Yes, there's a lot to think about. You're right.
i hope people soon start realizing a large majority of marriages throughout history were large age gaps. instead of acting like its a new concept. its only been around about as long as humans have existed.
I get your point but I think it's a big age gap. It's weird to like someone who was almost 20 when I was born.
yet its actually pretty common
Really? I see most people dating or marrying within their age group.
the percentage has dropped but still something like (just a roughly guessed number here) 30 to 35 %
That's interesting, I didn't know that.
my parents were about 10 years apart in age. my adopted sis was married twice to guys nearly twice her age. its quite biologically wired into most humans to seek age gaps. many/most women seek an older guy (am sure the non hetero side has it too) and many/most guys seek younger women. there are plenty of older woman/ younger guy relationships too.
the biology part is to ensure passing of genes. younger women have a much better chance of concieving a child and carrying it to term than older. sorry about this but women get the short end of the stick with that in that they are born (roughly) with a limited number of eggs. once those get used up by every menstral cycle in her life, she looses out any chances at biologically being a mother where as guys can produce sperm from puberty till death. this is basic HS biology class knowledge, or at least was when i went to HS. as well around age 30 is when women truly start having issues with conception and carrying to term and sometimes (seems a smaller % these days) start running out of eggs. by complications i mean health issues start arising for her if she does get pregnant. this is a large part of why my preffered age range for a girlfriend/wife is 18 to 30. preffered meaning there can be exceptions on that max per individual too but less likely, in this instance.
So, I see that age gap relationships are not new to you. My sisters and my friends they all have been in relationships or married within their age group which is why I'm surprised. I'm not sure if I could marry a man who is twice my age. What you said about older men wanting to be with younger women because they can easily get pregnant is also what he told me. He said that I can give him a family.
its true though. google it
I'm not saying it's not true.
i know. i suggested so you can read way more details of it all though.
I will search for this. Now I'm more curious about it.
Well I can see why you and him had some issues, your age gap was too big. I'm glad you're happy with someone else.
*correction: creepy, not to mention illegal to date an underage person in some areas. Damn I shouldn’t type on this phone
I know what you mean. It's ok, we all make mistakes. :)
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Well maybe that's because it's no longer a problem in your age.
I'm only 3 years older than you.
Really? But maybe that makes a difference.
Yeah, you'll probably realize that you should have gone for it in the first place.
You mean going for a relationship with a man who is 18 years older than me?
Yeah, you like him don't you?
Yes, I do. But our age gap concerns me.
It shouldn't you are both adults; and you like him. Plus I assume he likes you too.
Yes he does. He says he wants to marry me.
So the only problem is your feeling self conscious. Don't be an obstacle to your own love. There are enough obstacles out there already.
Yes, that's my problem. I know we will be criticized because of our age gap, but he's not worried about that at all.Your words are beautiful, I'll keep them in mind. :)
Why is that?
Because the way western cultures are men are very immature and need more time. While on the opposite women are tending to mess their lives up and get baggage faster than ever before. So its clearly better for most people to have some age gap with an older man and younger woman.
Well, I've never thought about that but it makes sense.
Awww that's so sweet! 😊❤ I hope she knows how much you love her.