What reasoning would be acceptable for you?
Thank you. I’m just confused what to do because I love her but I feel betrayed and a little heartbroken.
Fair enough, that’s an understandable reaction. I guess I’d just want to know why she did it... was it a silly whimsical mistake, is she unsatisfied by me in some way, is she sorry?
I appreciate your answer. I personally wouldn't share that interest in why they cheated, the fact they did and the disloyalty that entails would be enough for me to lose value in their opinion. Nevertheless, I found your explanation intriguing. I hope you never have to suffer that misfortune.
@JimboGB paradoxically, it takes a massive amount of trust to continue a relationship after one party has cheated. I know I would struggle to do so. But I also know that everyone makes mistakes and if I truly believed it was a momentary laps in judgment and they were truly sorry I believe I would forgive... I like to think so anyway.
It can definitely be a confusing time when you find out someone so close to you has betrayed your trust. You want to believe the story you were originally told, but then you find out the truth and it seems so wrong that it just couldn't be real. Don't go back and forgive or apologize to her before you take the time to heal yourself. You'd be surprised how much just a week or two of no contact can make problems in the relationship seem so much clearer. My advice- take some time to yourself. Hang out with someone that isn't involved with her, even if it's your neighbors dog. Do things that make you happy that the relationship might've distracted you from, go outside, get lost in a video game, try advocating for causes that align with your beliefs, read a book you never finished, journal, sing, day dream about the world pre-covid, etc. Once you've taken the time you need to feel refreshed and clear-headed, then talk to her- if you want. You don't need to talk to her if your alone time has made you realize she doesn't deserve you. The important thing is to take care of YOURSELF first. Don't worry about fixing things for her right now.
Thank you all so much. I’m just trying to figure everything out right now, we’ve been together for over a year. I can’t just immediately dismiss that.
Thank you. It is hard because we’ve been together for a year and I love her. I just wish it never happened
I'm really sorry. DMs are open if u need a pep talk <3
Thank you, I think I might do that
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