I have already met my soulmate who i can never be together with and we aren't in contact anymore. He helped me and i helped him and our roles in each other's lives are over. So i don't have to worry about "the one" The biggest deal breaker in a relationship for me is cheating and i have always advised a break up if your SO cheats. Cheating is the same reason why i am scared to be in a relationship too. It seems that many people here and irl supports cheating too. I had a guy tell me he will pour sulphuric acid on to my face because i asked a girl to break up with her cheating boyfriend. I know a female user here who everyone compliments on how she's such a submissive good girlfriend while she's flirting and sexting her guy friend. Even some of my friends in committed relations talk about new crushes and flirting with hot losers.(They say it's for fun) Whenever i express my hatred towards cheating, people ask "Did you get cheated on or something?". Obviously i did not. But i feel like what they're saying is i don't have the right to be upset about cheating. Anyway i got a player guy who have always wanted to "date" me since i am not easy and i am 99.9% sure he will cheat. So if i date him and when he cheats, i may finally be able to get rid of my fear. Once i become immune, i believe that i won't be always thinking if my future SO (someone i love) is cheating and even if he is, I would be used to it. You would feel like i am being a hypocrite rn so i will stop expressing my anger towards cheating and such questions from this moment onwards. And yes i am alright being a miserable girl who would probably be pitied on (Ik i need help🤷♀️).Do you think it's gonna work?
Should I date players to get rid of my fear of cheating?
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ItsTheNephilim | 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Man wut? You sure there won't be any adverse effects of that in future? Not sure what you mean by soul mate and if it you two weren't meant to be together in any way, how can you rely so much on having them as your soul mate? Not gonna go more into personal definition of a soul mate but there are a lotta opportunities out there and someone or the other is always better. Attachment with one does it and makes things work. If you're someone who is so against cheating and fears that, I'm sure a guy similar to your thinking is around the corner who despises of cheating too. You say people here talk about how you're against cheating, I'm sure you might have observed that guys get cheated on too. Date around, hold yourself reasonably and let go if things seem right. No guarantees, certainly not complete waste and who knows? It might be worth it!
I once read an article about soulmate and life partners. Soulmate is a passing love interest who has a meaningful impact on your life but is not forever while life partner is well your partner.
Agree to disagree. Different people have different opinions on it. Many don't believe in the idea of soul mates. I for one believe that a soul mate needn't necessarily depend on the gender of the person or the kind of relationship you have with them, only depends on the soul of the person. Could be a romantic partner, friend or a family member.
It's stupid to get into a relationship with the mindset of hoping it fails. There is nothing you or anyone can say to justify to wanting to be with a player let alone actually being with one.
You are looking at future relationships negatively. You have a bad outlook when it comes to relationships. You are wanting to put yourself in a negative situation with the hope of getting cheated on so it doesn't hurt if you find someone you care about and they cheat on you. That is like someone getting with an alcoholic so they are use to it just in case the one they find and care about becomes an alcoholic. You need help when it comes to relationships because you are going about it all wrong.
You pretty much summed it up. I have only been hated upon when i say cheating is bad. If the people from the same pool that i am gonna date doesn't think cheating is bad, obviously they would be banging others when in a relationship. Better to harden your heart now than to lose it in the future
If only that was easy. Such guys go for the the cheating girls too. I mean they don't know she's a cheater but i know all the dirt happening around here and there
Don't take advice then. Keep going for the ones who think cheating is okay and if you get cheated on over and over and over etc again then do not complain.
Being cheated on is not something someone should want to get use to.
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Elsa143 | 201 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Heyy excuse me? I HATE CHEATERS. They all should DIE !! Why do you still wanna drink a poison even if you know that it's only a poison. FYI, I've tried this and I got equally frustrated. Because we're loyal and fixed. Even if you get used to cheating, your partner will do more outrageous things like ignoring you and disappearing whenever he wants because he knows you didn't set boundaries AND YOU WILL HAVE ZERO RESPECT for your partner, you will unconsciously fight very often, you will wanna get even with your partner at all the times! So tell me how is this a healthy relationship? Isn't being single better than this toxic drama? And still he will end up cheating on you by having secret Instagram accounts and having secret affairs? Girl trust me you don't wanna grow more hatred about cheaters anymore. I don't deal with cheaters because I know that I'll murder them and end up in jail so that's why I ghost them and ignore them.
Ik what you mean. This hate is only eating me up and getting me depressed. Plus i can never have a relationship with a toxic guy. The whole point of drinking poison is to produce the antibodies for future infections.
