Boyfriend's parents are against our marriage. Reason is different nationalities. How to convince them?

[kmala]

Do not please anyone , if he loves you he will fight thousand peoples to stay with you ,
Stop pleasing people , being an afghan getting a white girl is privilege because white girls are best in bed but otherwise aswell they call there partner baby , they do facial routine tp there partner aswell they put a lot of effort to make sure there is love in relation, they teach a lot new things , i have learned a lot from my ex , which i didnot learned from my previous relation which was for 5 years ,
In just 1 year dating white girl i am more smart now she teached me freedom , she told me my value , yeah when we brokeup it was hard and she went very aggressive on me did whatever she could , but still i know she was nice to me when we were together , i allwyas thanks her in my thoughts , well no one is better than or even same or nearby me but when we met she had a pure soul ,
So value yourself , what country you are now in?
I know you love her but if you have to prove or do somethimg where you think they will accept you in that way how to impress them bro its toxic for your health for your emotions, there is a lot you can do but bro if they say they can't accept you know what to say ,
You know the answer deep in your heart that its not good for emotions ,
In my case her dad and mom were very annoying , and they got successful in that , but i dont give... you know what...
I am in Australia i can get you married to a nice bou with nice accepting family.. i feel so much for you...
If he loves you he has to arrange everything nice otherwise you know the answer ,,,...
Please have self respect ,...
My cousins are 6,4
6,3 tall all are farmers nice people non judging families... they would love you like you were never loved before ,, you would feel like you are a cheeky kid in our families,,,, a lot of ornaments makeup nice clothes and more.

But the main. point is they would accept you...

Its your life your choices but we ain't here to impress anyone what if he says after marriage , my parents are continously interepting and make it toxic in mind games ,,,, and you have to leave or tolerate all the toxic thing allways...
I do support man a lot but seeing your situation i can say learn self respect self love... otheriwse it will be misery continously...

Dont judge me in any way but i can't see someone going through that because i know how it feels...

What does he do for work ,
Make kebab at first meeting if his parents say she did so lovely dinner she is lovely and encourage you you know what i am saying at some point in deep heart ,,,,,,
But dear vibes should be you are the best thing happened to this universe ,,,
Hopefully i may have helped you but its your life...
With our families you have to do gym and music games sports beach ,
Well there would be a lot of cousins with whom you would find a brother sister or sisters relation... but dont judge that i want to get my cousins amrried to white girl but white girls are special for our families ,,,,
Red carpet for white girls...

[jshm2]

Well... culturally you need to read up on etiquettes and mannerism of Arabs. Mainly so as not to come across as a "typical ignorant whitey".

The second best thing to do is speak to your SO about his parents and what they do, what they like and their interests etc. Then steer the conversation that way when talking to his parents.

People tend to get on with people who have similar interests.

Think of this as your job interview. They want to see if you're able to do your research and presentation on why you should get the "job" of being in their family.

[Hangry22]

Arabs are usually really conservative and cannot accept race mixing. I don't know how your boyfriend's family is but if you're meeting them, dress modestly and feminine i guess. If you could cover up your whole body, that's the best. A hijab will work too. Even if you do all this, there's a high chance they will hiss at you just because of your race. Ask your boyfriend about what his family likes, the traditions and language. You should act submissive and like a sweet girl

[Alyssa11]

Arab families are very hard to deal with, and I am telling you because I come from one!

You need to focus on your boyfriend and the fact that HE loves you. Try to be polite with his family, but don't expect too much, to be honest with you.

[jaybee281]

I'm half lebanese - Lived there for 15 years - even though I'm a born Christian I know a lot about how arab muslims would like their women to be - Virgin (never ever mention other men), housewife (get the idea across their brains that you know how to cook and do laundry and dishes and...), Show that you're willing to serve your husband (he asks for something you do it, you don't get involved when just men are talking), When you meet them wear very very respectful (i can't find a more suitable adjective at the moment) clothes, laugh at what they laugh, you can mention your job if you have one but if you have a job and ain't a housewife they'll kick you out - Never talk over him (boyfriend) - Never tell him what to do even if you mean good - If you have sexy social media pics please don't bring that up like literally break your phone if they ask you about it - Basically act like an obedient repressed yet somehow happy prude.

[kingofthellamas]

My advice is ignore the parents. Let them come to you. If he is so controled by his parents, consider when will that change? Will he , and by extension you, live the rest of you life under the control and preferences of his parents?

