She definitely opened my mind though and made me more understanding as to why people cheat, especially women
It was definitely eye opening and interesting having a friend as someone who came from a completely different world to me
“ she was a raving feminists, leftist and was one of those girls who was extremely jealous and insecure deep down so slept around to feel accepted by men and acted like she was super smart too when she was actually really stupid when it came to basic logic.”I’m glad you got to observe that from a different perspective (besides male criticism). You see why we don’t trust and highly dislike feminists? When a girl openly identifies as that it’s an automatic red flag for me. They basically believe that feelings = logic and feelings = justification.
@guesswhoseback i don't have issues with all feminists. I just think a lot of women have taken it and made it into something toxic what only benefits them when it suits. There is also a lot of good feminists out there they just don't get heard over the stupid loud obnoxious self proclaim feminists who have actually done nothing to benefit women if anything they've made women, especially white middle class woman a laughing stock and made feminism look bad taking a way from awareness for serious causes women should be fighting for like equity especially in the middle east. There's still a lot of bad things that happen to women today and nothing is done about it because woman like me are scared of not being taken seriously due to these stupid so called feminists.
I used to work in a highly male dominated industry and i didn't believe in feminism before i started their and realised somethings like the gender the pay gap, mansplaining and sexual harassment were all still were going off in the work place. My male colleagues would get offered more over time and training whilst i wasn't even told it was on offer. I was made to do all the men's cleaning and punished if i refused to do it as it wasn't my job. I even complained and was threatened to be fired and demoted to head of cleaning because i said my job title isn't being a cleaner, i was originally meant to be head of maintenance and i was very good at that job and worked extremely hards whilst my male colleagues went on 12 or more smoking breaks a and talked about pussy all day yet still managed to get higher in the company then me because i was just so good at cleaning there shit up apparently.I was also sexually harassed on multiple occasions and i was told to shut up and that i should be glad of the attention. Even one of my managers groped me right in front of cameras and customers and still got away with it. Fucking hated that place
I’ve worked in the fitness industry around all women years ago. Here is what I got to enjoy: - hearing them gossip and snipe about guys all the time - being expected to do all the heavy lifting and dirty work and to watch over women if they didn’t feel safe (walking then to their cars) - hearing about sexism against males - being asked about who I liked and later having used against me. - having a female boss who purposely acted bitchy and domineering (over the top) just to make a point. - we were all paid the same - getting of hand sexual comments about having a nice “butt” from women 20+ years my senior. - hearing them diss me behind my back with “weird and creepy” comments. Im an introvert and I had undiagnosed ADHD at that time. Yeah I act different but never with ill intentions. Calling me “creepy” is a disgusting heinous cheap shot. Creepy is defined as having intention to rape. Realize what you are saying. . - worst of all hearing them complain about “inequality” while being active hypocrites. Let’s just get rid of the phrase “feminism” please. Let’s make up different phrases for people like your friend vs. people who are actually friendly.
@guesswhoseback" creepy" definitioncausing an unpleasant feeling of fear or unease... Doesn't say anything about rape
I’ve seen it defined differently. It’s okay to criticize someone for making a “creepy” action like an inappropriate comment or staring too long. But all out calling someone a “creep” especially when they never outright done anything to you is disgusting bullshit. It’s like me calling a girl a slut/whore despite not knowing anything about her or ever having her do anything bad to me. But it’s even worse because being insulted for assumed promiscuity is nothing nearly as bad as been a considered a potential rapist. Don’t ever call a guy that unless he did something explicitly wrong (yes I’ve been unjustifiably called that before and it was infuriating)
@guesswhoseback i feel like you are projecting your frustration towards women towards me when i never asked you about it. I was clearly trying to say not all feminists are bad people and there's still need fir feminism and now you're going off topic and talking about your personal issues with women
No I’m not trying to do that. Don’t take this personally. Just because I disagree with you doesn’t mean I hate you. But the term “feminist” is so convoluted is need to be defined as something else. Every girl I’ve met and seen who openly identifies as “feminist” have traits more or less like your friend. When I hear that phrase it really rubs me the wrong way. If men are so “privileged” in western society than why do we have almost 4x the suicide rates as women?
