So it creates a middle ground so couples can Express their feelings
Not just feelings. Needs, expectations, comfort. Talking is just good in every case
oh, that's interesting
Yeah, it's a true revelation, i know right? I thought people know but as it turned out, not many actually do. 🤔🤔🤔
Oh well I wouldn't know because I never been in a relationship before.
Well neither was i in any real relationship, so i gave it my honest thought and came to that conclusion. 😏
Dam thanks dood
You are welcome mate!
Thanks for the most helpful opinion man!
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Of course, if a couple avoids fighting due to a failure of communication like they aren't sharing what's bothering each other, then that is obviously bad. But I disagree with the notion that people have to get angry at ones they love and argue and fight to actually love and be passionate with each other.
Oh, so it's a good thing that they fight but without malicious intent.
I don't even consider something without malicious intent or anger a "fight", or any discussion which doesn't seek to prove the other wrong an "argument". Any couple that stops if they're tempted to fight or other need only stop and think a tiny bit to realize that escalating or trying to prove each other wrong is destructive and likely to distance them apart, at least temporarily, and chances are that this is not what they really want if they just stop and think about it. My wife is especially good at realizing that, and I've gotten decent at it over the years.
There are different communication strategies too if you two believe something which is in conflict. There's the debate tactic which is very logical, avoids fallacies including insults, but is still a bit of an intellectual battle trying to prove each other wrong or heated argument which might reach a point of fallacy.I never found it necessary for either with the right people, and my wife is definitely among the right people. Instead of trying to prove each other wrong, we try to persuade each other of why we think our viewpoint is correct... and the end result might be described as "sharing" instead of "arguing". And sometimes my wife convinces me that I'm wrong that way, without having to attack a single one of my points, and sometimes I persuade her my way without attacking any of hers. There's no attacking required in our case.
Oh is this really good
I think it's awesome compared to some of my exes where we did argue and quarrel sometimes. Often those quarrels were all misunderstandings, or lack of trust, or jealousy, and that style of communication doesn't resolve any misunderstandings. What I usually found in those cases with the exes is that we piss each other off, maybe want time away from each other for a while, then maybe calm down and have make-up sex or whatever, then finally talk in a productive way which isn't arguing and fighting. But with my wife it's not we talk productively the entire time.
* But with my wife [we just] talk productively the entire time.
So, fights are required in a relationship so they can be more honest with each other.
Fights are toxic. But controlled discussions and disagreements are a must. Even if it’s a minor difference in opinion it’s better to be honest than lie out of fear.
So, you need these type of situations so you can learn from them.
i think you need to have those situation with a partner so that you know your partner in this situation. because people aren't how they normally are and if you're long term committed, you may wanna know how your partner will act then so you can know if you still want them knowing how they manage it.
I will never understand the people with a Hunger for drama. I get stressed from drama.
Exactly, you gotta talk things out like normal people before they can turn into fights.
@Shiver it's one thing to have disagreements. It's something else when it must be a fight. If people want to fight (not as a sport but for the sake of needing fights), then they should go to war to countries like North Korea or to Syria and fight the abusive warlords there, who enslave people.
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