My wife is a transgender male she came out when she was 19 she's been suffering from dysphoria since she was 13. She said it even started before then when she was a kid. She finally decided to come out when she was 19 after she had our twins yet our kids don't even seem to know but they're only 2. She prefers to be called he but even though she's a male on the outside deep down inside she's still a female because she was born a female. I'm so confused with the whole Gender identidy thing I don't know wether to call her him or call her my wife or my husband. I love her I'm happy she's made a better decision but it's so confusing it'll even be more confusing to our daughters when they get older when they figure out they're mom is a man or they're mom is they're dad. What do I call her? How do I explaine this to our kids when they get older?