@guesswhoseback i didn't say you hated me or anything about men being "privileged” in western society. I just said feminists aren't all bad and then you started going on about how women call you creepy and that's some how calling you a rapist. Your going off topic again. All i did was try to defend feminists and then you started bringing up random topics that sound more like a personal issue then a actual issue with feminists
The phrase “feminist” does not hold the same meaning today as the 1970s. Hey maybe you really do believe in TRUE gender equality (which includes equal responsibilities). If so you should consider calling yourself something else besides “feminist”. It’s not what it used to be.
Well, your best friends situation seems more than understandable to me but nobody forces him to maintain a long distance relationship (those are almost always bound to fail)."It's not that he cheated on his girlfriend that lead to the doom of our friendship. It was lack of respect, lack of empathy and Godawful selfishness on his end. Him cheating on his girlfriend was the act that shows poor character, lack of impulse control and lack of integrity on his end."So it was him cheating on her long distance girlfriend, that doomed the relationship. How is that different from saying "it's not, that you killed him/her but you murdered her/you"? 🤔🤔🤔
@Unit1 He chose to get with this girl and therefore I gave him a good lecture.Read my comment again carefully. I was referring to my friendship with him that was doomed, not his relationship with that girl. basically what I'm saying is, I didn't end our friendship because he happened to have cheated on his girl. It's all the poor characteristics behind the cheating that also affected my friendship with him (which was a decade). Oh well, people change.
Whoops.When I said "So it was him cheating on her long distance girlfriend, that doomed the relationship." I referred the "relationship" (the last word here) hereby as your relationship with him - the friendship. Friendship is a form of relationship too.What an ambiguity 😄
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Actually I’m in a verryyy different situation, this guy has been cheating on my friend for almost 6-7 month (since lock down started) and his excuse is that , he wanted to end but the girl insisted on fixing things, he even had threesome and I just feel disgusted by this (I know both of them, the guy is my boyfriend’s best friend and the girl is also his friend)
It’s one thing if someone gets caught up and chests in the moment. That’s bad. Really bad. But there is something particularly disgusting about someone who cheats continually. It’s a huge sign of disrespect. It shows complete amoral character. He just wants the best of both worlds. His gfs love and attention and hot random p*say on the said. Was this 3some with two other random girls or his girlfriend and her friend?
Exactly, and she does his university homework and projects 🤦🏻♀️, it’s kinda difficult for me and my boyfriend to even look them in the eyeHis three way was with random people (MMF) , I’m pretty sure his girlfriend doesn’t know about it.Thanks a lot for your answer 🙏🏻
This sounds sociopathic to me. Disgusting. The really sad part is scumbag guys like this are often chic magnets. They have no conscious and they can turn their interest level off and on towards women like a light switch. They don’t fall in love. They are often good actors and real charming. Women just love the challenge they come off as. I hate guys like this. Both on a moral level and envy (because they get what they want). They are the ones that deserved to be turned down, rejected and friendzoned but that’s not how the world works sadly.
You also have to consider that these kinds of people are master manipulators.
Yep , sorry , didn’t expect this much answers , I always get one or two 😅
I agree. But when you see someone else acting immoral it’s hard not to lose respect for them. But it’s possible to separate that off from true friendship. I got friends who have done some real scumbag things in their life. But come to think of it I’ve had lesser moments as well (which they know about). They didn’t judge me and if they did they did it from a caring standpoint. So why should I judge them?
But if you see some acting immoral that will ultimately end in their own self destruction then a loving friend will say something.
I think the idea is it might be a character problem... : )
It'd also make you a cheater by association
Only stupid people try to use the 'by association' claim, those are the kind of people i dont talk to.
Thank you for trying to offend my opinion, offense not taken. Have a joyful day
I can offend opinions? How is that physically possible? O wait i forgot your not very bright right?
All you say will he used against you, when you call someone stupid is because you yourself cannot comprehend, when you call someone as to not be bright is because are are a blight. In the real world association can tell where a person will end up. So yes you might be a cheater or will be soon enough. Keep those friends and you will see
If you’re not friends with them anymore or their partner then there is no need to rub your nose in business that’s not yours.
@HoratioCaine if my partner was cheating I'd want to know. So I don't see why I shouldn't help someone out? If you'd see someone stealing another persons purse, but the person didn't notice it, would you tell them eventhough it's not your business?
Lmfao the two does not compare at all. One is far more complex and you have no business starting things. You sound like the type of person to impulsively start drama
@HoratioCaine And you sound like a cheater.
I’m not I just prefer to mind my business especially if it doesn’t concern me. You can’t even come up with a logical comeback lol