If you have been or had an affair, did you regret it from the start or later?

[jc_789]

A women where I worked flirted with me a lot. It went on for months both of us flirting back and forth. Then one day she asked me out and I said yes. So that Friday I told my wife that I out with some friends to a. Football game at a statium in town. She said ok, that night I had one of my friends pick me up. We went out for a couple of beers at a local pub and I told him what I was doing. He was a little shocked to here what I had planned, and asked me what I was going to do if my wife found out about it? I told him that she wouldn't because we were going out on the other side of town. And he told me that I was F***ing up and not go through with it. I didn't listen to him. Now mind you this was back in the early 80s before everyone on the planet had a cellphone. And I was 21 years old at the time and my date she was only 19. So we couldn't go to a club, so I had my friend drop me off at a Pizzeria on the other side of town. She was going to meet me there at a certain time. So I get us a table and about 15 minutes later she walks through the door. She looked Smokin Hot! I had never seen her in street clothes only in our uniforms at work. We ordered and had dinner. We left the restaurant and stopped at a liquor store. I went in and got some beer and some tequila and limes. I drove and we rode around for awhile and then I pulled into a park where people went to make out, I pulled up to a secluded spot and turned the car off. We started making out, one thing led to another and the Windows fogged up. Needless to say I got lucky that night. So we got dressed and she took me home, when we got there she pulled up in front of my house. It was about 1:00am and there was my wife looking out the front window. At time I didn't know it but when I got in the house s*** hit the fan we got into the biggest argument the next day she left went to a grandmothers with our daughters. After a few days we got together and talked and I thought we worked it out. But she got me back her and my best friend had an affair. I came home one night and and caught him and her together. I took his ass outside and we got in a fight, I beat the s*** out of him. She ended up moving out, filed for divorce. It was ugly and I was devastated, I kicked myself in the ass so many times. And she ended up marrying him and they're still together to this day. And no it wasn't worth it and I got what I deserved.
I don't blame anybody but myself, and all I can say is to anyone else who thinks about doing that Don't !

[COMMODOREII]

My ex cheated on me. I felt used and not worth anything. I had put so much energy into us and for us to get our lives together going that by her doing what she did devastated me. I had seen how so many couples struggles together and even had more than one job to keep their love and their dreams going that my effort wasn't good for her. She didn't have the same hardships but caused them and drove a wedge between myself and my family. 😥💔

[Anonymous]

I talk/slept with a guy who’s older and married his kids are practically the same age as me in their mid-late 20s which was kind of weird. He has no interest in his wife anymore but wouldn’t leave her at this point since there’s more to lose. She’s called once when I stayed with him on his business trip I felt bad because he ignored it. But I mean I’m single I never asked him to pursue me. He’s very attached which is why I plan on ending things soon...

[happyxzmeal]

Does this question only apply to married people or everyone who has ever cheated in a relationship. Anyways I never regretted it and anyways I'm a big mouth so I told my partner at the time about the other person and the other person knew about my partner, they had never met but were fully aware of each other.

[cheapshotbob]

i am still in one but im single so i have been asking myself am i really cheating r is it just the girl? i mean its not physical just texting but still there is just something and i think some times how is it even possible for it to happen.

i know people frown on it and say its bad but why does it feel like a one way street and not really cheating if your single and the other person is married? i knw there should be remorse or some kind of feeing oof guilt but there is nothing like that seeing how i see it as me being single dating any other girl?

the funny fact about this is i did noot kno about her being married was not even brought up till after we had been talking for a few months. and then it was a surprise but feelings had already developed.

how do you walk away from that after you have already been close on the phone? im sure there are people that will say im just a stupid SOB not thinking with my head on my shoulders when that isn't even the case here.

feelings developed and im still single seein how she is married
so i still look froor that single girl who is available , which is why i added a new standard the girl has to be brutally honest i dont
need any more surprises.

[Gods_Gift]

I never regretted it. We met on the internet and fell in cyber-love. We lived in completely different countries and she travelled to be with me for 5 weeks. Her husband treated her like shit and it was a pleasure to cuckold him. Before we formally started a relationship I made her agree she would no longer have sex with him if she was going to have it with me, but that if she was going to divorce him as she wanted to it would be anyway not specifically to be with me, as we did not know where our relly would go. We did split up months later and she moved on but never regretted ditching her hubby or being with me.

[Gary888818]

I cheated on my ex-wife but at that point I was already thoroughly checked out. My only regret was not waiting until after I had sat her down and told her it was over.

If you have even the slightest hope for the relationship you're currently in, dont do it. It will royally fuck it up beyond repair regardless of whether your partner finds out or not. Keeping the lie to yourself just sours every good thing that happens in the relationship thereafter. You'll recall what you did to them every time.

[Anonymous]

I was the one that the husband was cheating with. He was 12 years older, had a wife, a kid and another baby. I was an 18 year old girl and I honestly didn’t care about them. My thing was his wife isn’t giving him what he wants/needs at home an I am.
I never once asked him to leave his wife and kids. this went on for over 2 years with him.
Than one day while I was with him when I was 20 I saw his toddlers toys stacked up in his living room and I realized what I was doing was wrong. I just felt so bad for his wife and kids.
I ended up meeting my current boyfriend and father of my three kids shorty after this realization.
An the fact that I have my own family it makes me feel even worse for what I did to that woman.

[Anonymous]

Delete this if you want, but let me tell you again. Your friend is a slut, she doesn't give a fuck about you, your relationship or her own marriage. She just wants to enjoy herself.
You risk losing your loving girlfriend and everything you two built for that two-timing skank.

[Anonymous]

I started regretting it after we started talking privately on social media. Our relationship was really an emotional affair. I felt guilt and attempted to end the relationship. I finally made her mad and she resorted to No Contact. I didn’t realize how emotional deep I was with her. I still miss her.

[Anonymous]

I have never had an affair while in a relationship but my sister has and i know she did not feel bad because she was already over the current guy so it didn't bother her to hurt his feelings. She told me she had moved on a long time ago.

[FunkyMonkee]

All three of them, technically but, no major regrets.

[Jenna04]

Only if they care I haven’t obviously but my has been caught but my dad’s just accepts it take her back everytime. Only regret getting caught.

[Anonymous]

I regret some of it, but not all..
I told my partner and he was livid

[cowboy_13]

yes I have with my old bosses cousin I don’t regret it cause we both knew what we were both doing. she was seeing some one at that time too

[Anonymous]

I have never had one, but, if I did, I likely would regret it from the start.

Remember, emotion is the enemy, of TRUE JUSTICE

[Exorcist_Rampage]

Most people would regret it.

[WhiteShoulder]

Complicated

[Anonymous]

No I dont