Would you cheat on your good partner who’s not really into a certain sex act that you like or expect them to do?

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I will never cheat, if he’s not into it I just have to accept it. We both must do certain stuff that we both like or are comfortable in doing. If it’s a very big deal to me I would rather leave my partner than cheat on him. It’s not fair to him plus why be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t make you satisfied, not willing to try new positions that both will eventually like and not asking “why don’t we try other stuff that we both like rather than only one of us like”

Ripper_E · Accepted Answer

No. I will fantasize about it and will make no effort to hide that I think about it but I would never ask her to do something she doesn't want to do. If it is a big enough deal to consider cheating, then I'd leave her. No point in staying if I'm not going to be happy. It's not fair to her either. Communication is important. We find what we both enjoy and do it.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I agree with you. I would never cheat. If you are dissatisfied with a relationship, the ethical thing to do is to call it quits. However, deep love is more valuable than exotic sexual appetite. A person has to assess what is more important to them.

RemoErdosain · Answer

Your attempt at "brainwashing" your ex into cheating instead of leaving just tells me you're crazy.

As for your original question, no, I wouldn't cheat. Sex isn't even that important to me. My ex didn't want to do one thing in the bedroom that is about the biggest turn on for me. She was a total whore, but still wouldn't do that one thing. I didn't consider cheating on her for it even for a split second. If someone isn't into some kink of mine, I won't break up over it either. Again, there are much more important things than sex in a relationship to me

jabberwocky00 · Answer

I have

Jjpayne · Answer

I'd say if be more apt to deal with my sexual desires in another way. Because they don't simply go away because my partner does not feel them or want them. I'd try to find my own way to cope with them but I would aim for that to not be with anyone else.

However, it might be a part of the relationship to compromise a sexual experience for the partner. Like helping them to get an erection and being able to release without needing to fully engage in sex. It sounds off putting to someone trying to avoid it but if the partner has moments of sexual desire, it can be nice gesture to simply help them to blow off steam so to speak. In some way agreeing to meet each other half way.

Because I know for me, my sexual feelings don't happen every day. Sometimes they can be once or twice a month if they are not prompted.

Maybe even simple affection and closeness could be a way without having to get too uncomfortable. But how you compromise is up to the couple to decide

AdithyaR · Answer

I agree with you. There's no excuse for cheating. If someone is sexually unhappy in a relationship, either work it out with eachother or just break up. Cheating is for cowards.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Absolutely not!

crmoore · Answer

No, I wouldn't

Giggltr0n · Answer

Nope. I would leave her

Juxtapose · Answer

I would just breakup.  Why would I want to get into bed thinking "she's a prude" when there are more compatible people out there?

Valnac · Answer

I would not cheat, I’d rather leave if it came to that.

CharlieDMX · Answer

Consensual cheating is not cheating. Doing it without consent is. And... It depends on what it is. If it is something I really really enjoy, I'm afraid I would consider the option

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I won't cheat. There's no excuse to cheating.  If one's not into a thing, either find new things that both enjoy or look for a new partner.  Cheating can be really bad for people