That last part was funny, Prettygurl12. So true. When I do yard work and things around the house, or when my wife comes home from work and it's clean, she calls it "foreplay". LOL
No I am not.I was just curious as to how people these days think about this
I think it is entirely negotiable. A woman might agree to do all of the housework and the man agrees to do all of the work outside of the house as well as home maintenance and repair. When I was married, we both did work inside the house. I primarily cooked and cleaned in the kitchen, did my own laundry, and she did the other housework. Usually, we helped each other with whatever chore needed to be done because, as soon as the chores were done, we moved on to play time for the two of us.
We both had jobs and I cooked because I usually arrived home first. If we both work, I view housework as a 50/50 responsibility, based on our abilities. I was a better cook and usually did Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners for 20-30 people. She vacuumed, dusted, and did things that I honestly rarely noticed.
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I agree 100%! I was just curious to see how many people still haven't evolved with the times
I tried to include everything with the who has more time and the split equally options. Is there anything else you think I could've added to make this more inclusive?
Yes, you have an option it’s the woman’s job, so add an option it’s the men’s job
Every home maintenance/cleaning situation is unique and fluid. Example, I worked from home most of the time I was married, and my ex worked full time at a bank. I didn't necessarily have more time (except saved commuting time), but I could do daytime errands, yard work, clean the pool a bit easier... and then my company eliminated my position, so then I am working a new job in an office. So we had to have another discussion about it. Life changes.
That's what I meant with whoever has time, it's not set in stone and everchanging
Definitely a complicated issue. A married buddy gave me the advice about having an honest discussion about it BEFORE we moved in together and got married. Some of the best advice I've ever received.
Because she has more time? Is it her only job?
I do the other work.
Do you mean yard work or are you the breadwinner?
both, but I also spend a lot of time improving the houseI am currently laying a new floor on the bottom floor of the house and that is around 2000 sq ft of space. I renovated the kitchen, mudroom and laundry room completely from bare walls to full built in cabinets with detailed molding and lighting.I take care of the landscaping and the yard work as well
Then it makes sense for your wife/girlfriend to do the housework, so basically she does it because she has time for it while you're busy with other stuff
She likes that type of work. Some women have the nesting instinct and keeping a home in order satisfies them at that level. I like to build and I get satisfaction at that level. That doesn't mean that we always like to do the work but in general it seems to be a good fit.Occasionally she'll work with me in the landscaping pulling weeds and I'll help her inside
That sounds like a good relationship
In our household the women has always done the cleaning or the gay man
In my house it’s my responsibility.