A great philosopher once said, something to the effect of, "The more sophisticated you are in life the more likely you will walk this journey alone." Maybe one reason you are happier being single is that you are unable to find someone who knows how to listen. Being with someone who authentically listens is so rewarding. It's a lost art, I know. Maybe all the men you meet just want to talk about themselves. I've chatted to women and their experiences on dating sites. I always thought they had it made in life and I couldn't understand why they are still single. That's how I came up with the above.
I've known a few women like that. I'm definitely a sexual person, so I would find only having platonic friendships to be profoundly unfulfilling. It's good that you know who you are though.
I hope you don't find my reply offensive. Are you the type of person who won't engage in sexual activities unless you are in a relationship? If so, don't you long for sex? Or are you a person who will engage in sex with strangers?
@David92506 No, it is not offensive! I don't long for sex at all. I've never had it and never had any desire to. I've actually always been a bit fearful about it and somewhat repulsed by it. I thought for a long time it was something I just wasn't ready for and/or hadn't found the right person for yet (and at that point, I was only willing to engage in it with someone I was in a long term serious relationship with *ONLY* when I felt ready), but then found that I just don't have any sex drive at all.
When a man looks at a woman he can get turned-on when seeing a woman's butt, breasts, figure, etc. Purely physical. You don't do that when looking at men? Nothing excites you or turns you on?
@David92506 No. I just see people, and the weird thing about any time I developed a "crush" in the past (now I question whether those were even actual crushes and not me just really wanting to be close with someone I thought a lot of) is that they always started out as just ordinary guys I didn't really notice, but I developed some sort of feelings after I got to know them. I have seen guys and briefly thought they were nice looking, but I have never felt turned on.
Do you think that maybe you aren't a visual person but rather can get turned on only when you get to know the person and his personality? For example, I get turned on when a woman authentically listens. Her physical appearance just isn't that important.
@David92506 Maybe. To be honest, I haven't had any feelings for anyone for years. Even when I thought I was attracted to them, I had zero sexual feelings.
I should also add that this predominantly my reasons/excuses not to pursue dating. It could entirely be the case that I’m also just not attractive in many aspects (looks, personality etcetera), as it depends on personal preference, which adds another spin to it.
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yea i know what you mean, but personally im looking for the right person too but i got too much self respect to sleep around, but i do know what you mean, you enjoy being single, cause when you find the right person you'll be stuck with them forever 😂
You got me! Once you get used to being Single you understand how much fun it is. Aaaand you can find yourself a Friend that can help you with that „Problem“ 😂
yea i guess i can understand what you mean, i just dont like to ruin my face, know what i mean 🙂
You‘re too nice :)
i wouldn't say all that, lets just say i like to give the same energy back to people 🙃💯
You‘re Not wrong
yea i know what you mean, you do you tho 💯🙏🏽
yea that makes sense
lmao i felt that broski 😂
TBH my dating life is a disaster. Basically every decision I've made in my life has been the wrong one :)
well there's many girls which means you got many chances
Aye. Not much prospect at the moment with this covid anyway.
true dat, lmao you can enjoy your own time, women require lots of attention and well take a lot of your time, im sure you are enjoying being single right now 😂
Oh yes, my wife controlled the shit out of me.I have very minimal stress now.
well goodluck on the search
hope you know backwards isn't the answer 😂👍
Thanks! And loool, I will take your advice up :)
lol get out 😂
The now have got to known that you aren't single!!! Lol
**the world have got...
yea she's gonna hack and inturrupt the election just to let everyone know she's taken
I’m going for NYC, I want them to know first
this chick is crazy 😂
so you should date someone mature and older around my age ;)
@Cowboy6666 lol i dated one guy that is 13 years older than me before. Maybe i just happen to go for the childish guys too
or 2 more years
Must be difficult to deal with!
women can be complicated
yea sounds legit
im sure you'll find someone
say no more fam
sure lets go with that 🙂
yea sure thats the reason 😂
keep searching 🤣
Yeah 🧐 😄😄
thats crazy, may she rest in peace 💯🙏🏽
yes just gotta show your assertive side and make it work
nope. that makes you a jerk or asshole
in other words when women say "i look for this and that" they typically are not actually wanting that.
i didn't clarify enough, i dont mean give up your nice side, just show that you have both sides, a nice side and one that can stand up for yourself when you have too
Finally you can pee on me
i wish i could unsee that
Wish I could taste it
@Nayyr no😡@chriscdi i wish i could unsee this 2😭
this connection y'all got here is weird 😂
ouch, *pats @Nayyr on back*
Don't give him sympathy.
yep life got its ups and down