This is more my thinking... you meet by chance and go from there. No perfection no tweaking... it’s accepting them for who they are and loving them for it. Any issues are worked on and compromised. Give and take. Take and give. I don’t understand the dominos analogy but perhaps that’s why his relationship is a farce as he’s cheated.
When it comes to looking at things I always try to look at things from multiple directions & above we looked things from one direction so let us look at things from another direction. In life I always say if you never try you will never know & that goes for relationships as well. As for me I have a mortgage & before I was able to obtain that mortgage I wanted to make sure MY DUCKS WERE ALL IN A ROW or in my case I wanted to make sure my finances were in order & I had all the proper documents before I went to see a lender. In your case let’s compare lining up your ducks up in a row to what your male friend said. Your male friend said relationships are like playing dominoes, you have to make sure everything lines up. In this case your male friend might be lining his ducks up or another words he wants to make sure his dominoes are lined up before he starts a relationship.
I never looked at it that way. Makes sense. I look at relationships like having kids. You can try to prep all you want but kids always take more time, effort, and money then you ever dream they’ll take so there's no real preparation. Relationships or love always tends to find people when they’re not looking so I never considered there to be any prep. But after meeting someone I guess you’d want to be prepared as most want to give the best versions of themselves.
Love works in mysterious ways & love will kick you in the ass when you least expect it & just remember as I said before if you never try you will never know.
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I had to read this several times to really get the meaning of what you’re saying and it is wise. Thank you. I’m awaiting his answer... friend by email. Only friends. Everyone assumes on here posted questions are because of personal experiences and this is not. It was just a statement made in conversation.
Thank you mam for taking your time and understanding what I meant.And I get what you mean mam, even a conversation can arise questions in a person's mind
No I’m not saying that. My relationship past has nothing to do with the question. But if you must know, I haven’t dated previously since 1993, dating now let’s say is a bit more complicated since my husband died four years ago. If you don’t have an opinion on the actual question, why post an unrelated one? You could have kept scrolling past.
Your relationship past has something to do with it in the sense that you know what lining up needs to be done
At your age, you’re gonna be there sooner than you know it. Don’t be so judgmental. There’s two pieces of advice for you... listen & learn
You consider compatibility to the dominoes? How? Because you choose what to accept, decline, and overlook? That’s lining things up to you?
In order to play dominoes, each piece has to match another piece; otherwise you aren't allowed to put them together. In the same way, relationships between people work out best when one person's side matches the other person's side.