If you could ask your partner anything and they had to answer truthfully, what would you ask?

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Answer 1

Anonymous

Why do you lie about being busy when I can see that you are online

ecfresh

1 y
My guess is if he told you he wasn’t busy then you would expect him to talk to you or give you attention and he doesn’t want to at that time
Opinion Owner

1 y
@ecfresh I can understand that but I don't expect him to talk to me especially since we spend over an hour on the phone earlier I'm not someone who wants to spend 24/7 talking to people it's just frustrating that he says he will be busy but then I see him online and what sucks is when we were talking on the phone we were having a very important conversation until he needed to get ready for work anyway I sent him a message asking him an important question regarding part of the conversation we had that was 2 hours ago so to see him online after I had messaged him it's like grrrr
Opinion Owner

1 y
@ecfresh he doesn't know that I can see him online
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ecfresh

1 y
Obviously not 24/7. But clearly in this case he doesn’t feel talking to you and answering your question is important or time critical. While I agree with you that lying is wrong, likely he shifted into work mode and will delay communication with you till tonight. I am sure if the conversation was critical you would have planned to discuss it when you knew he didn’t have work coming up
Opinion Owner

1 y
@ecfresh the thing is when he is working at this job he is never in work mode because the job is basically one where he can do whatever he wants and he won't get fired for it because he is very good friends with his boss and everyone else that works there and we did discuss talking again and the question I had him was important it was in regards to what he wants us to do in our relationship
ecfresh

1 y
Oh, well in that case he may be stalling. If he doesn’t have a good answer he can use the work excuse to think about your question or even hope it fades away. Or he feels scared because he doesn’t know how he really feels about you
Opinion Owner

1 y
@ecfresh he asked me to get married
ecfresh

1 y
Woah, this morning?
Opinion Owner

1 y
@ecfresh he first asked me months ago but I at the time it was not the right time as I had lost my Mum and he gave me time to grieve and things like that but just the other day he again asked me to marry him
ecfresh

1 y
In this case even tho things seem loose at work and he is allowed to text you, he probably would rather talk one on one
Opinion Owner

1 y
@ecfresh there is someone in his life who is very important to him who I have only met once but we didn't really talk but I know that her opinion matters and I had asked him if it was possible for the 3 of us to meet before anything happenes because if she doesn't like me then the relationship will be over then and there I don't spend all this time being engaged and planning a wedding only to have my heart broken months down the track if she doesn't like me I want this person approval for our engagement
ecfresh

1 y
Is that his Mom?
Opinion Owner

1 y
@ecfresh no he isn't as close to his parents it's his best friend who is more like an older sister to him they have known eachother for 18 years he would basically give his life for her we were talking about some really personal things and he mentioned how she didn't like his girlfriend at the time and he told me if he knew that was how she felt the relationship would have been over then and there so I suggested the idea of his friend and I meeting so that we can find out if she approves of us or not
Opinion Owner

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@ecfresh he contacted me but he didn't answer my question instead he seemed annoyed at me because I deleted my online account where I could see that he was online
ecfresh

1 y
Makes sense, he didn’t like you spying on him
Opinion Owner

1 y
@ecfresh i wasn't spying on him he was the one who asked me to create the account he told he wished I didn't delete the account so because he was so annoyed about me deleting my accounts I created another account and while he has been online he hasn't accepted my request to add him and he hasn't replied to my text either

Answer 2

ecfresh

My guess is if he told you he wasn’t busy then you would expect him to talk to you or give you attention and he doesn’t want to at that time

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

@ecfresh I can understand that but I don't expect him to talk to me especially since we spend over an hour on the phone earlier I'm not someone who wants to spend 24/7 talking to people it's just frustrating that he says he will be busy but then I see him online and what sucks is when we were talking on the phone we were having a very important conversation until he needed to get ready for work anyway I sent him a message asking him an important question regarding part of the conversation we had that was 2 hours ago so to see him online after I had messaged him it's like grrrr

Answer 4

Opinion Owner

@ecfresh he doesn't know that I can see him online

Answer 5

ecfresh

Obviously not 24/7. But clearly in this case he doesn’t feel talking to you and answering your question is important or time critical. While I agree with you that lying is wrong, likely he shifted into work mode and will delay communication with you till tonight. I am sure if the conversation was critical you would have planned to discuss it when you knew he didn’t have work coming up

Answer 6

Opinion Owner

@ecfresh the thing is when he is working at this job he is never in work mode because the job is basically one where he can do whatever he wants and he won't get fired for it because he is very good friends with his boss and everyone else that works there and we did discuss talking again and the question I had him was important it was in regards to what he wants us to do in our relationship

Answer 7

ecfresh

Oh, well in that case he may be stalling. If he doesn’t have a good answer he can use the work excuse to think about your question or even hope it fades away. Or he feels scared because he doesn’t know how he really feels about you

Answer 8

Opinion Owner

@ecfresh he asked me to get married

Answer 9

ecfresh

Woah, this morning?

Answer 10

Opinion Owner

@ecfresh he first asked me months ago but I at the time it was not the right time as I had lost my Mum and he gave me time to grieve and things like that but just the other day he again asked me to marry him

Answer 11

ecfresh

In this case even tho things seem loose at work and he is allowed to text you, he probably would rather talk one on one

Answer 12

Opinion Owner

@ecfresh there is someone in his life who is very important to him who I have only met once but we didn't really talk but I know that her opinion matters and I had asked him if it was possible for the 3 of us to meet before anything happenes because if she doesn't like me then the relationship will be over then and there I don't spend all this time being engaged and planning a wedding only to have my heart broken months down the track if she doesn't like me I want this person approval for our engagement

Answer 13

ecfresh

Is that his Mom?

Answer 14

Opinion Owner

@ecfresh no he isn't as close to his parents it's his best friend who is more like an older sister to him they have known eachother for 18 years he would basically give his life for her we were talking about some really personal things and he mentioned how she didn't like his girlfriend at the time and he told me if he knew that was how she felt the relationship would have been over then and there so I suggested the idea of his friend and I meeting so that we can find out if she approves of us or not

Answer 15

Opinion Owner

@ecfresh he contacted me but he didn't answer my question instead he seemed annoyed at me because I deleted my online account where I could see that he was online

Answer 16

ecfresh

Makes sense, he didn’t like you spying on him

Answer 17

Opinion Owner

@ecfresh i wasn't spying on him he was the one who asked me to create the account he told he wished I didn't delete the account so because he was so annoyed about me deleting my accounts I created another account and while he has been online he hasn't accepted my request to add him and he hasn't replied to my text either

Answer 18

MsPinkUnicorn

Xper 5

Do you think about other girls?

Answer 19

hasankhan24

Xper 1

How much important i m in her life

Answer 20

SqurrielMaster

Xper 4

What do you want to eat tonight...

Answer 21

anon1903 | 294 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

"what do you see in me?"

Answer 22

pauly-d

Xper 5

How's my size?

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