Should I tell my boyfriend about his friend flirting with me?

[sid_bang]

You have to be clever in this matter as it is about relationship between you, your boyfriend and his friend. I would suggest you to tell your boyfriend the incident as a question or doubt. Say something like, your friend said so and so lines to me, is that casual comment Or flirt or compliment? Ask your boyfriend to tell his opinion about the incident and also tell your boyfriend that you know your friend better. So you are the better person to make me understand. That would suffice. If your boyfriend confirms that is flirting, you can ask your boyfriend, why his friend flirts with me as we both are in committed. Leave the rest to your boyfriend.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, i would tell him his friends are flirting with you
hey it's better to let him know than he doesn't have
to say you never told him so. Best Wishes :)

[lumos]

Fully depends on what he's actually telling you in these dms. What you might perceive as flirting, might be him thinking he's just being polite and/or social.

If I were you, I'd tell the friend to stop it first. "Can you please stop saying (x), it's making me uncomfortable and I doubt (name of boyfriend) would appreciate it". If he backs off, then no harm done and no need to tell your boyfriend. If he lashes out or otherwise responds in a negative way, let your boyfriend know and maybe urge him to reconsider his friendship with this dude.

[Aidelwaish]

It is really good that u told ur boyfriend. 👌
Yes, please do ignore his friend IF he flirts. Make sure u show ur boyfriend how his friend flirted with u , this is to see if both of u have the same opinion about that.

If i were u, and i if im suspicious that my BF's friend is flirting, i will tell my boyfriend, show all his DM so my boyfriend can really see it. And see how my boyfriend will decide or act about it.

[ChgzDaniel]

Honestly you're better off not telling him, and just tell his friend to leave you alone. Make sure you save evidence that he was flirting in case his friend tries to tell your boyfriend whatever. And make sure you don't flirt back. As long as nothing ever happens, it's just flirting.

[Gottabsavagee]

If you already told him before then you aren’t hiding anything. But if you feel like you want to let him know, you could.

At least he will be informed that this guy isn’t a real friend

[sejla]

You should tell him so maybe he can tell him to stop. If your boyfriend gets mad at you and not his friend then the real problem is that your boyfriend doesn't have your back and that can be a problem long term.

[Hal2002]

Do yourself a favor and tell your boyfriend about what his friend is doing, and if he tells you not to worry about it. You may need to consider, that maybe he does not feel for you what you feel for him.
Not telling him will come back to bite you, if you don't. Because you not saying anything, will be taken by his so called friend as you are interested because you have not said anything to your boyfriend.
Try this first, tell the friend that if he does not stop the unwelcome flirting. You will tell your boyfriend, about it. If you have already told him this, than it is time to go threw with the threat and tell your boyfriend.

[HumenExperiment]

Yes but dont mention you thought he was attractive in the past or otherwise I doubt a guy would actually believe you still dont (no offense dont know you) find him attractive but you just found a snake in the grass that doesn't respect his friends relationship enough not to flirt with you especially in private, you honestly should want him to leave you alone, and you should tell your boyfriend you want him to leave you alone too "thanks but you shouldn't be coming onto me, I'm in a relationship." This may be a lot to ask but this will probably bother you and turn into a big deal

[Syrian_survivor]

"I usually tell my boyfriend everything but it’s backfired a couple of times."

Hmmmm that's kind of a bad sign to start with 🤔

"I don't want him to think I'm trying to make him jealous"

That's even a worse sign lmao

"he told me not to respond"

Yup, third time's a charm, this relationship doesn't look so good in my opinion xD

[bailey11]

No. Tell him. If he has a problem with it, you can just tell him: "Look, if I don't tell you and you find out, you get mad. If I tell you, you don't like it. So what am I supposed to do?"
It sounds like you're "between a rock and a hard place" with your boyfriend! I'd read the book: "Are Men the Weaker Sex", if I were you. You might find it very interesting. I did - and I'm a guy!

