Is this a good reason to break up?

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I'm breaking up because I found out the real reason why his mother hates me. He's been complaining to her about me and elaborating things in our arguments. He's been telling her things I've never said such claiming I told him that I hate her food or that I think she's stupid.

I've been wondering for nearly 5 months why she hated me so much and my own boyfriend was the cause of all this. I'm going to break up? Would you break up to if your partner purposely lie about you to his/her parents, making you look bad?

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1 y

Note: not just that but I'm finding out he also said things about his mother she never said. So when he was with me, he was thrashing about his mother and when he was with his mother, he was talking bad about me to make her hate me more.

Answer 1

EclecticEmapath1111

Xper 5

Absolutely. Do it immediately, if possible! Your boyfriend Is a malignant narcissist and if you don't end this now, your life is going to get a lot more uncomfortable. Narcissists have an incessant need to feel powerful over others They generally don’t care about the pain they cause others—or may even enjoy it and experience it as empowering. They will also create situations that will humiliate you or make you look like a bad person and start malicious lies and rumors to start fights and conflicts with others and enjoy watching the fruits of their malice and deceit unfold and it feeds their egos to pit people against each other over them and makes them feel superior, they also have zero remorse for these behaviors and will blame Everyone else If they are ever caught. Get the hell away from this guy and never speak to him again. F*** his mindgames.

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Answer 2

Hangry22

Guru

Yep. That guy got some serious issues. Usually the guy wants his mom and girlfriend to like each other.

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Anonymous

Yes. You can't trust people like that. I had my reputation ruined for an entire town, it's a horrible feeling.

She won't believe you most likely if you tell her that he told you lies too. She might, but even if she does there will be bad feelings.

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1 y
The worse thing is he would talk garbage about his mother with me too. I'm learning he elaborated version and told me things she didn't say either. What type of person does that to their partner and their own mother?
Opinion Owner

1 y
Pathological liars. People here throw psych terms around with abandon but here it's appropriate. I've known a few and they almost never get better. I've seen some get better but never close to cured.
Asker

1 y
I spoke with her already. The lady found out about it too. She was shocked and upset with him. She doesn't know what went wrong to create a liar for a son. Both her and her husband gave him love and education. She was at lost at what went wrong.
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Opinion Owner

1 y
Don't be certain of that "love". Anyway, I hope your time isn't wasted in the future.
Asker

1 y
It won't. I'm dumping him. If he's capable of making me look bad with his parents and lying about that, then he can lie about bigger things.

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Asker

The worse thing is he would talk garbage about his mother with me too. I'm learning he elaborated version and told me things she didn't say either. What type of person does that to their partner and their own mother?

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

Pathological liars. People here throw psych terms around with abandon but here it's appropriate. I've known a few and they almost never get better. I've seen some get better but never close to cured.

Answer 6

Asker

I spoke with her already. The lady found out about it too. She was shocked and upset with him. She doesn't know what went wrong to create a liar for a son. Both her and her husband gave him love and education. She was at lost at what went wrong.

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Opinion Owner

Don't be certain of that "love". Anyway, I hope your time isn't wasted in the future.

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Asker

It won't. I'm dumping him. If he's capable of making me look bad with his parents and lying about that, then he can lie about bigger things.

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