What do you do to self sabotage your relationships?

[Kicks98]

Usually i know what i want of a man...
If a like someone and I see he is not like my kind or man...
I'm actually looking for to broke up... Trying to don't answer messages or being impolite.
At the beggining I told to them that I'm not looking for a relationship (because I don't like them) but it seemw that I said the opposite. And they want to go out with me.
Its funny because When i like someome i'm too honest and go for the boy... And guess what... They told me "i'm not interest in a relationship" what a mess hahahha

[taeh_ie2]

I’m really good at cutting off people in my life, and sometimes too good to the point I cut off people I need. and things that lead to that is my trust issues.

[lightbulb27]

yes, that's a good self sabotage reaction to uphold your self image of yourself that you are not worthy of love, or cursed yourself out of being intimate or having a family. Your sub conscious mind is the biggest #$@!@#@ in the room and is always right.

I would do the same for decades. Gotta heal the inner child, undo any curses, rebuild self worth and form a better image/goals in life rather than what was projected upon you.

[Variety_3-14]

I usually just list off the current problems with the relationship or my flaws, and convince them they’re better off without me. From there, I just wait for them to dump me.

[AliceTheNguyener]

Perhaps keep interrupting when your partner is speaking. Annoy them, and be rude to them. I want to say cheat on them but I have been cheated on before and it ruined me for a long time, so please don't do that. I would say the best thing is to simply be honest and breakup.

[Jjpayne]

I might get too choosey when Im looking for traits I like but I'm trying to stay open. I aim for a woman I like a picture of them seeing if her bio matches what I'm looking for. Basically a nerd that is open into beileving in a higher power is what I am looking for 😅

[ohshee]

I've done that to ,, I think down deep just not ready so we find ways to get out of it it,, kinda of funny in a way but not because I haven't really been in to it for about 2 years and now the last past few days it's like I think I'm ready. I don't know

[Inquisitive3]

It's probably a first with the guy I'm interested in but I feel a bit less... accomplished than him. He is highly educated and talented so for the first time, I'm a bit... intimidated. He's a good person though and doesn't use it against me. :)

[Hangry22]

The moment i feel i am falling for some guy, my mind starts a reflex mechanism to push the guy away. I get cold and bitchy and make the guy feel like he is just a friend and that i like other types of guys. Then i start to distance myself as if the guy doesn't exist. Then he gets the hint and leaves on his own. I have successfully ruined almost 5 of my potential relationships this way. More to come 😌

[abby172020]

well first of all i think it is your choice to do that but i also think i would be happy if i ever got a relationship because i am single and hate being single.

[Nazgol]

I did that as well, same thing as you did. I also have used swearing/curse words at the person and completely regret now... it makes me feel so bad that why I couldn't control my emotions and do this unnecessary stupid hurtful thing... I just think we as humans lose ourselves sometimes but we have to snap out of it and try to repair the mistake & hope the person at the other end will be forgiving enough

[Ally247]

If I notice myself getting close to someone I'll distance myself or push them away so I don't get attached

[JakeS00]

In the past I have put more pressure on assuming one thing that lead to it being false. I became distant. And it was causing an issue in the relationship. But hey, if the girl wasn’t acting shady, I wouldn’t have assumed something.

[bklynbadboy1]

I don't do any of that I want it to work for some reason it just doesn't maybe cause I always date broken girls and try to fix them. Question if you know now that you do this what are you doing to change this behavior?

[friendlymbflirty]

Overthink, over analyze, dont communicate, dont hold back my feelings and end up wrapped up in them.

[Anonymous]

I dont trust easy, im super shy, my family comes first, if I'm really feeling it I'm clingy ( especially if I don't see them much), I always have doubts that im doing something wrong or he's not happy with me. Im quick to throw the relationship away.

[Newhead]

I do this by being the best girlfriend ever, turns out they hate that.

[noscrubs2020]

Lots😅😅😅😅 break up with them. Not care about my appearance around them.

[cherieday]

My faulty character trait is that I have shit communication skills. I dont speak my mind cus I worry about how others will respond/react.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I stay even when I'm unhappy and say nothing about it. I'm working on that in therapy though,

[Anonymous]

I give short and sarcastic replies, most of them are ambiguous. The more egocentric they are the sooner they get pissed about this kind of communication. No or completely detached sex as addition is perfect way to get rid of them.

[iFarted]

I get stubborn during arguments and after we argue if it isn't settled I don't talk to her. I can go for a long time without talking to someone and be okay with that.

[winterfox10]

I used to do the same thing. I also used to portray myself in the worst light possible so that people would want to get away from me.

[BackAgain602]

I'm super guilty of doing the exact same thing. It took me years to let someone care for me and love me. I'm still learning in some ways. In all honesty; I HATE opening up emotionally. Always have.

[MannMitAntworten]

I plant bouncing betties within their front lawn and trip wires at their bathroom entry.

[Anonymous]

Over think absolutely everything. doesn't matter how small or irrelevant the detail or scenario is.

[FriendlyEnigma]

I just distance myself more and more until that person decides to leave me

[jizzyjay]

Thinking anything beyond what is literally shown or said is all self sabotageable

[Maspolomas]

In the middle of sex or foreplay get up and walk away and don’t finish

[pizzalovershouse]

Nothing i usely meet the crazy 1s like the 1 who threaten to beat my favoriite female friend

[townhouse]

nothing i dont reqiure sabatoge i require growing old with thwe person while isolating in a 4x8

[blonde_loves_yoga]

I jump into relationships too fast and have in the past dated some guys I later regretted

[iseekpinetrees]

In the past id just dump them

[DrunkAss]

In the past, I became cold and distant.

[JoeSchmoeCool]

I don't sabotage my relationships/friendships

[Unit1]

Right? Explain yourselves ladies 😂😂😂

[tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ]

Nothing, my mental state is fine.

[lexush14]

Create problems that isn't really there!!!

[sheikalana]

Never done that.

[Jmmmfi4]

I'm very very guilty of this

[Trooper205]

I mean, why would You want to do that?

[SavageGirl101]

Ghost them and left

[Eleni079]

I tend to be controlling.

[magiusX26]

apparently exist

[Anonymous]

Be myself. :')

[RyanK9b]

Thats unhealthy better fix it

[Not-karen]

Be my self.

[Coolmanxl]

Nothing

[Anonymous]

I act bitchy towards them.

[reixun]

Leave

[pocketman]

Ghost