Translation:she's not yours, its just your turn.
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So just keep that to myself huh?
Yes. But may I ask why you think all women cheat? Do you have bad experiences?
A combination of multiple horror stories of relationships going south, and how public opinion is often lopsided in the favor of women.Its not that I think all women will cheat, its that they could if they wanted to and people will just be like "well her needs just aren't being met" or be abusive and people would be like "he probbaly deserves it"Meaning the entire relationship would hinge solely on how benevolent she is, and I'm sorry that's not enough of a reassurance for me.I guess what concerns me isn't that she won't stay faithful, but rather she has no obligation to.
I'm gonna be honest, we live in a day and age where if you are a women, 30 and had less the 3 sexual partners by that point i would be impressed
Honestly all you're telling me is to keep my personal grievances quiet and make sure I have an exit strategy ready. Cause that kind of blind trust is absolutely foolish
So you'd rather have a relationship built on lies. Better to pretend like nothing is wrong then address any concerns. Ok.
I'd rather have an honest relationship with trust.Blatantly stating you won't trust me right out the gate means you're not worth my time or trust in turn.Definitely don't keep silent. But what you're talking about isn't voicing concerns.It's precluding what the other party will do without giving them a chance to earn your trust.Might work for some ladies, won't work for me.If you don't want to hear honest opinions, don't ask questions.
Oh really? Cause the way I see it if you really wanted to do that your first reaction would "im gonna prove you wrong" not "bye loser"But no now I see it's better for me to just keep any grievances to myself, bide my time, enjoy the ride while its lasts and wait for your inevitable betrayal.Thank you for the clarity.
Why would I bother proving you wrong? I don't want to spend time with someone who automatically needs proof of something. That's just high maintenance and drama.And hey, if you want betrayal, you'll find it. You'll drive your possible gfs to it yourself, or fabricate evidence when you allow your paranoia to fester.But y'know, you do you. You sound like you like having doubts.
That is called entitlement, and only goes to justify my concern.Even if you wouldn't cheat your dismissive attitude tells me any relationship you would have would be completely one sided and potentially emotionally abusive
Lol, and this is what I mean by you'll have a hard time finding a healthy relationship.You want to find fault. And so you'll find it. Manufacture it if you have to, even.
Lady im at the age where I would be entitled as hell to expect a woman who hasn't been around the block a few times, has been with better and is probbaly just "settling" for me. I hold no illusions that I won't get ditched the moment someone better comes along. I'm sorry I know it sounds cynical as hell, but it's how I've come to see things.
That’s really sad. I hope you find someone who meets your expectations, but who remains loyal.
The truth isn't always pretty
You should never fully trust him either.
I prefer to think of it as keeping expectations low
No. He just wouldn't be surprised if you did.
Well then he sounds like he has incredibly low self esteem. That definitely sounds like a deal breaker.
What does self esteem have to do with it?
Because men with high self esteem don’t expect their women to cheat on them.
What you rather he have high self esteem and think he's hot shit only for it all to come crashing down when it actually ends up happening? Being confident isn't going to prevent their spouse from sleeping around, if anything it just makes the reveal all the more devastating.Personally I think its more realistic to keep your expectations low. If they prove you wrong great, if not well its not like you were expecting much out of them anyway.
Well cheating isn’t really my cup of tea, so if a guy entered a relationship expecting me to cheat then I’d assume he thought very lowly of me and my morals, and so I wouldn’t want to date him. And I’d rather date someone with confidence. Low self esteem is an all around unattractive trait. Part of being in a relationship means being vulnerable and trusting your partner. If you don’t trust your partner then what’s the point?
How foolish, why would you intentionally leave yourself open to potentially getting hurt?
Cause that’s what love is. There’s no reward without risk. Loving someone means making yourself vulnerable.
... absurd. I can love and care for someone without risking a knife through my heart can't i?
No not really. I mean not a literal knife, but a figurative emotional knife.
Then maybe I'll never find love, cause I've already experienced a similar kind of betrayal once in my life... ill be damned if I ever allow myself to feel that kind of pain again.
It doesn't have to
Yeah it does. Even the best relationships have painful moments. Even if you guys have a perfect relationship and you stay together forever, it’s gonna feel catastrophic when one of you dies. Even if your partner doesn’t hurt you intentionally, love still hurts.