Why don't people leave an abusive relationship?

[RoxyFoxx]

It's said that if you suddenly boil the water in which a frog is, it will immediately jump out. But if you heat it up SLOWLY, it will stay there and be boiled. Because it doesn't realise the water is becoming hotter.
Similarly, abusers don't start immediately. If a guy began beating a girl on the first date, she could easily leave and call the police. But abusers will first be very sweet. He will then SLOWLY take control of your life.
1. First, he will take you away from their friends and family by saying that you should spend time only with him. If you refuse, he will whine that you're a bad girlfriend for not giving him time. That's another abuser tactic: making you feel bad about your own choices.
2. He will then control your life choices. It will begin with the little things first: your choice of dress, your choice of food at a restaurant, your choice of décor for the home, etc. If you protest, he'll say he's doing that because he loves you and knows what's best for you. That's another tactic.
3. After that, he'll take control over your money and assets. He'll force you to turn your house and car into joint assets, for example, or even ask to transfer them to him. Once again, he'll say it's because you and him are in love and should prepare to start a family. Abusers are very good at sweet-talking.
4. Finally, he might ask you to share your phone password with him, or even to keep your phone with him. His excuse: "so that we can trust each other." This will cut you off from anyone who could've helped you.
5. NOW comes the actual abuse. You're now cut off, have lost your friends, and given everything you had to him. First, he'll humiliate you to crush your self-esteem, so that when he abuses you, you feel it's your fault. Then, he'll start the beatings. By the time this point comes, years may have passed. You might even have had a kid (or kids). You think that now that you've been with him for so long, it wouldn't be right to leave, especially if you have kids. And even here, he'll be SLOW. It will first be hitting your arm or something like that. Nothing serious. THEN it'll escalate.
Eventually, he'll convince you that you DESERVED to be abused.
The key word here is SLOW. Abusers always first build trust, then take control, and then SLOWLY start the abuse.

[Ally247]

1. Comfort, they're comfortable and they think they won't find someone else so they'd rather stay in it over being alone.
2. Low self esteem, they may think they deserve it or downplay it
3. Hope that it'll change
4. They love the abuser, and as a result become blind to the abuse

[Alpha09]

Because some of them try and end up dead.

[jimmy2]

I think its partly fear. Dependence, or more emotional negatively

[Asianguy123]

because abuse people think that they can fix things and they are drown to the trouble than avoiding

[NumberOneStunna]

Because they feel like their partner is all life has to offer them. So they’ll stay no matter what!

[anon1903]

Because they think they cannot do better

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Brainwashed in numerous ways.

[Me080Mo]

Being deeply in love and attached to that person

[Fuentes]

Stupidity and low self esteem

[Twalli]

They see their situation as different

[Agem123]

Afraid of being lonely, insecure, low self esteem.

[Joker_]

Because they're retarded

[David_Bayer]

They make them believe that they're worthless

[wittymilf]

Love 🙄

[TraditionalMan]

It's your fault if you choose a bad person

[Gwenhwyfar]

I voted A

[RobZombiefrver002]

Low self-esteem

[LEADFOOTboi]

CUZ THEY'RE SIMPS

[Anonymous]

Social pressure.