I used to be, especially after my relationship with the first guy I ever loved was so messy and ended in me getting my heart broken. I didn't trust men at all and thought they only wanted to hurt me and that i was unlovable to them, i don't think i even believed men were capable of ture love deep down for a long time and it was all a lie to me. I fall so easily so id always have to push guys i had feelings for out of my life by any means even of it meant them hating me and never wanting to talk to me again because i was so scared of getting my heart broken because whenever something i committed to failed i used to go to a very dark place in my head.
When i met my now boyfriend, i wouldn't say it was love at first sight but we had a instant spark and we're bouth in similar situations love life wise. Wed never been a serious relationship with anyone else before, never been kissed or anything and struggled believing there was anyone out there for us but it like we were made for each other. We were both really shy at first with each other but we got past it eventually. I really had to grow some balls and i fighted off my selfdoubts because i liked him so much. It tooks us around a month to confess are love for each other and I've never been more happy and in love with someone in my life.
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No, more like I'm afraid of falling in love with the wrong person that will wind up:
-Not loving/wanting me back
-Being cheated on (again)
-Being hurt, disappointed, or rejected
All of which is very likely to happen in ANY relationship or crush on someone. It's just a matter of are you willing to risk putting yourself out there.
For me, it's easier staying single: less heartache.
I’m not afraid of falling in love but girls and women are because of 1 bad relationship and a few guys. That’s why girls and women will never understand how it feels to get rejected countless times by others and as a guy you just have to be respectful, strong minded and move on. But girls and women seem to just crumble and assume ALL GUYS ARE BAD ALL MEN ARE BAD. I’ve noticed what women do now is substitute real love for fake, artificial, superficial love (ie: he has to be 6ft4, have this much money, be great in this, be fantastic at that) long list of demands. In reality not simplifying true love, and not having super high expectations. I’m not saying it’s wrong to have certain qualities you look for in a guy or a man. But do women and girls assume a guy who is an absolute sweet heart who’s 5 ft 9 is considered garbage compared to a guy who’s 6 ft 3? Because I gotta be straight up and I hope girls read this... If I loved a girl and she had no make up on should I say “ewww put your make up back on you fugly duckling!” No because that would be rude and stupid. I don’t care if a girl is 5’2 or 5’10 it doesn’t matter if I like her that’s all that matters.
WE DON'T FALL IN LOVE , TRUE LOVE HITS US FROM ABOVE LIKE A METEOR SMACKING US FROM HEAVEN.
Love is nothing to be afraid of. God created all of us to be and share true love.
The fear you are suggesting is coming from finding out that you really never were in love to begin with. Sure we have people that come into our lives and we have a deep admiration towards them and they enhance your life just by knowing them. But that is not "TRUE LOVE" if it doesn't have a power of it's own to prosper. Love is not work and their is nothing a person can do to stop love.
Love is a word that is adopted to fill the missing word of of admiration you feel towards somebody. Meaning the word is useless even tho it is used. Most people feel they love something and truly want to love and be loved. So they misinterpret that feeling as love.
It is not until you experience TRUE LOVE that you realize how you have been confused by the word, you were use to using. At the same time you realize how small of the word LOVE really is for the energetic feeling that is consuming your soul.
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I would say very very afraid - the bible says child birth is very painful so I don't know how I can survive that pain - I also don't know how I would survive if my child came out disabled or my husband cheated on me or abandoned me or died on me or if he got sick and smelled terrible for several years etc... or if I became very unhappy but wouldn't divorce him cause I'm afraid of hell etc...
Yes and no. I'm not sure it would even be possible for me considering I don't really have any romantic feelings, but if it did, I'm not even sure how I would handle it, as it would be such a foreign feeling for me.
More than anything, the fear of heartbreak, being used, making decisions I would regret, etc. would scare me.No I'm afraid of making more excuses for it in the quest to find it.
All the time. Which doesn't save me from the disaster
Yes. I've been hurt way too many times so I'm keeping my heart locked. I can't even tell if a guy really loves me anymore with all the playing they do. And it's so normalized these days for guys to play around and get all the girls they want and they are considered "macho". Everytime I open up to a guy, I get rejected but everytime a guy comes to me he just wanted to mess around. I was never asked to prom, I had a beautiful dress waiting to be worn and all my friends had dates. Days got closer to prom as I have waited for a guy to give me flowers or write my name on a poster to make me feel special but nothing happened. I got the courage to asks a guy but he rejected me. From a guy, I've never gotten flowers before I've only gotten dick. I've never been asked to slow dance at prom, but grinding was an exception. I can never forget when a guy asked me out to a dinner date it was the most romantic thing that ever happened to me, I trusted him so much. No one ever made that effort to ask me out and not be "ashamed" of showing me off in public. I lost my virginity to him thinking he was the one but then he left me cuz he got what he wanted after weeks of what he called exhausting "boring" dates. Everytime I realize I'm falling for a guy, I stop myself n I just wanna protect my feelings. I have gotten so used to this feeling that if a guy just wants sex or rejects me I'm not even surprised anymore. Nothing special or romantic ever happened and if a guy even gave me flowers or asked me to dance holding hands like in those Disney princess movies i watched and wanted to have since I was a child... I would probably burst into tears and pinch myself thinking it's all a dream.
