Can 2 broken people be in a relationship that will work out?

Question

Broken people as in people that have gone through something real bad and sad which had a drastic change in their views and thoughts and resulted in severe emotional damage.
Do you think 2 such people can be in a relationship that will work out?
0r do you think they can only have a good relation with normal people?

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

There aren't 'broken' people. By labeling yourself as broken a person absolves oneself of any responsibility to improve. Its a self-defeating strategy that does not "make" someone broken nor does it facilitate personal growth.

Usually when people say they are broken, they are having difficulties dealing with some sort of stress in their life, maybe its doing small things like feeding yourself and sleeping on time. Learning to treat your body decently is life skill #1. If you cannot eat or sleep you are not going to function well or regulate your emotions. Of course life is harder.

Last piece of advice is to differentiate vulnerability and emotional distress. Being vulnerable is good for fostering relationships. Constantly bringing in emotional distress will end it. Have emotions but don't project your frustrations from other areas of your life onto your partner. Thats why a lot of 'broken' people end up breaking up. Because they both get stuck in their distressed emotions without taking the time to laugh, to cheer someone else up, and to do the fun silly things like steal each others fries without taking it personally.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Nope.

One must heal oneself before loving another.

Two broken people just break each other further. People in the process of healing or improving could be together, but they must continue their individual journey without relying on the other.

sadMeester · Accepted Answer

It depends on what choices they tend to make and their reaction to each-other. If they're both severely mentally ill they should at least never have children, and getting together at all is iffy.

Some people have a stabilizing affect on each-other. If they function in different ways and can be put together to make one wholly functional unit then them getting together is a good idea. Perhaps better than with a "normal" person even because normal people can barely handle anything from what I've seen

b5fan · Accepted Answer

All are cut, wounded and broken.
For our world is full of peril.
Our cuts and wounds heal.
The memory remains.
A shadow looming large
A choice is upon us
See the shadow and flee
Forever stalked by the night
Face the shadow and embrace
For without night there is no light.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Depends on whether they are past the point of just selfishly dealing with their own needs and can attend to the needs of their partner.

grapefruit11 · Answer

It depends where each person is broken. Some kind of broken are compatible but others aren’t. For example, I am kind of emotionally fragile because of my damage. For me, it wouldn’t work out with someone who can’t empathize or tends to be cold and distant because of their damage.

Jjpayne · Answer

It depends on what they are struggling with and how they need help and support. It really depends on what they are struggling with because sometimes they can help out each other but sometimes they can both be like drowning swimmers and take each other down. It needs to be in a way where they can be beneficial to each other

centerline · Answer

yes... its possible with understanding...
just because someone has gone through something they deem to be harsh to them, does NOT mean they have the skills to be a friend or even a good person...
but with each of you having an understanding of the others problems and struggles, and workng together to help each of you heal, and make each of you a better person, then it can work out well...

Browneye57 · Answer

If you're truly broken down mentally and emotionally, then no. If you're just dramatizing and self-diagnosing, then who the fuck knows. So if it's the former, I say get some professional counseling and deal with your issues before bringing someone else into your life - it's jut not fair to them.
The simple fact is, no well adjusted happy adult wants to babysit another adult. You fix yourself before you engage - that's just common sense.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Well two negatives can make a positive.

But depends on personalities of people
You know people who have gone through lot can and try to relate with others with different traumas so they are more considerate to other partner and show more compassion

Syrian_survivor · Answer

If the damage is irreversible, emotionally and or medically, and they learned to cope with it and are currently living a stable life not much obstructed by that damage, then yes, it is definitely possible and possibly healthy for those 2 people to be in a relationship together, as long as they have a full understanding of each others' issues

Anonymous · Answer

I mean, I guess it depends how broken. We're all a little broken. If both people can understand where their partner is coming from and are willing to be patient with each other, it can work. If one or both people have serious mental or emotional issues though, it would be difficult without them taking steps to heal themselves (seeking therapy, etc.).

abc3643 · Answer

Yes, but I would seriously and strongly advise against it.

Scropgirl · Answer

It might work. Person who has been hurt the most only can appreciate little things that happen around. They are loyal and knows how it feels to be hurt in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I am a broken person from a divorce involving cheating where I ended up old and broke. I will never take a woman seriously, never trust a woman and never take any shit off a woman. If she just looks at me side ways, she can hit the fuckin road. I can never develope love for a woman again, so I don't fuck with them any more. So for me a relationship is not going to work, I have too much hatred and bitterness in me.

Bram852OOO · Answer

You first have to love yourself, before you can love someone else. Main reason why my ex broke up with me. She wasn't happy with herself.

Flower7 · Answer

In my experience, it's harder to get along with people who are "normal" than to get along with other broken people.

Billie_ · Answer

Yes, but ONLY if they’re not using their partner as a crutch. As in, if they weren’t in a relationship, they’d be fine.

SunnySri · Answer

I hope it works out mam, but sometimes two broken pieces don't fit together.

LonewolfMeme · Answer

From experience no, we were toxic and I sure as he'll wasn't happy

Kat94 · Answer

My husband and I were both broken when we first met. We have helped each other to heal so yes 2 broken people can make a relationship work.

DyeeSha · Answer

Yes, They sometimes end up being healthy for one and other. End up being mean of the strongest relationships

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

sounds like an abusive relationship on both sides...

havingfun101 · Answer

Forgiveness is the glue that binds us or something like that.

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