoughts more often it would be more interesting. She's already everything I could ask for though and very like myself in the way she thinks.
I switch depending on the situation mostly, sometimes I love being in the center and talking to everyone and other times I like to just chill in a corner and relax alone a while. My dream partner is probably introverted because they always seem to have the most interesting thoughts, the main difficulty is getting close enough to them to where they share those thoughts freely and just let go, but once you're in it's the best kind of friendship/relationship.
I'm definitely more introverted, but my dream partner is more extroverted. I'd want them to be extroverted because sometimes I need coerced out of my comfort zone. So they could help me out of my shell.
Me and my boyfriend are both introverts and I love it this way. We are so used to each other that we can have our "alone time" while being in the same room together and neither of us feels like having to go out constantly 😅Most of our common friends are extroverts and while we do enjoy to occasionally meet them, they can also be extremely tiring at times.
I'm pretty introverted. If I'm in public with friends I can be extroverted to a point, like ordering food or giving directions or something. But by myself I wouldn't even consider it. My dream partner I hope would be introverted as I find shyness kinda cute. But I've never dated anyone because I'm so introverted. So I think I have to take whatever I can get at this point, no offense.
I'm pretty introverted, and my *possible other* is somewhat extroverted! We were just made that way, and I find these traits between us amazing, and alluring!
I'm mostly an extrovert but I've no "dream partner". "Why?" I'm an extrovert because I've no debilitating tragedy in my past to shell up over, I'm mostly friendly and out going with nothing to hide. I dont have a "dream partner" because life right now is too short for me to put my time in support of a single "partner", person. Black women are not free if they are shackled to a man.
Holidays/vacations with a bunch of people just drains me. I would not like to date an extrovert again. I mean I don't mind doing those things of course. With an extrovert though it's just more daunting.
i would say I am a mild introvert and I would like my partner to be around a mild introvert as well. I associate loudness and drama with extroverts
I'm an introvert, both personality types can appeal to me, it's just too vague, attraction depends on the person.
By nature I am an introvert. Over the last decade I’ve learned to become an ambervert. My future wife would be a extrovert. Because I would need her to get me into naturally uncomfortable situations that extroverts are naturally comfortable in.
Me and my boyfriend are both introverts. We like to spend the night watching Netflix together, cuddle and do stuff that couples do. We like to go out eating or swimming. Mostly we do stuff alone together. We like each others company.
Totally introverted, also totally without any trace of social anxiety or shyness.My wife is the complete opposite, extremely extroverted, very socially anxious, and very shy, so she has this loud persona she fronts with.
Funny thing is that I always thought I’d be with an extroverted gal like I am.My long term girlfriend right now is as introverted as it gets & I absolutely love her. 💜
Introverts have some beautiful traits. Loyalty is a big deal to them. They prefer others to be the centre of attention. They hate drama. Life is peaceful with an introvert.
@Poppykate I have to agree, this relationship has been very peaceful and low-drama for the most part. 👌🏾
I try to look like an extrovert but truly inside I’m an introvert, but just my good friends know that
I’d like my future partner to be generally introverted unless invited to special occasions (much like myself)
Extremely extroverted. My ideal would be at least somewhat socially active. Full introverts gets drained by the same crowds that energize me so that would be difficult.
I am introverted, and I like both extroverted and introverted women, but I cannot imagine myself with an extremely extroverted woman who needs people and parties 24/7.
I'm a weird blend of both. I'm not social by nature and I prefer to keep to myself but when I want to be I can be very social and outgoing, among friends or strangers.
I'm an introvert, and I think I probably want someone like me because she'll be able to understand me better.
I am more extroverted but I have introvert characteristics as well. I'd want an extrovert as a partner
I'm introverted and my dream partner is extroverted because I want him to take me out of my comfort zone.
I’m an ambivert. My ideal partner is an ambivert but I wouldn’t mind an extrovert. I can’t deal with introverts
I am an extrovert and this enables me to communicate at large. Attracting the attention of other extroverts.
I'm like 60/40 extrovert. I would like my wife to be close to that. Definitely can't deal with introverts.
Depends where I am. At work I have headphones on and prefer people not to talk to me cos I'm busy.If I'm out with friends I tend to be the loudest person most of the time.
I am an introvert who turns into an extrovert only when I am around people who make me feel at ease. And my dream partner is definitely as introverted as me. ☺
That is actually Ambivert
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I am more of an extrovert, but I prefer to use the term introverted extrovert. My dream partner is also an extrovert because I’ve pretty much already met my dream partner and they are an extrovert.
Introvert, partner is either introvert or extrovert doesn't matter. Just that I don't want partner to be gold digger.
I’m VERY introverted. I guess I’d prefer extroverted because I do enjoy socializing, but with a buffer. I need another person there, I feel comfortable with. Otherwise I don’t socialize AT ALL.
I don't know why but I always like "extremes", as in, entirely extroverted or entirely introverted.I am introverted myself.
I’m introverted so I’d like to find someone that is an extrovert when I’m older. I wanna be more outgoing 🤤
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I’m very in between and my boyfriend is extroverted which is really good because we compliment each other pretty well
I am very shy to talk to men or women of my own age I don't know why. I usually take away my eyes away from the person who looks in me. I don't know about my future partner
I prefer an ambivert like me. Extroverts aren't too bad, but introverts are an absolute no-no.
I’m introverted and my dream partner is introverted
Introverted definitely and I don't really have a preference, as long as he's a goth
I’m a little bit of both! I’m introverted for the most part and we sat a lot with our silences in my family but I do get extroverted with certain people. I guess selective is the word.
I’m an introvert in general, doesn’t mean I don’t have extrovert traits. I’m the only child of my family and that’s most probably the reason, why I always need some space after I’ve been with a crowd (Spending time with myself, being alone etc).
Im an introvert but i prefer the company of extraverts cos i find them more fun. Tiring to be around for long tho
Ambivert bordering on extravert though. I hope my future partner has a quiet confidence (not sure what that is)
I am extremely extroverted and have to be with someone who is at least willing to socialize to some extent
I'm a introvert but I can be a extrovert around the right people. I can get along fine with both I wouldn't mind a extrovert though.
That would be 'I' or 'E' in MBTI type talk. About 75% of the population - both genders - are extroverted. They actually think there's something wrong with introverts that should get 'fixed'. Opposites attract... for a LOT of reasons.
I'm balanced and I desire to be with someone balanced as well.
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