There maybe some fear there, yes. Deathly afraid? No. Some minor fear, ... maybe.
irritated & tired of going through the same repeated pattern of falling for someone, but nothing happens or falling for someone, you date the person for awhile, that person breaks it off with you & you have to continuously repeat this nonsense over & over & over again? yes.
It can also be depressing that all of your friends are either dating or married with a few children & you're not.
It's also a bit of a "kick in the nuts" if your partner breaks up with you,... your former partner begins to date someone else, that person leaves you behind, your ex-partner gets married to that new partner & guess what? you're still left in the dust single.No I'm not.
Love is the most profound feeling a human being can feel. Love for another person is the hardest emotion to come across and nowadays it seems like everything is a game to everyone and no one is really there for you, but you, so to love someone or to be loved by one is the most euphoric feeling because it's something you aren't used to, it brings another side of a person out, a positive side mostly, it's truly a blessing so if you ever fall in love make sure it's someone that brings out the better in you.Yes I am again because this Women I've been talking to after all this time she just got her place an said she wants to spend some time alone in her new apt that she will move into on the 29 of May of 2020 an b4 she when she was going to move in she was telling me that she wanted me to move in with her so she lead me to believe that I'd be moving in with her but now it seems like she wants me to wait monts b4 I'll be able to do so so I haven't call her or texted her in two days all this took place on May 19 of 2020 I send her a text on May 20 of 2020 at 4 am that was the last time I texted her.
So yes I am at this time.
God BlessVery. If I like someone, I distance myself from them, even if they like me, because I’m scared of relationships and falling in love distracting me from my studies. I supposed I don’t like relying on people. It’s not that I’m afraid of them breaking up with me
not at all. a little because it's easy to imagine the beginning and the final falling in love, but I can't imagine the leadup and the building of relationships, that part is hard for me. I don't know what comes in between, so then I get a little scared, but im not afraid of falling in love itself
Yeah. I’ve cared so much and put in so much effort and ultimately got nothing in return except for a broken heart, a bruised ego, and several trips to a therapist’s office. It took me a while to overcome that rejection and humiliation and I’ve afraid of it happening again.
Atm, i dont believe in it. Or what i used to beloeve is love has changed. I am going through my second divorce. Both guys i have picked and fallen in love with are abusers. 27 combined years of hope each time i heard sorry. Looking for the good quailties and loving those to forget the bad. I am tired.
I admire the idea of love, but I am terrified of never being good enough for someone. I don’t know if I have the capacity to be a good lover. It tears me up inside, and I ruin every relationship I start because my doubts and fears lead me to end it before I have a chance to really open up and share my true self with someone.
No, but I’m amazed by how many people are. If you’re not willing to go all in there’s no way you’d be able to get the full experience. If you both try and distance ourselves cause you’re afraid to fall in love then there’s no point. If you believe they will hurt you why give them a chance in the first place? Yes, it will hurt if it didn’t work out but that’s how you know it’s real. Everyone wants real love but don’t want to get the scars that come with it.
People aren't afraid of falling in love, that happens without our consent. People are afraid of rejection and getting their feelings hurt when reality doesn't manifest itself the same way as their fantasy or perception.
It's always best to practice not relying on outcomes. Start relying on an outcome and you'll get hurt when it doesn't happen.Never have been. Until recently. I fell in love with a girl and now a few months later my dad got a job out of state and we are moving. Its heart wrenching knowing that i can't be with the girl I love, and i told my dad i want to go to college in the state we live in now but he said no. So long story short I am a bit afraid of falling in love now.😭
I'm not afraid of falling in love as long as she's the right girl. I'm more afraid of committing myself to the wrong woman and have it all come toppling down. That's why I'm so cynical and have such high standards about what I'll accept from a woman. I expect the worst from her until proven otherwise.
More of the connection and even touching aspects of love. I almost punched an old lady for touching the small of my back in a cold sweat. Like an arachnophobia person surprised with spiders.
That was a weird moment because touching is vary easily avoided in a professional manner. So as much as i recognized avoiding touching with normal events, i never figured out how scared shitless i was of it when unprepared. Made me reassess a lot of things.Somewhat. Love to me is like a breath of fresh air or when you're feeling cold but you stick your hand into the sunlight and it warms it up just a bit.
But heartbreak... I remember the first time and I remember thinking to myself "This is what my hell would be. I feel like I've died and gone to heaven, and God gave me just enough light to give me hope so he could send me to hell and make it feel that much darker.".People should never be afraid of falling in love because its a beautiful thing to experience and give to someone. You just have to understand love is not perfect but it is worth putting in the effort than not trying at all.
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