When you’re upset or worried about something, do you bottle it up?

[Anonymous]

Since i came to this life and i bottle it up. Not because I'm lonely, not because i have no friends, not because i don't have people that care about me, not i have them all.

But when i most needed someone to be my side, i was alone. Not being dramatic, or making a scene, but what can you expect from someone that went through I don't know everything? i can't even cry to let my emotions out, i can make anyone believe that I'm the happiest person in the world while I'm not! I break and rise, over and over and over and all by myself without anyone knowing... i know its wrong, i know i shouldn't keep it all inside, because i know its killing me slowly. But i believe one day, a person is gonna enter my life, and be the salvation from my thoughts, memories, and build up the perfect version of myself that i always kept fighting for...

I wasn't intending to make it anonymous, but its the first time I'm being true and vulnerable.

[COMMODOREII]

I try to talk to a friend and vent. It is toxic bottling it up. Do you need to vent?

[whitlee34]

Yes. Always!! I don't have but 2 people I can be raw with and one just discovered she had breast cancer. Stage 3 and aggressive so I'm listening to her all day and keep my struggles well mine. The only other person I deal with is the weed man. Sometimes I get things off my chest but its always funny when I tell it so I don't think he is hearing me.
I've never had someone I could trust. My past relationships would take my past or anything I confessed to and turn them into weapons against me.
For the past 3 weeks I have really needed a friend. It sucks

[Cynicaldreamer]

Considering I don't have many people in my life I can trust or open up to, I usually keep things bottled in.
I find other ways to vent such as exercise (walking or lifting something heavy), boxing/hitting something... basically distract myself

[CaptainOverthink]

A bit of both I guess. I tell a version of my troubles to a friend. And brood on the rest.
I Only tell a version because it's the best I can do. Usually so many small details that require bring there to understand, so telling everything is pointless and makes me seem delusional. I might just be though.

[Obtuse]

I usually just chat with whoever is nearby if something is bugging me (could be a total stranger). Usually, I try to find a way to make it humorous and entertaining though. I usually see these as a great source of comedic material but I need to practice on people nearby and get through some of the bad material that pops into mind.

[RawIronhide]

I've bottled most of it up all my life, mostly because i have no one to talk to. I honestly haven't noticed any adverse side effects except hypertension maybe, but people make it seem like if you bottle things up it'll give you an aneurysm, really it just makes it hard to open up because compounding factors make it harder to put into articulated speach.

[ZNopinions]

I tend to bottle it up and isolate myself and blast music in my ears. I'm not sure if that counts as bottling it up because although I'm not talking about my feelings, I'm still allowing myself to feel them. In a household like mine, it's hard to be open about my feelings

[clashcity22]

I bottle it up because it’s all I’ve ever done. I grew up in a house where it wasn’t ok to have an opinion or to have ambitions other than what my parents wanted for me. You learn to stop questioning it and in turn, hold it all in because there was no one to care or listen to you.

[ecfresh]

Yes, it’s one of my bad habits. I don’t want to be out of control or be dangerous to others and also try to be positive. So when I do feel frustrated I hold it in and try to push past those emotions. Thankfully I have some trusted friends and family that I vent to from time to time.

[imafreak67]

If something happened. and your worried about it .. me I just let it past and don't think about it what's done is done and has happened already there's no changing it so I think about it it's just going to make you miserable it was stuff like for instance say in the past you should have said I should have done this but thinking about it all the time it's not going to change so just think about it one time and move on

[ChrisWardJr]

I have bottled up my concerns before until I started asking myself specific questions..

Why does it upset me in this way?
Is this how I want to respond to the situation in the future?

I would take the answers to those questions and ask a mentor or close friend to help me break it down.

[kryptocynical]

Do not bottle them up inside. I wanted to tell someone how i felt, dont make the same mistake i did. Now there 6 feet under my apartment, my room mate called greg. Now he has moved downstairs, i was going to kick him out anyways, i just wqnted to be the first one to do it😂.

[LifeIsGood00]

I don’t always like to express my problems to people , even my closest. I like to listen to music and go for runs in the evening.

Can you think of a sweet memory you do not mind sharing 🥰? ↗

[lnva87]

Up to a point I keep to my self.
At some point I find time to went some how. Talk or drive, rarely drink.
But if stuff builds up too much and fast before I got time to went Im likely to explode to person who tips my cup. Its something i try to avoid but has happened.

[ThisAndThat]

I would say so. I usually look for answers. I'm always the one in the room people see carrying on, having a good time, I even project it as a cover, when in reality I'm stumped. In all actuality, if they're in the room with me to begin with, they probably sense something is wrong, maybe.

[_gigi18]

In a way. I'll confront you but I'll always forget to say one thing and then I keep that. I'll be really upset or hurt but I shove the feelings down until all the feelings resurface. I physically can't bring up feelings it'll just hit me all at once.

[Hatim4869]

I tell the person who hurt me what i'm feeling right away, i even do it at work, i wasn't always like this, i used to bottle up my feelings which was stressing me a lot.
But on the other hand, i don't like to confide to someone about my problems, i rarely do that, cause anyway, people who always complain all the time are not fun to be with, i won't want someone who's gonna keep talking to me only about his/her problems.

[sleepingdaisy]

I’m thankful as I have a bunch of people I can trust with my problems and worries.

But I tend to bottle it up anyway. It’s not due to lack of support or anything from other people, it’s the guilt I feel. If I rant to a friend or even express my feelings if i’m not having a particularly good day, I’ll feel bad as a few of my friends don’t tend to share their feelings and I would feel horrible if they were dealing with issues themselves and I was selfishly piling my issues onto them.

It is not good to bottle up and I know that, I’m working on it! For example, i’ve started journaling which has really helped !!

But if bottling up gets to heavy for me and I can’t handle it, I like to distract myself by playing video games!! I don’t become violent or anything, but having a focus distracts me from my thoughts, and then when i’m more calm I can think them over more.

[Dongtai]

It depends on how bad it is. If it’s like a 7-10 I’ll talk about it with someone of my close friends or family. My dad is my go to for 10’s. Anything below a 7 I meditate and journal on it. Push through it.

[dirt1776]

I bottle everything up. When you have nobody to talk to that knows your pain and knows what you're going through the only thing you can do is bottle it up and move forward. If you don't try to move forward you'll be stuck in a rut wondering what could've been if you just moved on.

[SueKi]

I keep my feelings to myself usually. I need time to talk about something upsetting and need to figure it out alone at first. Normally it takes me a few months to open up to someone.

[Leson]

The main reason a person expressed it or bottles it, depends on the individual. I mean, some people are outgoing and social , external focused. While others are personal and inner self focused. The outgoing and social person expresses things often, while the personal and inner focused person keeps most things bottled up. So you have to discover what type of you're interacting with at the time.

[Hamsteroids]

Yes. Usually. It’s a bad thing to do but that’s the way I’ve always been. I just suppress my emotions until I blow up and the vicious cycle starts over