[Finchie40]

First kf i was you, i would tell the guy to stop flirting with me that i am happy with my boyfriend and if you dont stop i am going to tell him what you are doing , if he doesn't get the hint then tell your boyfriend that he won't stop flirting with me

[NickiB]

That sucks you're in such a tough situation.

So if I was in your shoes. What I would do is tell him.

But maybe try to be as neutral about it as possible.

Explain the situation tell him your fears of i wasn't sure if telling you was the right move because i didn't want to damage your relationship with your friend but I also didn't want to keep something like this from you.

I don't know how he will react to it but that's what I would do.

[Chadnelson1973]

No you shouldn't unless you're looking to cause problems and make people upset. It will only lead to problems with you and him ! And problems with him and his friend. Sometimes flirting is just fun let it be if he's the jealous kind telling him of it will cause problems. If he's not he might just laugh at it.

[LeoElias]

Why don't you unfollow him/block him? That eliminates everything. Is it necessary needing to be his friend? Probably not, so just block him from your life. You can tell your boyfriend one last time he's hitting you up before you block him. And if you are worried he'll make another account, just make your account private so he can't keep creeping on you without a f/r

[stardust101]

If you’re uncomfortable with your boyfriend’s friend’s flirtations and you feel unsafe, then tell your boyfriend. If it’s innocent, then just ignore the friend, your boyfriend will realize in time that this “friend” needs to back off

[poppy2303]

Block his friend pand take him out of your following (it won't tell him) and take a screenshot of it to send to ur boyfriend. Before this just straight up tell his friend u have a boyfriend and he is discusting for even trying to flirt with you

[EpicDweeb]

If you're worried about the situation I'd say you should ask your boyfriend to talk to his friend for you about stopping. That way he knows you're not worried about him verifying and you're not just saying stuff to manipulate the situation.

[HeavyRoller]

If you have told the guy to stop, and he doesn't stop, then he's sexually harassing you. Doesn't sound like a stable dude. I would definitely tell your boyfriend and ask for his help in getting the guy to leave you alone.

[KingSyer]

Act like your mad about something on your phone then toss it at him telling him to deal with it... not sure if he is a monster like me but I found that I wouldn't be as mad if my ex acted mad about things like this... a few people would dm her and I would say dont reply and one day she toss her phone at me and said fix this so I dm them a D pic problem solved

[Chr1st0ph3rG901]

Your honesty is a difficult trait to find these days and speaking for myself I would rather you have told me. I would've had the same response for you and if it continued I would ask you to ask him to stop sending you DMs. If it continued after that I would ask that you unfriend and block him. At this point your "friend" has no respect for your relationship.

[Screenwriter]

Keep a record of his messages. Do not respond to them. Tell him in person to stop. If he continues, block him. If he continues in person, show your boyfriend and ask him to intervene.

[knewbie]

Yes/No
If the friend is a flirt and every girl he is around he flirts with No (assuming you're not uncomfortable)

If he is singling you out and trying to be next, there maybe game you don't see and it's something the is manipulative Yes

Option 3
Just tell him (the friend) to stop you not completely comfortable and you don't want his friend (the Boyfriend) to get the wrong idea. If he is a friend it will be odd for a minute but it should stop there.

[workinghardly]

In some situations that can be tricky but you should always be open and honest with him allowing him to be able to confide in you and trust that you are willing too confide in him.

[dejavuX3]

I loterally just went through this. A few mos back his friend slipped me a note. I went to him a week later after everyone told me not too. He didn't confront him. A few mos went by and his friend sent me a dm stating the same thing as the note. I told him right away. He went to his friend and asked him. His friend didn't lie and even apologized to me.

Just tell him.

[AynonOMouse]

You should bring it up when all of you are together. If he is a good man he would confront his friend and fight him or at least end the friendship.
If he doesn't and just lets it continue he is spineless.