No no no.

You must ignore his parents and he must prove he is a man in his own right. Ignore the parents. They must bend to you. Do not bow and scrape to them.

Don't assume you have no power. Do not give your power away. Rise up and take control. Insist they come to you and make sure he agrees. Otherwise he will always be controlled by them and he will expect you to submit to Thier control too. I say again, no no no.

[Not_Average]

They honestly need to just fuck off and realize that they don’t control their grown ass man of a son. One of my biggest pet peeves is overtly controlling parents who adds unnecessary tension to a relationship. You be your best self and don’t feel as if you need to suck up to them.

[Levin]

It's really not for you to pander to bigotry or discrimination.

Just be courteous and polite, and be yourself.

In terms of acting any way, that would naturally be diminishing. If they are going to take a distaste to you on account of your race, ethnicity or religion, then there is nothing you can say to convince them.

Personally, I wouldn't pander to anybody. Frankly, if they wanted to be racist fucktards, then they can go and fuck themselves.

[Anonymous]

There isn't anything you can do, you either accept that his family will alienate you and marry him, or dont marry him. Though if his family practices islam i would strongly advise against marrying him on the grounds that your civil rights will be gone.

[ohshee]

You dont,,, you just be yourself,, you except them you respect them you love them ,, in time when they see who you are by the things you say and do and believe in then n they will let you in ,, and what ever you do don't take it to heart most parents still think there kid is 5 and no one will ever be good enough for there child weather it's a son or daughter

[slatyb]

Where are you planning to live if you should get married? If you travel with him to an Islamic country he may decide to stay and keep the children and you will have little recourse.

[OmNomaly]

Take deep breaths and be calm. Be yourself and be good. Even if they want to be nasty. Be polite and show respect. Says a hell of a lot about your character.

[andreasderjuengere]

Arabs are basically Barbarians (compared to real cultures) - the 'rich' ones included.
If you did not grow up among them, you'll never really fit in or find a way to respect or to tolerate their ways.
Sounds tough - but you better forget the idea.
( -speaking about the Arabian peninsula- )

[Shubhamgupta]

Meet their parents annymously and join their company for impressing them and dig out the history of the parent might be you will find a bad incident happened with them or in their family by your nation that's why they are against your marriage.

[chHaynes]

You can tell them they need to mature they need to stop being little children and wise up if the guy is a good guy and treats her right it makes good money he should be all right in my book don't care what skin he is or nationality

[dandiecandie]

Be yourself! They need to like you for you and if they don't and your boyfriend does not chose you then he is dumb.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Seems not worth the trouble. If they’re in western country they should try to accommodate you not the other way around.

[Avicenna]

All you can do is be polite and respectful. Spend your time primarily talking to the female family members.

[Anonymous]

Please be careful, you are playing with fire. I'm originally from an Arab-majority country and marrying a Muslim Arab is a risky gamble. They will control you, and if you don't obey them, they will seek revenge.

[jimmy2]

Ohhh i bit. The only way is to be converted Yo Muslim. Right now they see you as a infide. Be careful i am afraid much sorrow if you continue down this path of live.

[Colosas]

my advice is just stay focus not to parents always or only. but about you & your boyfriend if you already doing what you can do to become good to them just continue be good to them until you get merried & you'll see they might accept you someday let said even not

[Whtevernever]

My personal feeling on this is that it's your boyfriends problem helping you navigate this as it's his family. Surely you should play ball, but if he's not working with you then you just dont do it. You already have him what do you need them for?

[Wewladdy]

You should accept that mixing breeds is never a good idea.

[Anonymous]

They are conservative. Just be polite to earth to get a bit soft corner. But I don't know if this would work. What about your religion? They are highly religious.

[Anonymous]

Any Arab guy is lucky to get a white girl , it would be different the other way around so I don’t know what their problem is, just show them the real you

[GAGSucksBalls1]

Are you dating him BECAUSE he's arab, or are you dating him, and he just so happens to be arab

[Anonymous]

It may sound bad for you right now, but you will thank them in some years. The religion of love is incompatible with the western culture.
Ps. It's weird you are looking for chauvinism.

[vald9inches]

What is their religion?

[NYCQuestions1976]

You're in a no-win scenario.

[Derrick_14]

Let stick together until they're notified lol

[Anonymous]

Fuck Muslims and their shitty oppressive culture.