Can you continue to have a non-sex relationship?

[JimmyQ]

A lot of sad songs have been written about this. It never works between men and women because you begin to feel comfortable with one another and even fantasize about getting it on. Then the testing (flirting) begins. Then it gets more serious as the metaphysical attraction kicks in. Ultimately the woman begins to question is this what I really want? Then there's the pull back and the cooling period. Then there's that awkward meeting when one or the other is with a spouse or a new friend and then the remorse sets in. All of this cause you don't know how to be honest right from the start.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, I have many friends. And I don't expect sex on the first date, I don't follow the three date rule, etc. Dating does not automatically imply sex. However, I expect that a relationship will become sexual when we have dated long enough to be comfortable with each other and to have mutual trust. However, once we become sexual, I expect that to continue (not on every occasion, of course!) and, if it stops, for me it is a problem to be addressed.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think I can if triggers are not there - like no tongue action in kissing - no touching below the neck for the lady and nothing below the chest for a man - no sexual movies or movies with sex scenes - limited private time at each other’s homes - lots of spiritual or conservative topics to keep a connection with no physical touch. Fun activities together or inspirational ones like reading books or touring the waterfalls or trying cool foods.

[ChgzDaniel]

Absolutely. I keep thinking if my better half was in an accident and lost the ability to walk and have sex etc I'd still be there for him. No matter what, if you're in a relationship with someone then you should be willing to stay with them with or without sex. I mean, are you with them for their body or because you love them?

[meesegoMoo]

Yes. At least until marriage. If you don't plan on staying with them forever, or eventually moving onto a more physical relationship after a commitment, leave. Before you feel like cheating. A small heartbreak now is better than a betrayal later. For both of you.

[AwesomeCookie]

Yeah with all my non-sex friends

[Usernamesrdumb]

Apparently. My girl hasn't had sex with me in 3 years, before that, averages 1-2x a yr. we’re still together. I stopped asking after metoo told me could be harassment and she kept saying no. Research “women losing desire in sex after marriage”. Id venture to say many married men are in that same situation. Not to say losing desire doesn't happen in men too, but not as frequent according to internet.

[Andytherese]

Sure, many people wait until marriage to have sex, so if you're dating and not having sex because of some ideal or decision you or your partner made about their life that's totally okay and you should respect this, but I think sex is important in marriage.

[774hejd23r]

Yes. If that aspect of my romantic life is satisfied, if not--the human condition will naturally affect our behavior and psychology to find a way to satiate those needs.

[ProfessionalMusician]

I have been in a relationship that had no sex in it but a good friend for a few years we had friends that we would meet once a week at a restaurant and had appetizers and beer we all worked at different locations for different businesss

[MissKittyz]

I'd rather be single at this point and get sex somewhere else. No thank you. That's not for me.

[slatyb]

I have many non-sexual relationships and one sexual relationship. One is about enough for me.

[crazy8000]

Nope. it will develop to just friends feelings very quickly. aren't together with someone I don't have all the right feelings for. the same goes the other way around if I notice she doesn't.

[Darcia]

No, I can’t. I miss it and don’t want any ole body off the streets. I want to be with someone who knows how to have great sex. Having sex with a girl ain’t the same as having it with a guy. No comparison.

[LJOILMAN]

If my girl friend was physically healthy and she was making a conscious decision not to have sex, I'd be gone, after trying to work through the issue first, of course.

[nomadia]

This for me is best relationship. I can be in a no sex relationship with someone. Until marriage.. . . yes. can't be married an no sex that would be weird. I would be suspicious

[TacosRAwesome]

I tried it for 4 years and I got depressed from it so I wouldn't.

[genericname85]

yes. we have a word for it. it's called friendship.

[scott04sa22]

Yes. George Lucas and his wife are in a non-sexual relationship and marriage.

[Gedaria]

Yes as long as both of you want this. It can carry on just fine...

[Anonymous]

Yep. I don’t need sex to keep me in a relationship if I want something long term with them.

[Pamina]

Of course you can, but it will be a miserable relationship.

[Plitty-Tank]

Yes. Very easily. I can just stay friends with her.

[Simba92]

No, if you are not doing sex, means relationship is not having that trust.