Yes you might get antibodies but your time will be wasted... I had terrible experiences consequently with 2 crushes because they appeared so good but are toxic flirts.
But I managed to not approach them. It hurt but I still moved on from the thought to make them my future.
Billie_ | 142 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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sweetheart, not all men cheat! its a little bit trickier to find the good men, because they are hidden between the confident ones. I think you shouldn't date players, and go for a more humble, nerdy kinda guy. those are the most loyal in my experience <3
The humble nerdy ones go for the show off hyperactive kinda girls because even they're both brainy and handsome. That's the one i have always checked out but oh well.
Hangry you are bat shit crazy right here but I still like you enough to stalk you a little.
Most people IRL don’t even want to cheat. Honestly. There’s nothing more comforting than a cheese toastie on a piece of stale bread. Do you get it? STALE bread?
Ya i left that phase long back. That guy was trying to get me warmed up so that he could butter me. I can't stand asshole bastards And did you just say most people don't want to cheat?🙄
I am gonna die with my hymen intact. I will take it with me to hell probably
Bhavin2184 | 231 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Why the hell would date a cheater.. I mean there are normal loyal guys so wait for them.. Also do file police complaint against the guy who was going to throw acid on you. If you date an cheater, it will eventually damage our physical and mental health.. Many guys and girls have even tried suicide in India because of players.. So don't date players..
You logic doesn't make sense.. You will still have fear of getting cheated.. Also it's better to wait and find normal guy and built a relationship with him.. Dating a player will affect your mental health so don't it.. Change your friend circle too.. Also you live in India , you won't die virgin..
Bang5luts | 56 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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I think you should not let the thought of someone cheating on you alter your life's decisions. Except for the player guy. Don't date him. He won't care about you in the end it won't help you figure out anything that you don't already know. Which is that you don't want to date him.
If you date someone else and feel they are cheating, relax, breathe deeply and slowly. Then don't say a word. Don't try and catch them, instead just pay attention without investigating. Investigating will drive you crazy. No joke been there dumb that (and yes I meant dumb).
People who cheat get caught! Plain and simple. Their actions will rat them out. But if you don't listen to my advice and you do not have to, looking for something that doesn't exist will ruin good things and push good people away. I hope this helps..
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Jjpayne | 2.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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I would say no, simply because a hardened heart may protect you but but as a side effect it will prevent you from feeling the good feelings too. You will have to work harder to feel vunerably romantic. And there is a value to that, it's the leg lifting up and enjoying the sweet moments. That's my view on it anyway...
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zeitgeist057 | 64 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Bad idea, you’re definitely going to catch some feelings and get hurt, or you won’t catch any feelings but still reinforce your ideas about guys being jerks. I’m sorry I don’t have much good advice for you, I’m on the other end of the spectrum which is not that of a cheater, but rather someone who has let go of the ideas of fear, possessiveness, and attachment as having anything to do with true and real love.
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loveslongnails | 1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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#1) I seriously, SERIOUSLY doubt you met your soulmate. #2) It's not like learning how swim to overcome your fear of water. You'll always be afraid of being cheated on until you stop "worrying about" being cheated on.. Your mind is so preoccupied with it that you can't live or love in the moment or immediate future. 3) You make your best choice in a partner and you go forward. There ARE no guarantees.
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Avicenna | 4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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No, dating them will kill any possibility of trusting a boyfriend. Date a reliable, faithful guy to get rid of this fear.
@zeitgeist057 oh such a great idea. Let's wait till i get 40 and old to go after 40 year old guys who will be thirsting over 20 year olds with fresh eggs. Now why am i so dumb to not think that?
@sadMeester He is a good guy who deserves a good girlfriend. I don't wanna waste his time and make him lose possible future partners. And i cannot demand faithfulness from him because it's an ldr and well he's a guy. So I pushed him away
Ew. I won't have sex with him. That's what's gonna drive him crazy It wouldn't increase my fear. The whole point is to get rid of the fear by facing the fear
Dont give up standards but maybe try having a 3 some that you both approve of. its a comfort thing. im in a simi open relationship as long as she is ok with it we have 3 sums all the time but never alone or doing it with out her there apart of it.
I am not in a relation rn and i would never do threesomes
luvstoned4him | 3.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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I get what you are saying but you have to be afraid of if he brings you and STD because most ain't curable and you would have to live with that mistake for the rest of your life
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