So just because he doesn’t pay attention to me as much, it’s not because he’s losing interest then right? It’s cos of what he’s going through
If he lose interest he lose interest. You will never know when a person did it. Theu can be the sweetest person to you and still look for another person. They can distance themselves and make it much easier. The point of having a relationship is trust. A d if you lack trust then you need to end it. Because that feeling wouldn't not go away on its own. I would suggest you ask yourself: how much do I trust him? And take it from there. If you have to ask him about it, do what you got to do to get clarification. If you get too upset about it, then don't worry about it because he's going to reactivate him to just react. And depending on how he choose to react, you may have to let the relationship go.
If he gets too upset about it *
I had thought the same as you. I had tried to talk and figure out a way to both of us to feel better. Asked what he needed from me and he said there’s nothing. He completely dismissed my feelings, and was just angry and focused on how he feels. It made me feel like I’m in the way and I made it worse. What do I do now?
Given the circumstances, and without knowing your boyfriend's personality; my suggestion would be to wait this one out until he calms down/gets over what's bothering him. When he does, you should have a talk with him about how it makes you feel when he behaves that way. Tell him how you'd prefer to work together to fix the problems when they come up rather than be distant with each other. I suggest this because I don't think someone who isn't okay with this behaviour can endure it for a long time. I personally can't, and it's something I would have discussed with a potential partner before we officially got together (lack of communication and openness is a deal breaker).
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I do try to be supportive and listen when he’s ready to talk. When I see him I do what I can to make him feel better like back rub and physical affection. It’s just been rough because it’s been a month and it feels like I’m willing to make time for him, but it doesn’t feel the same with him. It doesn’t feel like he makes time for the relationship so I feel neglected.
I do. I do all that I can but it’s been a month and it’s still the same.
What is the source of his depression?Damn you women are so f'ing shallow and unsupportive. If he is going through a serious life event it may take time to resolve. If you can only be supportive during the good times, you are of no use in a serious relationship. Unfortunately, your attitude is very common among modern women -- the minute there are any difficulties they are out.
Personal and professional. No I’m not out. I’m trying to be supportive but I’m conflicted bc I just want a bit of time. Like just a few min call once in a while or try to see each other for an hour once a week. But it seems like he doesn’t want to make time.
I guess I’m struggling on how long I should wait. I want to be supportive but I also feel neglected
Not everything is about you.